goddess23

hey. it sounds like shes definitely confused herself. obviously this additional time spent together is causing her to re-evaluate her feelings. what were the terms of the breakup? why are easily willing to get back into a relationship? you seem to want her back, and thats normal, but in the game of the ex you have to play it cool, especially if she was the one who dumped you. if shes hot and cold you be too. or try not to make it TOO obvious that you like her. if she seems to be a little more "constant" with her actions, then you can think about being a little more obvious and maybe getting back together. but definitely think about if that is what you want and if it would be the right thing.

okay. rite now its going to feel awful and my breakup was like that too. he broke it off without any reason. even told me he thinks its just a faze and feels stupid for breaking it. closure is important...and it is partly why moving on is especially difficult for you. but the rejection does hurt and you're gonna ask all those why and what if questions. all i can say is dont and it does get better with time. think of it as a great experience and that you have grown as a person because of it.

yeah i agree with the above post. his reasons for changing dont seem right. i know this sounds wrong, but he should change for you. it should be for himself. and it doesnt seem like thats what happened. if you're not that elated or confident about it express your feelings and tell him that you cannot make any promises or decisions right now. you need to think about it, or tell him that he should focus on moving on...and maybe in time you and him can be friends and maybe work it out. it seems that you know its not right....at least right now. dont give in, my girls are going through similar things right now. dont give in.

getting into a relationsihp in hopes of forgetting someone else is not the way to go. if you really care about this guy then talk to him and see what is going on in his head. because if this relationsihp with your current bf is new and rocky thats not a good sign. there are clearly some issues here....and this "distraction" is not going to work.

o wow...i can somewaht relate. i didnt tell my guy friend. he made it VERY CLEAR he liked me even loved me. and as soon as i reciprocated that (it took me a long time because i fell in love with him, it wasnt immediate attraction) he basically withdrew. guys go after girls they think they cant have or will always be a challenge. but i mean do you like this guy still? you ahve a bf and he has a gf....this is a little unfair to your partners. straight up, who cares wat hes feeling if you dont like him in that way anymore.

it realllly depends on the individual. personally...i dont have the desire to be with someone yet i want to know about them out of curiosity because i WILL ALWAYS LOVE those people just in a different way. make sense>?

thankss you guys! its soo complicated because i know he did care alot and im prettty sure he loved me. but hes very afraid of commitment (hes never had a gf). and i didnt like him for a LONG TIME and it feels like he was into me when i wanst into him! grrrr! but lately its been strange. okay recently my prom is coming up and like hes in gr 11 so yeahh but im depressed about it because im going with this gay friend of mine and lately hes been really mean so its like i dont even feel like hes a real friend. and this guy i like was trying to get outta me that i want to go with him i could tell yet i know if i told him that he would freak out. and he has all these hookups so he was trying to get me car but like this was a conversation a long time ago. so since then ive made other arrangements so he msged me saying how he made a bunch of phone calls and he'll know by thursday so i told him thanks alot but now im going with the girls. and he got all pissed off at me. so i dont know its so corrupted. but yeah...i do love him however i know it wont work at this point. so im just not going to initiate anything i guess...lol...

okay so this guy im in love with is my close friend for over a year. it was clear he was in love with me or at least liked me ALOTT like in every way. now he seems somewhat distant like he only seems interested in me physically. itsl ike hes afraid of becoming emotionally attached. like we're SORTA fwb. however, we only fooled around twice and not sex ofcourse (virgins for lyfe! lol jkss but yeahh). anyways, so now the other day we were talking n hes like but we're just firends n im like yeah, you know you dont have to keep reminding me i know waht we are. and he was like okk good. yet he acts extremely jealous, and we're like CLOSE FRIENDS not like fwb, so i am emotionall attached. i love him. i really do. should i tell him? what should i do??!

personally i thrive on honesty. and if i cant trust my partner i would not wanna be with them. its one thing if its a white lie here a nd there but lying about something like this? he didnt cheat on you, you cant do anything there. but itsabout honesty at this point. can you deal with that??

no. i doubt you cant stop him from doing this (unless ofcourse you let him know you like it!!) jkss. this is probably in his nature. and take it as a compliment, doesnt mean you have to give in to anything. if it makes you that uncomfortable or you think it cant possibly be genuine because of the time factor then tell him that and end it. i mean i dont know how uncomfortable this really makes you but tell him you feel like you don't know him and just do things together spend some time together where you would have to talk. plus...i know it gets annoying and all but when it stops it hurtss even more

you seem extremely confused, however, one thing is clear: at this point you are not 100% invested in this relationship and that is unfair to the both of you. now i dont believe in breaks, because that implies that you will get back together. and there should never be that guarentee because then you will have these strings attached to the break period where you are unsure what you can and cannot do. it is simply a dumb idea. i would advise you tell him how you're feeling and probably break up. however, it is clear you are very attached and this is a serious relationship but maybe the strain is too great. i think you need to experience new things, who knows maybe hes feeling the same way. and if you stay in this relationship you will be tempted to cheat or do things that may not be cheating but your bf probably wouldnt be too happy about.

your lucky girls are different. because it seems guys if they arent immediately attracted to a girl they never become attracted to them. but girls, we love to take our time. and you may not get girls coming up to you to get your number, and you may have more trouble then your super hot friend to attract a girl but trust me personality is DEF more important. the guy im head over heels for, i know hes not the epitomy of attractive. but now im like omgg i stare at him and melt.

okay im going to share a story. i was very close to this guy from gr 9-11. when i started dating my first bf, he was clearly jealous. i soon learned he was in love with me (through others, however, it was clear). i did not feel this way not romantic love. but i was his friend. he started getting extremely clingy and i didnt want to say anything so i started being a bi*ch. basically exactly what you explained. there is a reason for this. it could be shes having an identity crisis and wants to make new friends and just feels like her social circle is too compact. it could be that you may have smothered her before. i would say pretend you dont care, ignore her too. if you want you can talk to her straight up, its just i know its very difficult. see how she reacts. unfortuantely me and my friend are basically on a "hey sup" once a week basis. its sad, because he was an amazing friend to me. but sometimes it happens, and i know this is painful for you right now but you will have to either tlak to her or reciprocate her actions to see what shes thinking. if she doesnt care about you anymore, then you shoud at least to pretend not to care. eventually, you wont. i mean you will always want the best for her and her happiness (if you really love/care for her) however, you wont care if you see her everyday, you wont care if she msges you and you wont have the desire to call her up for the small stuff.

hey first of all concentrate on your exams or wahtever. this is not important right now because frankly its not like you're pregnant (im assuming lol). but in terms of him going to break up with you, it doesnt appear to be the case at least based on your post. i mean he may be pulling away if you feel it but maybe you're both busy at the moment. and him saying stuff like that is serious and they are matters you guys have to tlak about. how do YOU feel about this? dont be afraid, because everyting happens for a reason. maybe you guys arent meant to be, so just talk to him later on about it and see what happens.

hey sorry i know this is totally off topic, well not totally but yeah. um, you girls mentioned how you have trouble getting wet sometimes...im 18 and im a virgin however i find myself quite wet all for most of the day even though im not turned on at all. and if i am turned on then its very wet. im wondering if theres anything i could do for this?