SunflowerFields

200 pounds is about 385 U.S. dollars. And that's only a fraction of the cost of the mattress! Jeez, what kind of mattress was it?! If you can afford paying your ex the other half of the mattress cost then I don't know why it'd be such a problem for him to just give it to you. Maybe renaissancewoman101 is right; maybe he is trying to spite you. I don't know why a mattress, of all things, is such a big deal, though...am I missing something here?

Annie's right, she's making some good points. I agree with her fully. If I were in that situation I don't think I could handle the fact that he had a child with someone else. I couldn't bear being involved in that kind of thing, either, and having to see the child and know who he/she belonged to. I think your best bet is to walk, too. And another thing, once a cheater, always a cheater. There's nothing to say he won't do it again. I think you should find yourself a man who will be more loyal to you.

I just read all that and that is darn good thinking. I'd definitely consider this too.

Ok, I'm a little suspicious at this point too... I'm really not sure what kind of advice to give but I'll try my best at the bottom. I just want to point out one thing first that I realized that maybe you or whoever else answers this thread can analyze. I'm not sure I would believe what your boyfriend said because how could his roommate have had such a serious conversation about something like that (rape) with him considering how drunk she was? And also, why would he take her seriously about that if she's drunk and her sense of judgement is shot? I mean, I don't think anyone who goes around screaming "I want sex!" can be taken seriously...at that time, at least. I'm not sure what to tell you. I know this seems to be the universal "thing to do" but I think you should sit him down and talk to him and demand the absolute truth, and give him reasons as to why you question what he told you. Also, let him know that you heard and saw him wink at her. If that had anything to do with what went on up in her room for 45 minutes then maybe he'll feel stuck and feel like there's no use in lying. (Of course, I'm not saying that he is lying.) Just talk to him. I hope my advice helped a little.

I love Softlips...I've been having some seriously dry lip problems lately but I haven't really used the Softlips on them at night...I should do that and see how well it works on me. Blistex works well with that too.

It's so short but it says so much. I like it.

Thank you so much for that, you have some really good points. I think part of the reason why I can't chill out over stuff like this is because I don't see a point in trying...like it'd be a waste of time or something, probably because I felt so lowly about myself for so long. Hopefully making lists of things I like about myself like you mentioned will help a little bit...I'll definitely try that. Thank you again.

Oooh, okay, thank you very much for that, it sounds like a good idea...maybe we'll go with that.

Cool, I'll run that past him. I love your icon, by the way!

Thank you. It's just a very special thing to both of us that we don't want to waste on just anyone...we want to be married before even thinking about it. Plus, I don't want to run the risk of getting pregnant if protection backfires...it's just not worth it and I couldn't deal with my parents losing respect for me. It's just easier to use abstinence. We've actually talked about that with each other. We've been talking about how months ago we never even really considered doing some of the stuff we do now, and now we're talking about doing things that we never considered doing before, ever, and I asked him if he thought that by looking at the way we're moving now, if things would eventually lead to sex. He's strongly against it before marriage and I am too, and he said that we'll just have to be strong and fight it because it's just something that is absolutely not happening. So while there might be the temptation, our minds are stronger. We can fight it. Thank you for the concern!

Lol good idea, but I begged her for years to let me do my own laundry and she never gave in. I don't know why, probably something to do with not wanting to waste unnecessary water by doing more loads of laundry than just all of our clothes together. Makes sense, but it can be a pain. Thanks for the idea, though! To the rest of you, thank you for your suggestions! We're not really planning on doing it in the very near future, but when the time comes around I guess we'll just have to experiment and see which way works best.

That's a really good idea. Problem here though, is that my mom does the laundry. So that might not work over here; I don't want her getting any weird ideas. I would definitely consider that though if I did it all myself. Thanks.

Good idea, maybe I'll have him do that. Thanks. Okay, I see. Thanks.

Okay, that's good to know. And would holding a tissue there distract you from what's going on, or ruin the moment or anything?

Oh wow, okay, so it doesn't spray out everywhere?