kirsty

Why are people still replying when this person will either have had her baby or aborted it by now?? best of luck to her whatever she did but it was 2 years ago nearly!!!!

out of the mouth of a babe................................................ i understand where you are coming from saying all this but you yourself are only 13 and have yet to learn how the world works!!!

I apologise if I offended you but in your own words you said men are pigs, that just made me think you must lust or something more to be saying it. At the very least its disrespectful, how would you feel if your girl was doing the same back openly? Would you accept that she couldnt help it because she was female and it was natural? Maybe so but we are all different. I didnt mean offence though, thanks for your replies. Makes me appreciate what I have got a little more.

Thanks down-in-a-hole that helped me a lot. Eeven though all these other guys pretty much say that they do lust after other women then your answer showed me you are NOT all alike and that even though you know whn a woman is attractive then you dont think anything more about it. Thats what my bf says he does, and to be fair he doesnt stare at other women, but because I am looking for it thn I will catch him glancing at another woman and feel so hurt and upset by it. I will try and keep your answer in my head though, thanks again x

Hiya again Can I just ask if anyone has issues with their partner looking and admiring the opposite sex? I hate it when I think my boyfriend finds another woman attractive and I feel cheated by the thought of him looking at other women when he is out with his mates. What goes through a blokes mind when they look and how to othr ladies feel about this? Would help to hear your views? Thanks

I think thats quite likely although you can never tell. He just sounds like someone making a fresh start and maybe when he has found himself a litle more then you can start to rbuild what you have but dont hold your breath and in the mean time live your life, you will seem mor attractive to him if you are out enjoying yourself x

Hi, I think Swing Fox was very right in what he said, you should think about how you would feel if this girl you "say you love" had cheated on you with two other guys (and whats to say she hasnt?). The second comment is that if you had ever been serious about giving it another go with her then you would have been honest with her and told her about these girls or just not done it. I think you should move on and let her find someone who wants her and her only. Being cheated on is a very painful thing and if you care about her then dont put her through that pain. You say you werent really together so you wonder if it counts but if you thought she would be fine with it then i doubt you would be here asking for advice! Good luck Kirsty x

the was good advice, wish it was so easily said as done, i manage fine at times but then at others i just completely blow up, its lilke an anger and hurt inside me that boils and i cant help but say something (or a lot of things). Its not nice but neither is feeling so hurt by it. Thanks again tho x

Hello, I wonder if anyone has any thoughts on my problem. I will make it very brief! I have been hurt badly in the past and now have been with my current bloke for year and half. Howevere I always think he is eyeing up other girls, I see him looking and it hurts me very much as I compare my self to them and feel total lack of respect from him. If I confront him then he says hes not looking in that way and we row. It only seems to be the skinny pretty girls he looks at but again he says its in my mind. Any ideas please?

well now you have got me thinking that I did summat wrong and I know I didnt!! maybe the missing part wasnt me but maybe it was the fact that my bloke couldnt fuction without alcohol, or maybe the fact that he used his fists to talk to me?............not always so black and white!! Yes I would MUCH rather be told but above all I would rather it didnt happen and if the urge was there then I would rather my other half ended it first which would hurt but not as much. How to rebuild the general trust in blokes has been the hardest part, four years later and a lovely blok but still havent learnt to trust him or anyone else, BIG problem along with the total deflated self esteem, I dont understand how one person can b so callous with anothers feelings

Hi, in reply to your comment about the fact that you would never cheat then thats exactly what by br has old me from the start but it doesnt mak it any easier to believe I am sure you will find someone to appreciate your qualities very soon though x

Hi I think part of the reason you havent got over her is because you are still in contact with her maybe what you need is a totally clean break from her? My two past boyfriends cheated on me, the first was quite young but the second repeatedly did it, and when I askd him a month ago (we have been split up for over 2 years now) why he did it then he said simply because he was stupid and I did nothing to deserve it. It was good to hear but at the same time I though - well if I did nothing to deserv it then whats to stop it happening again? It is now runing my relationship I am in as I have no trust and constantly think my man will cheat on me The only advise I can give you is that you need to move on and put this in the past. Dont let it change your view of love, you will find perfect love when you are least expecting it. Dont worry about what she is doing, she is your past and thats where she should stay I think. I hope this was o some help, i dont think I have answered all you asked but I have tried to sympathise and give you my point of view. Chin up x

Hi, I have posted here a while ago and got good replies so hope you can help again? To make it really short then I have been cheated on by past boyfriends for years and years, I now have a nice bloke who I have been with one and a half years, trouble is he seems too good to be true. He is good looking, funny and wants everyone to be his friend but I just dont know how o handle someone like that. I constantly think he will cheat on me I know he isnt my past but it affects me now. We are due to move to where my family live next week and I am thinking of telling him I dont want him to come simply because I am so afraid of being hurt. What should I do

Thank you for your help. I think in my heart that this bloke is a good one, the only thing I really dont like is the smoking cannabis but I know a million other blokes with worse faults. One thing that I wory about is that I have fallen in love with the idea of a good man not the actual man himself, but I think thats just my mind thinking too much as usual! A self survey sounds like a good idea. Thank you again. Like the animations

Thank you for taking time to try and help me out here. Talking in a public place seems like a good plan, help to keep the emotions down as they always run high when we try and talk, I feel he doesnt listen to what I am saying and he feels I am getting at him. Its also to do with the fact that he says that I am more intelligent than him and he finds this threatening at times. Also he says I am better at argueing but thats just me being female i guess ;o) I do think a lot of my feelings are from inside me. I went to a counsellor and I didnt find that useful as she basically just listened to me and then repeated everything I told her. It has ben suggested that I would benefit from psychological help but I have been messed around by the authorities and have moved house as i mentioned so I am going to try and get help like that after our holiday in summer. I think it would help me. He shows no signs of abuse or unfaithfulness. He even says hat he tries not to look at other girls when he knows it will make me feel bad. Thats one thing I find very hard to deal with. I take it as a sign of disrespect and I feel that he is finding them more attractive than me which hurts me and makes me more insecure. Do you have any further advice about taking control of my mind? This I know is a major thing for me, my mind is often controlled by thoughts and emotions, not just where my bf is concerned but family and friends too. I worry a lot too. I would love to be the one who controlled my thoughts not them controlling me.