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  1. Owen, Mate, I don't know how much help I'm gonna be because by the sound of it I'm in a very similar situation. It's been raking accross my head for sometime if I should let my relationship of 2 and a half years go because quite frankly I can't see myself getting married and don't want to waste someone elses time that is special to me even. It's kust that over time people and situations do change. That's a fact. In fact, I actually typed in google search "girlfriend breakup" and yours was the 2nd one that came up. Well enough of me. Time to be hypocritical. OK, by the sound of it you really do care about this girl. I think there are specific people for a time. Perhaps 3 years ago you were right for each other because of what was going on in each others life and that it all seemed perfect. You have to ask yourself why you feel different now. Let me ask you this bro - what was it that attracted you to her in the first place and do you still feel it today? Do you see yourself getting married oneday (not specifically to your partner, but anyone)? Because I know the M word scares the hell out of me. Men are always bagged out for lack of committment, but I don't think that's the whole truth. We are just afraid of not just screwing up our own lives but someone elses. Anyway, your partner is placing alot of pressuere on you to ask about marriage. And you shouldn't have to feel this pressure. You treat her good right. You do all the right things, Yet you still feel pressured and somewhat guilty. If marriage wasn't mentioned would you be stoked with your relationship - because men don't look as far ahead as women. We have a 50% divorce rate in this country - and I know yours in the US is similar - how much pressure is that. Look there's no way I'm gonna tell you what to do but eventually it will come to a point. I think you have to weigh it all up. If you are happy together now and she stimulates you than why can't you be happy together in 20 years. If you're not and holes are appearing than can you give and comprimise to fix these things. If you are not willing than perhaps it just wasn't meant to be, and you should not feel guilty. It is your own life and we only learn from mistakes and experience. Hope this help a little. Jono
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