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Can I ask who broke up with who? or was it mutual?

Can anyone give me any advice on this??

I would love to get back together but if that can't happen I would genuinely like to be friends with him. We were very good friends and I really miss talking to him. I would love for us to just go out and have a good time together and forget about all the negative stuff that has gone on. But I'm scared that he may have just said he'd meet me so he wouldn't hurt my feelings but I also don't want to miss the opportunity of spending some time with him if he wants to aswell. At this stage I really can't tell with him because one minute he's asking me if I'll go on msn and chat with him and he was being really enthuastic about us meeting up, which leads me to think he still wants to be in contact but then he didn't meet up with me when he had the chance so I don't know what to think.

My ex and I made arrangements to meet up after not seeing eachother for 6 months, it was an LDR (he broke up with me saying he was unsure if he wanted to be in a relationship) and I happened to be in his area so I asked if he'd like to meet up so he said "yeah I'll be away on the Friday at a friends wedding but we can meet saturday night instead if you like" (he even text me later that evening asking if I could go on msn to have a chat - but I couldn't) I agreed that would be perfect but was a bit worried I wouldn't hear anymore from him, but when it came to that Friday he text and asked what I'd like to do. We spoke for a few hours that day while he was at the wedding party and he seemed to be looking forward to seeing me. The next day came and I got another text from him saying he was so sick from all they had to drink at the wedding that he wouldn't be able to meet up with me. I was so disappointed but said there was no problem, he asked if I could meet him the next morning instead but I was leaving early the next morning. This was 3 weeks ago and we haven't spoken since. Do you think he just made an excuse?, part of me thinks he genuinely was too sick but another part thinks if that was me no matter how sick I was I would have met up with him. The reason I'm asking really is we were starting to become friends again and I will be in his country again after xmas and I don't know if I should let him know or not. I don't want to make a fool of myself but I would love to just meet up and have a chat with him.

I know what you're saying but I just feel like if he cared wouldn't he want to contact me? but then again if he didn't care why did he suggest that we have a chat when he got home from work? he could have just left it. I'm just venting and trying to understand where he's coming from that's all. He's probably just waiting till closer to the time to contact me.

My ex (he broke up with me and it was an LDR) asked me to let him know the next time I'd be in his town, so I sent him an e-mail and he replied straight away wanting to arrange a day to meet, which we did. We spoke for a few hours and as usual it was like old times, I can't explain it but I get the feeling there's still something there when I speak to him. He asked me if we could have a chat on msn aswell that night when he got home from work and I explained I couldn't because my computer isn't working at home but I asked him to send a text if he could, he replied with "no problem talk to you later" and I haven't heard a thing. I don't get it! He was the one that wanted to chat, I know texting might be too expensive seeing as though as we live in different countries but if that was the problem he should have said it. I'm so confused I don't know where I stand with him or whether I should even meet up with him now.

Hi Sparkle1, thanks for your advice. I think you're right about me being concerned, I am but I feel I'll never be able to move on until I see what he wants from me. It's make or break time for me at this stage. I am a bit nervous he might only want a fwb relationship with me and that's why I'd prefer to go out somewhere with him rather than go back to his place.

I'm gonna be in my ex's neighbourhood next week. The last time we spoke he asked if I would text him when I'm there, saying that "it would be cool to meet up". He broke up with me saying he was unsure if he wanted a relationship. I know he has been very confusing with mixed signals towards me - check out my previous posts if you don't know my story- and most of you would advise me not to meet up with him but I have made up my mind that I am going to. It's just something I feel I have to do. I don't even know why I just feel if I don't I will regret it, I've no false expectations I know he more than likely just wants to be friends or maybe I'm afraid even fwb but if that's the case I will know and put him out of my life forever. He's been so unpredictable lately though he mightn't even answer my text if I do contact him. So I need advice from anyone who maybe has been through this. Should I just send him a casual text and leave it to him to suggest a meet up? I'm also worried he might suggest me coming to his place instead of going out somewhere. I know I'm not exactly painting him in a good light here but he is a good guy and I know he still has some feelings for me, I would love to get back with him but I doubt that's what he wants. I just really need to know why he's been initiating contact with me and why he wants to meet up, if we can still get on well and be friends I would be happy with that aswell. Any advice would be gratefully appreciated.

I know exactly what you mean Captain34. My ex and I had made plans to meet up in a few weeks but he's acting so confused since. I don't know whether to let him know when I'm in his country now, or if I do will things be weird between us or does he even want to meet up. My head is wrecked but I feel I have to meet up with him. Have you bumped into your ex since?

Hey Captain34, thanks for your advice in my thread. I agree with you, I think you should keep doing what you are doing. Be nice, fun and friendly, that's what I've decided to do when I meet up with my ex next month. Best of luck

Thanks guys. So I definitely shouldn't meet up with him then? I just keep thinking that it's "make or break" time now and I have to talk to him face to face to see how he really feels. It's impossible to have proper conversations with someone over e-mail and text messages. I don't know I just feel so powerless, I always felt good when I did NC because I never let myself down by chasing after him but stupid as it is I keep thinking he must have some feelings for me if he won't just let me go after all of this time.

My ex of almost a year has been in contact with me lately. I'm sure alot of you know my story by now but here it is again anyway: I was his first proper gf, he broke up with me saying he didn't know if he wanted a relationship, I was shocked and hurt so went NC straight away. A few months later he started contact again saying he'd been thinking about me and thought he made a mistake but when it came down to it he still didn't know what he wanted. The last time I met with him he tried to kiss me and I stoped him asking if he knew what he wanted and he said no. So I initiated NC again and moved on, started dating again until a month ago he started contacting me again at first it was just casual e-mails but then it turned flirty. He asked me if I'd be going to where he lives anytime soon (it was an LDR) I said I would in the next few weeks, he told him to let him know when I'm there and said jokingly he'd take me out if I came back to his place after. So the contact was going great, he would send kisses and we would talk for 3-4 hours at a time then all of a sudden nothing so I asked him what was going on and he said he just wanted to be friends! I dunno what it is with him every time we start to get close he gets scared and runs off, his contact definitely wasn't just friendly. I don't know what to do when I get over there now, I think I'll always think "what if" if I don't so I'm thinking just meet up with him and be friendly and if he wants more he'll let me know. What do you think?

Can anyone else give me some advice on this...

Because when it comes down to it he dumped me, I think I will say something to him though I just don't know what exactly to say.

Thanks for your opinions, what do you think I should say? I just don't wanna seem needy