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Like I said above I feel that the other comments are all wrong. You have been wiht this woman for three years, maybe, even contemplating marrying her, and in that case sexual pleasure on both parties is VERY important. I never goit the feeling that you relationship is based soley on sex and for a peson to think that yours is on your memo is crazy. For some advice... I am a woman and feel very strongly that it's not men that please us, we take actions to please ourselves, but of course you guys help. What I mean is that a guy could literally do all he could for hours and hours and hours but if there is something wrong with us, say, stressed at work, school, debt, it's just not going to happen. I don't think that the problem is with you, I think it is with her. While us woman grow up, some, not all, do things like self exploration to find out what we like and how we like it, basically masterbation.Does your girlfriend do this or have evr done this? You might want to ask her. Alot of woman that I ahve talked to about there problems of climaxing never explored themseleves. If a woman doesn'know how to climax by herself it is next to impossible for a man to know, capisce?If she hasn't done this, funny, but ask her to. If she feels downright uncomfrtobale doing this buy herself, she might have issues with sex, meaning, possible sexual abuse in childhood, or grew up in an enviorment that looked down upon self exploration. I guarantee that if a woman can please herself by herslef, there should be no reason that she copuldn't direct you to do the same. Us woman, have to be completely comfortable for us to "work". Try gettting her as realxed as possible with things like massage oils, maybe even toys, but that might be to much for her right now, and slowly and GINGERLY do small things toward her and literally ask "how does this feel, etc, etc". Focus on her and completely on her during this time, don't worry about you. If this works you have alot of time for both. Basically, find out what honeslty tickles her, what doesn't and when you find that "thing" go for it but vetry, very, slowly. The jack hammer effect that some men can have just doesn't work. We are very sensitive down in the areas and fragile. Not all woamn are the same but,I don't know if I should write this, go for the clitoris with whatever mean posisble for her to enjoy it. I have read that the clitoris is the woman's version of the tip of you, evty sensitive and has over 3, 000 nerve ending. I hope this helps, I am a woman and I know how we are. Good luck and I appluded your concern for her. It shows that you are a true man. Remember for yopu to find out what works for her, get her completely comfortable and focus on her, and only her, this is not your time. You will get yours in the end. Sex, I don't car what people say is not everything, but it's important. How else do you show your spouse or partner that they mean everything to you. Good luck and good exploring. Also, if this does work, you might have opened pandora's box, have fun. Good luck, Jenny

I am sorry to pass judgement so quick on the last reply but all that hit me was "Wow, this person doesn't have a clue what there are talking about."The person has probably never been married. Me, on the converse I say hang in there. You have been with this man for seven years and he is the father of your child', that's not something you just throw away. I would ask him to clarifiy even though men can be some out of tune with their own feelings... it's it crazy. Either they are lying to us or they just don't plain know. I haven;t figure out which one it is yet. BUt, I would set and push for a date. You wouldn't want to be that woman down the road with a child that the father is no where to be found or is whishy washy, for lack of a better term. One thing you might want to consider and I have heard and seen this in the past, is that may be, just maybe, your boyfriend hasn't sowed his oats and wants to explore. I know that's not what you want to hear but it is the nature of the beast, I think. You guys have been together since highschool, so he might not have had a chance to be with other women. It might or might not be the case, just something to keep in the back of your head. In conclusion, tey to figure him out more and what he really wants, push and try, try, to set a date. You shouldn't be just standing by with his child waiting for him to committ. Good luck. I really hope that helped or at least gave you some other perspective. Men are funny aren't they? My thoughts, Jenny

Ok, Ok yah you can hate me and I wouldn't blame you one bit, Like I said I was that girl a few years ago and I will give you the truth unabrigded. No bullshit. The things that she is doing to you sounds alot like what I did. Same thing great guy but couldn't really commit. My thoughts are probably going to be jumbled because so many are running throught my head but just hang in there. I think, and yes, I am speaking from experience, she does care for you, she does love the time you guys spend together and you will probably be the best guys she will ever meet,only to kick herself in the rear end later in life. I can believe you are a great dude, you seem very sincere. In my opinion, from experience, she is all of the above but for some crazy reason you, I am sorry to say, she is looking for something else. Not meaning better, mind you. The reason why she keeps coming to you is because of the great conversations you share and the good times... heck it sounds like you guys are pratically best friends. She cheated on you once and because of the experience I am talking throught, she might do it again. I am sorry. I read alot of these responses of these websites and bless there hearts for the uplifting positive responses, but I call it like I see it. Also, she saying that she never called oyu because she was afraid of you not excpeting her back... I am a girl, that sounds like alot of b.s. I am only 24, only two years older than you so I don't think that there is a huge generation gap that might be fuzzing my response. I wouldn't recommend getting back together with her or even chating with her at all. Yah, sounds mean and cold hearted but this is what, I am even willing to bet money, will happen. You guys will get together for a very "friendly" lunch, then you guys will talk about the "good ole'times" and eventually and this to me seems natural, you start contemplating getting back together or "what if's start"occurring. During all this you might met an even better gal who will excpet and rejoice in the love that you give her. Also, she cheated on you once... do really think that she respects you or values your love, probably not. Move on my friend and yah, call me a b*tch, but drop her like a bad habit. If you keep chatting with her no matter how plutonic it might be... you guys where friend then loversa nd of course engaged to each other, I doubt that can be reversed. She is looking for something else in a realtionship. I applaud you for being a real gentleman to her, since you where her first boyfriend. Meet other gals and even sow your oats if you want. Enjoy like and don't waste your time with her. The truth in my opinion, Jenny

There si an old saying that my mother told ma and that I never forget... think about this one First time shame on you... second time shame on me. Basically, it's your fault you let this happen. He might care about you in some small way but has NO respect for you. You are wasitn your time with him. There are no if's and's or but's about this... you are wasting your time. Find a person that you can share your love with... you obviously have a heart of gold or are self destrutive.Drop him like a bad habit!!!!!!!!!!

First off, I am not Muslim but I get the feeling it has nothing to do with that. I also don't know much about the Muslim religion so I could be saying this out of ignorance. Ask yourself and even write it down... why would you wan to cheat on your husband. You said it was partially becasue of a lack of attention. Have oyu told him about this. Have you even plain out asked him for some more? You probably feel that your husband is ignoring your concerns, right? The only thing I can think of for you to do is talk tohim until you eyes turn blue. If that still doesn't work and you are convinced that you will cheat on him... I would say then, and only, then divorce him. A t least that way you will have a clear concsience leaving the marriage and maybe even remain friends. Don't give him a leg to stand on as far as being "the bad guy". This sounds terrible but in this way you at least can say you tried, right?

I myself am a woman that has only been married for less than two years and I would never imagine doing that to my husband... we have other issues, that's why I am here. What i wonder about and I will be honest, is that if she even still wants to be with you. Sorry, I wish that I had more of an uplifting reply. Have you asked her what she expects from you, your relationship, and especially your marriage? It seems has if there is "something"more out there that she desires. Whether it be crazier sex, more romance, etc. etc. There is no reason that she couldn't go out with her girlfriends and have a good time. I personally think that it is a healty way to be married. The way she is acting doesn't sit at all well in my stomach... I honestly believe ther's more that she wants. I don't know what though. I think that she is trying to push you away. I don't mean to be cold hearted... but I am a woman, I know how we can be. The only thing I think that you can do is ask, and ask, and ask some more of what she wants out of your marriage. I she is adamant that nothing is wrong and thta she is fine the way things are she is lying. Is there a common ground to the guys that she flirts with? Maybe hair, style, contanance? Have you gained weight? This might sound superficial... but there's a lacking somewhere. All you need to do is find it! Good luck.