I think this comes down to the simple fact that you don't trust your wife anymore after this. You can't have a successful marriage if you don't trust someone because once trust is gone it rarely comes back. Not only that but it bleeds into other parts of the relationship as well. If she is hiding this, what else is she hiding kind of stuff. I get that you are probably in shock that is happened and that your wife could do something like this, but the person she was before the affair is gone now. I went through something similar and I just kept wanting to go back to the way we were before the affair, but it just never happened. I think that's where you are now. If it goes anything like my experience did over time it will be come more and more obvious that things will never go back to the way they were. The fact is she lost your trust and has no interest in earning it back. If I were you I would start the divorce process because IMO it's only a matter of time before she does.
