I have been married 10 yrs now,the last 5 really bad.But i have never even thoufght of cheating even though we have had a completely sexless relationship for 3 yrs.By this i mean no touching,kissing,holding hands ect...Now about 3 months ago my husband decided we were no longer together,just living in the same house because of money and the kids.I have always stayed at home and will be starting collage in the spring so i can get a decent job.After hubby decided we were not together anymore he started going out and not coming home sometimes all nite.When i would ask him about it he says its not my buissness.So a few months ago he went out and my sister offered to keep the kids.I went out with a friend where there were about 60 people .I met a very nice man there and we ended up spending the nite since my friend and i were both drunk.I slept in this guys bed but nothing happened,he knew the situation and was a real gentleman.Well i visited him several times and we have done nothing but kiss.He makes me feel so good about myself and just told me today hes in love with me.My husband also decided he wants to work things out and has really been triing.But i just dont feel anything for him anymore.I know all people put on a good front when first meeting someone and i really dont know what to do.I honestly dont love my husband anymore,this man has made me realize at least that,but i couldnt make it without him since im in school.I dont think a furture with this other guy is in the cards either since he doesnt make much money(money isnt inportant but nessasary to live and for the time being im not working)but he seems like everything i want in a man.Hes a nondrinker(my husband aN ALOholic)and hes very big on family values,we really have alot in common.I know if im not going to leave my husband the affair needs to stop but i just dont know how to give him up without going back into my bleak,depressing lifestyle.Just the thought of living without his compliments and friendship hurt me a great deal.What can i do?