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I can understand how heart-wrenching that must have been to step aside and let him be with his kids. It was the most unselfish thing you could have done. I have to say though, that if this was as meaningful a relationship as you said, it just has to come back around again. Fate has a bit of a strange way of playing out sometimes. Perhaps everything will work itself out in the end. Best of luck, T.

I'm in a wonderful relationship with a guy whom I love very much. He loves me too, but has a terrible fear of the future (commitment in particular). He always says stuff like, "I can't see myself ever being married." or "I am not the marriage type," things like that. Often I wonder if I should end the relationship, and have even discussed breaking up with him openly. He gets very scared and says he doesn't want to lose me. We then make up, and things go well for a while, then the commitment phobia rears its head again. It is like a cycle. Things are good, then they're not. It's all because of his fear of commitment, because he knows how much I want the whole marriage thing (and kids, which is another problem for us since he doesn't think he wants them either). I wonder what I should do! Should I end it and risk ending the best relationship I've ever had, or stick it out and hope he gets over his fear of commitment?