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Phoneguy Novice Joined: 31 Dec 2002 Posts: 3 I was with my ex g/f for almost 5 years. Now it's been almost 6 months since we broke up. I am 25 yrs old. She is only 20. I know.. Big age difference. When I met her she was 15 and I was 20. Since day one she has lied to me about things. She has also cheated on me ( 4 month relationship behind my back) She broke it off when her mom told me about it. I still stayed with her. She has mentally and physically abused me. She hit me at least 20 times. No retaliation on my part. I know you are saying, " What is wrong with this guy!" I am a pretty normal guy, I am successful, have my own place, money, great family. She is the most beautiful girl I have been with ( on the outside not inside) We have broken up at least 5 times in the past 5 yrs. We break up for a while and then get back. This time a year and a half ago we got back and decided to give it all that we had. I still always felt like I couldn't trust her b/c of the past. Anyway I had some hard times with work and she wasn't totally there for me so I started talking to someone else behind her back ( I know it's wrong but she wasn't supporting me!!!) We tried working everything out. Finally after one last fight she told me that she didn't want to be with me. She left the day before my 25th b-day. 2 months went by and she started calling me again. I refused to talk to her and now I miss her 6 months later!! I know this sounds crazy.. can somebody help me realize whats going on??? Thanks

Ok, It has been 9 months since the ex and I split. I still think about her everyday!!! I cant stop it!!! This girl has cheated on me, mentally and physically abused me!!!! What is wrong with me? OK we spent 5 years together. If you count all the time apart it may have been 2 and a half. I met this other girl toward the end of the relationship and she didnt turn out to be who I thought she was.. Good girl but doesn't give me that ahhh feeling like my ex did!!! Every girl is compared to my ex. I am 25 and feel like my life is slipping away. Truth is my ex left me July 3 after about a month of fighting and time apart. In stead of working it out she said to hell with me and walked out on me...A month later she started calling me. I totally ignored her b/c she left me alone and wouldnt talk to me. I gave the treatment right back and ignored her for leaving me.. I know if I would have talked we would be back together and then this would all happen again. How do I get the monkey off my back??? I don't want to have this feeling anymore. I want to get over her!!!! Please HELP

He wouldn't rule it out? When did the relationship become totally his decision? If he doesn't want to be with you then let him be. There will be problems in every relationship, It doesn't sound like that is the problem though...It sounds like he wants something else in his life right now. Not necessarily another person but maybe another goal that will need more of his time. I know this hurts, trust me I know it does...You will find another person that will appreciate it more than ever...As far as eating and sleeping.. Time will heal that... I hope this helps.

I was with my ex g/f for almost 5 years. Now it's been almost 6 months since we broke up. I am 25 yrs old. She is only 20. I know.. Big age difference. When I met her she was 15 and I was 20. Since day one she has lied to me about things. She has also cheated on me ( 4 month relationship behind my back) She broke it off when her mom told me about it. I still stayed with her. She has mentally and physically abused me. She hit me at least 20 times. No retaliation on my part. I know you are saying, " What is wrong with this guy!" I am a pretty normal guy, I am successful, have my own place, money, great family. She is the most beautiful girl I have been with ( on the outside not inside) We have broken up at least 5 times in the past 5 yrs. We break up for a while and then get back. This time a year and a half ago we got back and decided to give it all that we had. I still always felt like I couldn't trust her b/c of the past. Anyway I had some hard times with work and she wasn't totally there for me so I started talking to someone else behind her back ( I know it's wrong but she wasn't supporting me!!!) We tried working everything out. Finally after one last fight she told me that she didn't want to be with me. She left the day before my 25th b-day. 2 months went by and she started calling me again. I refused to talk to her and now I miss her 6 months later!! I know this sounds crazy.. can somebody help me realize whats going on??? Thanks