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I guess I taught him to treat me really bad then... I accept it, but I didn't feel I should be demanding, he was supposed to be having a hard time after all. If I should be teaching lessons I would just ignore him if he spoke to me again, but it may not be necessary, I don't think he will. I rambled Thanks for the advice langford.

No, those things are not forgotten, and I don't think anybody would ask you to forget your baby. It has to do with not letting the experience bring you down or cause you fear and stress you can do without. It's great news you'll be seeing a doctor.

Bethany, your words are so accurate, I also suspect he's leaving those messages on MySpace to get a reaction out, but I also don't want to think he does things for me. There's this feeling that I shouldn't be waiting months for an apology or an explanation, I should walk away completely, then I feel so weak and wonder all sort of things like if I'm asking too much or not being a true friend. I don't want to settle as his "give all friend" anymore, but we were so similar, had so much in common, it took me years to find him, I panic when I feel I'll never have this chance again and maybe I threw it all away. Thank you very much for the advice, it makes sense he's the one that has to do some work for the friendship now.

I have a cousin who lost her baby in an accident, it was traumatic in many ways for her and she didn't like to talk about it but I found out that you really have to let your sadness over the loss out so you can heal properly. There are many things you can do to work on it (with a therapist) there's no need to struggle alone. I guess I have no real advice for you, but I can tell you that my cousin was able to get pregnant again (even if the accident was terrible) and she had an adorable baby girl afterwards. Try not to worry about this new baby, but visit a doctor, it's very important you are told everything is going well.

Thanks for replying. I don't know how I feel, in a way I feel I love him as much as you can when you don't know the person. He said he felt the same, so I don't know if he wasn't able to act like a caring friend because of his depression or because he's a selfish user. But yes, you are right, I should let him do the running.

I don't even know where to begin, this makes little sense because I never even met this person. I'll try to give a brief background, we started talking daily and he had severe depression issues so I tried to help him, that lasted 2 years, in that time I felt he used me for emotional support but I didn't care. He always complained about his life and how great other events were, he did thank me for the help but it was clear I wasn't doing much. He made promises to me about meeting or talking and he never followed through with them. Then, when I broke up with my boyfriend one of the things I got from him was a "I see you are about to break down but I have to go see a basketball game with my friends". It seemed like I was always used (can't tell, he was there many other times), and yet he said horrible things about everybody near him and those were the people he always gave time and stuff to. Well after I thought I had enough I sent him a rather nasty mail saying how I felt he had only taken advantage of me and not to call me his friend because I had been just his doormat. I never heard from him again and that was months ago. The problem is this, I have been visiting his MySpace and he sounds so miserable!, it's clear I fancy him and mixed with the lots of poems and things he has written about me (about taking me for granted) I feel like I want to apologize, maybe I was too harsh on him?, I feel bad that even if he has a lot of anger and sadness towards me he hasn't sent a reply, I can't tell if he is sincere, he thinks I let him down and broke his heart by making him believe I had been his friend, but I know the ball is in his court, what went on here do you think?. I'm confused, I don't know if I messed him up, if he is only a liar, a fake, a taker or if everything I said was uncalled for.

Thank you very much for your answers. But, the bf wouldn't have said if he didn't like the friendship I had or my comments, he encouraged me to be open about things, even if he didn't like them. As for feeling guilty I didn't, that's why I wondered if I should. The different points of view are very helpful, thanks again.

I seem to have heard a lot recently about online and emotional cheating and I'm now wondering if I did it. I had two LDR, one with my boyfriend the other with a friend, I never met my friend in person but before I started a relationship with my now ex I used to speak to my friend in a very intimate way, not sexual, but I called him "my dear" or "sweetness" and the like. When I got a boyfriend I asked my friend if it bothered him that I called him things and he said he didn't, but I stopped anyway, except from time to time I did call him gorgeous and the like, he did the same. My boyfriend knew of this friendship, he knew there was some "exhange of compliments" going on but I never told him I fancied my friend, I was with my boyfriend after all by my own choice, and I never used my friend to complain about my bf or for emotional support, my friend, however, did use me for that but I didn't mind because I had all my needs met by my boyfriend. I apologise if it sounds complicated, but I would like opinions, do you think it was considered cheating?. I've always been "overly friendly" with certain people, but never with an interest of getting a response, for example, I told my bf his dad, brother and sister were gorgeous but I of course wasn't interested in dating them, is it wrong?.

I understand. Let's say you accused him of stealing a pencil, would it be right? No, it's still a lie. "the terms of his probation are not that difficult to follow", Did he had the need to follow them?, no, he didn't force you to have sex with him. Would it imrpove your lives? Yours I don't know, his surely because the little people that know about it will know for sure he wasn't a criminal. He did made a mistake in trusting you, he's paying for that at a very high price, nobody would think he'll make that mistake again.

I'm new but I've been reading this forum for a long time, I respect the forum and thereforeeee will try to be respectful here too. "Strange" is a nice way of putting it, Collegegirl I think what you are thinking about is not only strange but really impossible, you know you accused him of raping you?, I don't know if you understand this but his life will never be the same, how do you know how much it affected him only because he talks to you and didn't kill himself?. If you want to show him your love it would be a good idea to come forward and accept you lied, tell the court you made everything up and he might be able to get that stigma out of his good name.