I just found out my wife has been lying to me about several things when she goes out alone with her friends. She always claims she doesn't remember what goes on at the bars when she goes out. Then I found out a lot of what is happening there that she has been flat out lying to me about. She told me that when she dances with other guys there isn't any touching going on, and I'm mostly fine with that. I just found out that there is a lot of touching going on when she's dancing with these guys, but she is still claiming that she doesn't ever remember what happens and that all she can remember is what song was playing and not who or how she is dancing. When we went out together with our friends a couple of weeks ago I tried to put my arm around her and she pushed me away but when the other guys did the same thing she's fine with it. She danced with me for one song, and then told me to go away because she wants to dance with the other guys. Then she's dancing exactly how she told me she doesn't. And it's with a guy I do not trust at all. I've told her that, but she says she trusts that he's not going to do anything except dance with her. I just get so frustrated with all of this, and she loves to make me more pissed off by telling me she's going to go out and sleep with all these guys, and how much she likes it when they grind into her when they're dancing. She is always tring to get me pissed of now before she goes out. And now she's making plans to go out when she knows I can't go. She tells me she trusts me and wouldn't care if I was dancing with other women like that. I have trust issues from a previous relationship, where my girlfriend cheated on me with one of her guy friends. Also, these guys my wife's out dancing with find her very attractive, and I'm affriad with all the drinking that's going on something might happen. It only takes two drinks for my wife to lose it. I just don't know how to make myself trust these situations. This whole thing is making me sick and I have no idea how to get over it. If anyone has any suggestions, please let me know, so this doesn't destroy my marriage.
