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i asked god to give me A SIGN AS TO WHAT TO DO..i was supposed to meet my friend tomorrow because he had a 3 day break from work and god has spoken loud and clear..my van broke down yesterday so now i wont be seeing my friend..to me thats a clear sign to end things before we got sexual...i have not contacted him in 3 days.should i contact him at all?he called our mutual friend several times looking for me since he doesnt know where i live or have my number.should i tell him its over?i feel bad for him because i know he cares alot for me and hes all alone yet i have my family..but im worried if i talk to him i will be tempted?

for being so nice in your replys. I agree with all of you and im just so confused.My husband and i have had many problems over the years and i stayed mainly because of the kids who are 7 and 4.To the outside we are a good family,we rarley argue but also never show any affection for each other.We have been sleeping apart for 3 yrs now because of my weight gain,hubby says.Now all of a sudden he expects everything to be great again and he has been wonderful.But i just am not into the relationship,to much heatache has happened.But i think i owe it to my children to at least try again.How can i let go of my feelings for this other guy?And how should i tell him its over?The reason for the school is because i dont want to have to stay in this marraige,which is how i feel now becauise i couldnt support my kids on my own.So school is very inportant to me.

I have been married 10 yrs now,the last 5 really bad.But i have never even thoufght of cheating even though we have had a completely sexless relationship for 3 yrs.By this i mean no touching,kissing,holding hands ect...Now about 3 months ago my husband decided we were no longer together,just living in the same house because of money and the kids.I have always stayed at home and will be starting collage in the spring so i can get a decent job.After hubby decided we were not together anymore he started going out and not coming home sometimes all nite.When i would ask him about it he says its not my buissness.So a few months ago he went out and my sister offered to keep the kids.I went out with a friend where there were about 60 people .I met a very nice man there and we ended up spending the nite since my friend and i were both drunk.I slept in this guys bed but nothing happened,he knew the situation and was a real gentleman.Well i visited him several times and we have done nothing but kiss.He makes me feel so good about myself and just told me today hes in love with me.My husband also decided he wants to work things out and has really been triing.But i just dont feel anything for him anymore.I know all people put on a good front when first meeting someone and i really dont know what to do.I honestly dont love my husband anymore,this man has made me realize at least that,but i couldnt make it without him since im in school.I dont think a furture with this other guy is in the cards either since he doesnt make much money(money isnt inportant but nessasary to live and for the time being im not working)but he seems like everything i want in a man.Hes a nondrinker(my husband aN ALOholic)and hes very big on family values,we really have alot in common.I know if im not going to leave my husband the affair needs to stop but i just dont know how to give him up without going back into my bleak,depressing lifestyle.Just the thought of living without his compliments and friendship hurt me a great deal.What can i do?