Just A Teen

Well I was in a relatinoship for 2 years and after that I knew I Couldn't be with that person.....And after seeing how my parents were only together for 6 months before getting engaged and only waiting like another 4 months, they are a very unhappy couple. My dad treats my mother like complete utter garbage. So I once said I dont see why they didn't wait longer because I think a good year and a half can really bring out a person, because the beginning is always best in a relationship. So of course you are going to want to charish that moment. Like Batya said is true with divorce now....My old relationship other believed in divorce a lot because the family's mom had divorced 4 times...So they always had that sense that it's okay to divorce.. I'm a very anti divorce, unless the person is seriously unhappy and never will be kind of thing? So the lecture was to give me a lesson about what truly ''marriage is'' which, if my parents is marriage then i dont want it...

Alright so after a few lectures by the parents I was wondering how long should a person be together before becoming married? Here's the reason I ask. After talking to a lot of older generations people in their 40's + most of them got married extremely early. My parents personally were only together 6 months and then 6 months of engagement, but they have been married for 25 years now. Divorce rates are insane these days, which isn't hard to believe. From the lectures I've received. its because the younger generations date too long before getting married, and after dating for 6 years and not having that commitment what keeps you from staying. It's a little rediculous I'm sure the dating world changes later on but, I couldn't imagine engaging someone only after 6 months and then marrying them. I've noticed the people that give these kind of lectures yes they have been together forever and are not divorced, but they have crappy marriages. Maybe it's just me? Any input?

Good luck Masari, I hope this next one will value and treat you better. Time and effort is a terrible thing to waiste

So my family came together for Christmas. Sister from Washington flew in, brother from a Youth Military Academy, both flew in. Im a junior in highschool and since they are one step ahead of me they both keep counciling (spelling) me, and it's getting really annoying. It' sucks being the youngest because they think they are better than me. But, this is the first year i don't have a outsider (ex. girlfriend, bestfriend, close friend) to help with the stuff. So even though my family is here, its just like empty and makin Christmas more stressful. I dont believe in God, Christ so Christmas is a little different for me, having super-catholic parents, and my dads on new pain medication so he's flipping out about everything (ex. hour long speech about chocolate candy / soda and such). But, anyway I'm trying to figure out a way to no feel so solitary even though my whole family is around, and a way to tell my older siblings to stop trying to act like they know everything. My future career I've done two years of research on it, talked to people who've done it, still doing it, and in the process, and my brother reads a pamphlet and tries to tell me that I dont know anything. It just gets on my nerves. Anyway hope you guys all have a great christmas / holiday break! I for one can at least be happy about school winter break being here

Oh jeez im doing the same thing...i think i will follow your advice bigthings it's been the only connection so far..

Exactly..I plan making a authentic book, with interviews from people who have been. Once I start getting a base to my book I will start to interview people. I relize that most people don't meet their partners to later on in life, but "It really isn't that important" explains why such a book would help, because present time it matters, maybe not in the future. In the future anyone who's willing to be interviewed and share their opinions would be greatly appreciated!

Hello, I'm a highschool student (17 y/o) who after a long year decided to write a book for fellow highschool students. I have this general feeling that peers my age take advice more from their friends or someone they know rather then a complete stranger women/man writing a book. Of course all teenagers have a sense that parents don't know how they feel. I understand that they once did it too, but times have changed a little bit and I figured I could help my fellow students. Wondering what eNotAlone members thought about this? I've written fictional books before but this book is more of an Index such as if your a helpless teen go to this page, and if your a jock that wants to settle down go here and such. Any advice or input would greatly be appreciated..Thanks! I've reposted this in the relationship section.

I understand where your coming from. I wasn't into talking about ''us'' till further in the relationship but, I would constantly find myself behind hours of talk about how some random person (not knowing) said something useless to billy joe bob which angered her second brother's sister in law's room mate which related to the 12th century poem of Alfazark blah blah blah...Yea its nerve racking and you can't help but want to strangle your lungs. The only thing I can say is learn to cope with it or find something that you are both into and talk about that. There has to be some kind of common ground in every relationship. If you don't let someone know one way or another that you don't like something then they will continuely do it because they feel its alright. Good luck man

I end up putting in more time in the morning on looking good, fresh shave cologone and such.. As well as coming up with excuses to touch you such as play fighting or going to your locker and when you open it taking something small out of it so I have an excuse to see you again. You'll notice you'll see him more then you used to.

It all depends. 1) If the girl is extremely clingy and annoying chances are I'll lay off the contact a bit more in hoping that she will stop liking me. 2) If the girl is just average and funny I'll go ahead and talk to her and such because its nice to have an ego boost, but somehow let her know I'm not intrested like talking about how my last ex made things hard and I wouldn't want to get in a relationship for a long time. 3) If the girl is just plain out creepy then I'll go ahead and avoid her. Hope I Helped

Well the thing is I was on a Muscle building diet.....and i would workout around 7:30-8:30 and go to bed around 10 and he told me not to excersize at all along with diet. I was doing a navy seal pre-challenge highschool program. With the soothing thing it usually works the opposite what is suppose to happen. Usually my source of sleeping is boring myself to sleep, and it takes quite a long time. I can't tell you how many times i've watched Finding Nemo, Shrek 1 / 2 , Deep Blue Sea, High Fidelity, and hundred's of other movies. Usually ill watch the same movie for a week straight but still only get about 2 hours of sleep after that. It's 3:35 and I'm still not tired and I have to be at school in 2 1/2 hours. I talked to a nurse friend from the UK about prescription sleeping pills but, the risk of getting addicted is scary. As for the depressive side need2bme I understand because it's making me fail i have 4 F's so not resting and always being in a bad mood does make you sad. Not only that it makes small things affect me more as in im more vulnerable (spelling) to stuff.

Hey Guys, so I've got a lot on my chest lately and i havn't slept a total of 10 hours in the last 2 weeks and its making school and everything else just plain miserable. My grandmother is dieing so its really hard and my dad is being very stressed so in exchange he's being extremely mean and verbaly abusive so. I was wondering if anyone had any advice on anything I could do? I talk to my doctor and he said I had to stop dieting and stop excersizing so I'm not sure whats the deal? I'm just way too active at night to fall asleep and by the time school comes I'm dead tired. But, when I come home I can't fall asleep for more then an hour. I've tried sleep aids but, they dont help very much because I just wake up. Any help would be great thanks guys

I've never been successful with a friends after a relationship. It just never seems to work out for me. But if you both, have truly 100% moved on and don't want to get back together then they should be fine.

Alright, drive to non-sex can start from a lot of things. Sudden hit of religion, friends, even something that trigures her being scared of becoming pregnant. Granted that you guys would get married and you guys still have sex maybe she feels that it would be wrong to have a kid before marriage. Also a lot of girls sometimes stop having sex before they plan on getting married that way wedding night is more special, women value the day of their wedding more then guys. Taking some of heloladies advice, even though i think it was a little harsh and negative, asuming this is what she wants. Be honest and flat out ask her if this is the reason why. Because if it is a gradual break-up then you might as well do it now then wait longer and get hurt. Also sometimes women like to stop having sex to see the reaction of their boy's, just to see if they freak out or not. They can judge you on how much your willing to make a fuss out of it or not. Hope things go good for ya bud.

Hello, I'm inlisting in the Navy and in two years i will be taking the Navy Seal Test. I've done an extreme amount of information searching on this and I'm completely dedicated. So I'm starting a suggest PT program supplied by Navy Seals. My question is in Nutrition. NUTRIENT INTAKE Carbohydrates 50-70% of calories Protein 10-15% of calories Fats 20-30% of calories Thats the suggest Nutrition but, i have no clue on how much instake of actualy food i should be eating. Im 5'9 and i weigh 150 lbs, and wondering if anyone could help me out with how much of what i should eat? Thanks id really appreciate it.