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dreamguy last won the day on July 17 2008

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  2. dreamguy
    That's when experience should kick in. We have to learn that getting emotional when we see an ex is not going to work. That's when you find the strength within you to act in a dignified manner no matter how intense the feelings are. And, yes, I agree with Rapunzel. My ex always suddenly behaved in a caring/warm/loving manner whenever I gave her her freedom and acted as if breaking up was fine by me. The problem is, I always reverted back to my old self soon after and I started acting like I wasn't ok with it all. I think this is the main reason why we broke up and got back together many times.
  3. dreamguy
    If that's how the dumper reacts... by saying "oh she/he wasn't that into this anyway" and they move on then you don't want to be with them because nothing you could have said or done would have made a positive difference anyway.
  4. dreamguy
    To the OP, thanks for the links. link removed AND link removed are excellent ways to put it. I hope everyone on this forum reads this and understands why most relationships / reconcilaitions often fail.
  5. dreamguy
    David, you said it: Hollywood movies are BS. They are made to sell and you can be sure no one is going to watch/buy a movie where a guy goes all the way to get a girl back and she ends up saying no. Most people cannot last 2 days without any contact so, believe me, you are stronger than you think. However, keep in mind that 8 days are not enough to make the pain go away... talk about a few months at least. If you understand and accept this it will then become easier for you to resume NC no matter how hard it gets. You see, NC is just like having an operation. At first when you go through one the pain is unbearable (even stronger than the pain you had before undergoing the operation) but then, as time goes by, you start healing and the pain fades away. Never stop believing that and always keep your eyes set on the end result: Getting rid of this raw pain you are feeling now.
  6. dreamguy
    I'm glad to say I passed the challenge. It's been 5 weeks since I had any kind of contact with my ex. It sure gives you a different perspective.
  7. dreamguy
    If you were stupid and pathetic then I guess most people on this forum would be stupid and pathetic too. Why ? Because most of us (I did it many times) told the ex that we won't speak to them again or told them not to speak to us... only to call them a few hours / a day later. Don't beat yourself up. It takes a lot of strength to stay away from someone you love. It's one of the hardest things one ever has to go through in life. I don't know your story but if you feel you need some time away from him to re-organize your thoughts then by all means do it. If, on the other hand you are doing this with the sole purpose of making him miss you then I'm afraid if will constantly backfire as it already did today.
  8. dreamguy
    Cyan, she is holding on to you for two reasons: 1) It's never easy to just let go of someone you have spent 10 years with. 2) She likes keeping you around as a backup guy. You are her safety net. Besides you are doing things for her around the house all the time. About her resenting having to take care of you. I think all women, although they have nurturing instincts, need to have man who can take care of himself (and of them too) in their life. Whenever the woman feels she is mothering a man... she starts losing attraction for him. Her attraction turns into attachment. She loses the initial spark. That's why she said she doesn't want to answer to anyone. It could mean she doesn't want to have to take care of you anymore and wants to feel free. I say you should not confront her about her personal letters. This would only add fuel to the fire as she will think you were snooping around in her own stuff. Not good. You will lose her trust.
  9. dreamguy
    Simple enough. It's not just about what he wants. What about your wants and needs ? Only go NC if you feel you cannot be his friend and the thought of him being with another woman makes you sick. If you are ok with the above then I see no reason why NC should be implemented. You can be his friend by all means.
  10. dreamguy
    Hey Selkie, don't beat yourself up over something like that. We ALL do/did it so it's normal. Besides, he had a great excuse as you said. You're a strong woman (it shows in your posts) so I'm sure you won't do it again
  11. dreamguy
    Yep... similarities between his case and mine That's why I'm giving him (along with myself) some advice here. Hope we'll both take the advice seriously.
  12. dreamguy
    Want to get shot down a hundred more times ? Or do you prefer to invest your energy into someone who will blow some air under your wings instead of shooting you down ? I don't know about you mate but don't you think you deserve a chance to be happy ? Even if it's with someone else ? I know you love her and, believe me, I understand how hard it is to let go but sit down and think about this carefully. How long has it been since you guys broke up ? What has happened in your life since that time ? Of course it won't do you any good. In your case it will boost her ego and will make you feel like sh*t. She already knows man and she won't forget that you love her. The question is: How much do you love yourself right now ?
  13. dreamguy
    Damn man !! I started reading your letter and I couldn't stop. I was so touched while reading it that I had tears in my eyes! This is one of the best / most emotional letters to an ex I have ever read. You truly know how to express what you really feel. The woman who will be in your life is certainly lucky ! Good luck to you... I mean it !
  14. dreamguy
    correction: It's not going to be hard... it's going to be the hardest thing you do ! I initially started NC and lasted 13 days only to break it by sending a message telling my ex that I "missed her so f****** much !". I got not reply. I started NC again after that and it's been 13 days, once again. I almost broke NC on Saturday night after having a night out and a few drinks. I was driving on my way back home and I couldn't help but have a few tears filling my eyes as I repeated to myself how much I hated her for making me go through this. I really wished she was there with me that night... you know, by my side with her head laying on my shoulder and telling me how much she loved me. Glad I didn't break contact this time ! Concerning the music. Just don't listen to any music for the time being, period ! Hang in there ! You can do it !
  15. dreamguy
    An old old thread that I read everytime I come to this forum. Very inspiring and most of all... very true although it's very hard to do it. It's so painful not to contact your ex even if months go by and you don't hear from them ! Good luck to everyone in this situation. I'm in it, starting from yesterday.
  16. dreamguy
    I feel you Jupiter. My ex is torturing me like hell right now and I cannot seem to be able to break out from this ! If you want to read more details:
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