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  1. Hey there, I just stumbled across your post. I see a more recent post from you that said you were fired from a high paying job, I'm assuming it's the one you were talking about here. I'm very sorry to hear that, but glad your old job took you back in. 🙂 I just wanted to give you my input, because I am actually a software developer, too! I largely do web programming. I've seen it all and done it all. Now, I have not personally worked for any massive corporations like that, on any teams larger than 10-15 people, and certainly not for any six figure salary. And that is largely for the reasons you posted about. I am at a smaller company I absolutely love. The people here are the kindest people I have ever worked with in IT, period. They were definitely paying me a lower than average salary for having the software dev role. I had a lot of massive expenses and home repairs this year, and considered (and did) interview for a few much higher salary jobs. I never formally got an official offer, but may have come close a few times. I ultimately decided to not pursue a new job at this time. I'm glad I was patient, because low and behold, my current company is now giving me a massive raise, I'm very happy. 🙂 I actually am bringing them in huge revenues and helping the company grow, and they really are recognizing me for it. We're in a pretty tough and vicious career field. Even at my current job, it was very stressful when I first started. Being a software dev is nothing like any other job. You never know what kind of can of worms you're gonna get into with someone else's code, version control, coding practices, and etc. You never know what expectations or standards people above you hold you to. Some people expect us to walk in the door and work miracles. The reality is, it takes time to learn how things are done at different companies. Now, back to the fancier jobs. What others said here is right. The higher the salary, the more demand, stress, and expectation is going to be put on you to perform that job. Personally, I could never work somewhere like this job you described. Teams of 20-something people, being a kind of corporate slave. I've had other jobs in the past, too, where I worked for some absolutely miserable people that treated me like garbage, so much I had to go to therapy over it. I'll gladly work somewhere for a little less pay that isn't going to treat me that way. My current company is growing, too, so if it were to ever come to that size, I would have a much higher role going into the company and more leadway. There's so many software dev jobs out there. I see you took your old job back. But, you can always keep looking. There are good people and good companies out there! You just have to find them. Places that aren't going to just see you as a number on a spreadsheet.
  2. Yeah, not to burst your bubble. The sad truth is, you should never get excited about a job you applied for. In the past, I interviewed for so many places. Would get narrowed down vs. other people, pass coding challenges (I'm a software dev) only to be passed up. 9/10 places wouldn't even contact me back. Save the excitement and celebration for when you actually get hired somewhere.
  3. Ugh, sounds like a similar predicament I was in years ago except we weren't working together (I frequented the place she worked at). Same thing, she had a boyfriend, talked about leaving him, would flirt, play with her hair, even agreed to actually go on a date with me! But then never bit the bullet, was hurting my feelings, and honestly I was very stupid for falling for someone like that to begin with. Do you really wanna be with someone who flirts with guys behind her boyfriends back? If she's doing to her current boyfriend now, how would you feel if she did that to you down the road? You wanna know what else, if she really liked you that much, she would have left him already to be with you. Let me tell you something about women. There are some horrible women out there. There are bad guys out there, too (not to pick on the ladies in any way!). But I've definitely noticed in my life, moreso then men. There are women out there that love attention. They love flirting, they love attention, they love leading guys on, they get off on it, some girls love having a sucker like you (and myself in the past) wrapped around their finger. Meanwhile they'll have a steady boyfriend and you're left high and dry. I would NOT get involved with her romantically, period. Let it go. Blow off her flirtatious behavior, if anything, tell her it's bothering you if it gets to that point where it is. You're there to do your job, and you don't wanna start crap with someone you have to see every day at work. I'll end by saying, there are much better women out there. Some several years later I am with someone very serious now, plan on getting engaged next year. She treats me better than any woman did in the past. She never played games or lead me on.
  4. Hi ENA, I hope you are all doing well! I was a regular here many years ago, venting about being single and chasing the wrong women. I'm happy to say all these years later, I have a very serious girlfriend now who I plan on getting engaged to within the next year. She is amazing, as is her family that treats me like my own. 😀 So this post has to do entirely with something else. And that is, friendships! My girlfriend and I were talking about future marriage plans, and who would be part of our wedding. And I came to a pretty sad and sudden realization; I have no true friends left. At least no one local to me, people that really got to know me personally and spent time together with. I had one now (former) best friend left, who's name I will leave out. We're the same age (31), we were friends since high school and survived a lot of personal hardships together. Honestly, I truly loved him like a brother, he was my best friend and someone I thought I would have never lost throughout my life. Throughout the past couple years though, we have grown very distant. We used to exchanged some very friendly texts throughout the holidays. Now even that has ended. Back in March, he ignored a call and text about seeing a movie. Eight months passed. Yesterday, I texted him a short happy Halloween text for the hell of it. He responded, but the conversation quickly faded out, with him not answering or showing any care or excitement about me telling him that I'll be moving in with my girlfriend in the near future. He's been through a lot (losing a job over COVID and working odd-jobs since). And I feel maybe we've naturally grown apart. I felt like, when I got my new fancy job and car, he kinda started talking to me less and less. Maybe he doesn't felt compatible with me anymore, but I never did nor said anything to him to make him feel that way that I know of. This all came up again because of the wedding stuff. I always thought that, he would have been my best man at my future wedding if I ever met someone. I never thought he would be someone to fade away from me like this. We both had a mutual friend who did the same to us and basically completely ignored our existence on Earth, and loathed him for it. But now it feels like, he's doing the same. It sounds very funny, but it honestly feels like a breakup! But instead of a romantic one, a platonic. I'm genuinely hurt by his lack of communication and disinterest in my life. I feel like, I need closure on this. I kind of feel like just cutting ties with him. It sounds dramatic, but removing and blocking him on my phone, games, facebook, etc. That has always been my way of removing people out of my life in a healthy manner. I feel like, it would be kind of crappy to do that to him without saying anything or any final words. But I also just don't think he cares, or needs to hear that. It sounds like me saying something would be weird and overdramatic. Have any of you felt this way and how did you deal with it? I feel like this happens to a lot of people as they get older. I thought he would be the one friend that I would always keep some kind of contact with. But he doesn't seem to care for me anymore. On the plus side for me, I have this wonderful woman in my life and her loving family. I'm getting very close with one of her siblings, who may be the best man at our wedding. So, there is a silver lining with it all! But it's still hard and a little scary to leave behind an old life that you've known for so long!
  5. The smoke detector in the attic's battery has been going dead for the past three days and keeps quietly beeping. It is a nightmare to access; a crawlspace in the ceiling only accessible by ladder. Every time it beeps I feel my blood pressure slightly rise more and more.
  6. I think what you are asking really depends on the choice of words and context. People actually in love or in a relationship, they might say "hey hun", "hey sweetheart", or "your my love", and in that case it would be personal. You are saying it just to them to show your feelings/affection for that person. Some may also say that to their children, or even their pet. Again, showing affection towards that person or creature on a personal level. On the other hand, you might go somewhere to buy groceries and the cashier might call you "sweety" or something. In that case, I wouldn't call it personal; they might say that to every other person in the checkout. It just depends on where and how it's being said. I think "sweety" and "sweetheart" are fairly generalized words; a lot of women say them without any actual romantic interest or personal affection towards them. I think saying "babe", "baby", and especially "my love" is crossing the line if you weren't attached to that person somehow. I hope that helps.
  7. Just watched "The Finest Hours" on IMAX the other night. Decent movie, I would recommend it. Not great but not terrible. Sappy love story otherwise it's good.
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