I have been living with my boyfriend (who is currently in the process of going through a divorce) for four months. He is currently unemployed but has several prospects for contract work. Until recently, he has done several sleep overs (leaving by 2pm Saturday, returning late Sunday) at his friend's apartment to collaborate on projects they are bidding on. This friend has a full time job and also had a live in girlfriend up until recently. My boyfriend insists that he does not enjoy this time away from me because his friend is not motivated or helpful. Not to mention, his cell phone does not usually have service in the apartment (there was a one time exception to this rule). My boyfriend and I have only been together for 6 months and I find these weekend retreats are very damaging to our relationship. I am finding it very difficult to trust him and I am not sure if this is normal.
I should probably mention that he neglected to tell me about his marriage, two months into the relationship his wife called me from his cell phone. He has been very open about my questions regarding his marriage and wife, but my trust is damaged and I think these Saturday nights away are not helping. His friend lives within 20-60 minute drive (city traffic could make for a longer commute) and I think he should come home even if he is up until 2am working. If he lands this contract he may be spending more time there and I am not sure what I should think. What do you think? Does this all sound legitimate?
