jasmin

as for my experience.. You should tell him the truth on how you feel about him. So then you wouldnt be wasting your time with him as to wait for him or not. As you mentioned, he is happy being single at the moment and it means that he still doesnt know who he wants to end up with. Basically he wants to keep his options open by being just friends and when he finds the right girl among the female friends that he has made then he would decide to be in a relationship. As you can see here, it's ok for him to be friends but he just doesnt realise that he'll hurt the other party along the way. Like yourself, you've already fallen for him.. altho both of you are just friends am i right?? Im sure you would be jealous if you see him out with other female friends. Well, i was once in similar situation like yours but mine is too complicated. Although this guy and me are just friends, we did things that couple do but then he decided to remain friends so i just accepted it cos i didnt want to lose him as i started to have feelings for him already. This guy once told me that he wants to keep his options open by having lots of female friends so then he would know who to choose for his future girlfriends. As for that moment, he told me he's not sure who he's gonna end up with just yet. I was thinking that maybe i still got chances to be with him if i stay friends. But all was a mistake.. almost 10 months we're in a friendship, he started seeing other girl.. and she was none other than my own cousin! He thinks that it was ok for him seeing my cousin as me and him are just friends but to me we're 'technically' a couple after doing things that couple do. I told him about my feelings towards him cos he's the one that started to make me fall for him. He led me on without him realised. Then he told me he knows how i feel towards him and yet he still go out seeing others. As for him since we are just friends..it's not wrong for him to do that. I was really hurt of what he did to me although we are friends, i dont mind if he's out with other girl but to see him with my own cousin hurts more. It is very awkward for me as my parents and uncles know him already but he still kept seeing my cousin. And as for my cousin she also insists on seeing him cos she knows that me and him are just friends. So to make the story short, i ended the 'friend' thing with him cos i couldnt bare to see myself get hurt anymore. If i stay friends with him, he would think that im ok with him seeing with my cousin. So better to end the friendship earlier the better cos you'll never know that it might not be you he ends up with and that would hurt a lot. So its his loss to lose me this way and my cousin who is so stubborn without considering my awkward situation also lost me cos she chose to be with him. Now I dont ever want to see both of them again. Im moving on with my life.. Anyway, just wanted to say that it's better to think wisely about wanting to stay friends with him or not as you've already has feelings for him. Cos i know ur guy friend just wouldnt make up his mind yet on who to choose for his future girlfriend. I know you're hoping to end up with him in the furture but i dont think he would think that you're the right one for him just yet. And i bet you dont want to end up being hurt along his process of being just in a friendship and looking for his future relationship. I hope i can help you with my saying and experience.. good luck..

i've been seeing this guy for almost 10 months now although we are just friends. When we started to get to know each other, he kept sending me sms messages, calling me up, wanting to see me, taking me out. And after 1 month, there's a moment when he started to kiss me and we did kiss, and also he always initiated to sleep next to me. I asked him why he kissed me and he said he likes me and i told him that i like him too. But after all this, he told me that he only wanted to be friends with me. Although that is his decision, i just have to accept it because i dont want to lose him as i started to have feelings already towards him. So now, we are like friends who go out together watching movie but "technically" we are more than friends because he always comes over to my house and we call each other up, see each other a lot. He wanted to remain friends because he's still not sure who he is gonna end up with and by doing this he's keeping his options open. But one thing for sure is that i care about him so much that it hurts when we are not together. Anyway going to the 10 months of this friendship, i started to have this weird feelings that he's got someone else. And my instinct was right and it was none other than my own cousin. They've been out as friends as well for almost 2-3 weeks without me knowing. But I finally knew it one day and i confronted to him to tell him that i felt awkward about all this. But he kept saying that why is it so wrong to go out with my cousin. Then i told him that it's just too awkward as i have feelings for him and i care for him too. But he insisted of saying that it is not wrong for him to do that. In my situation, i would feel weird about this and it's not like we havent done anything, we actually kissed, hugged and he seems not to care what had been happening back then. How would i feel when i see him out with my own cousin?? Guys just dont understand. I dont mind if he's out with other female friends but my cousin??? that would be just too awkward right??!! He knows that i have feelings about him for so long and there he goes still going out with other people. He's the one that started me to fall for him and i cant just pull out that easily. And now he ruined everything I managed to confront to my cousin too saying that i really care about the guy she's seeing and i have feelings for him and ive known him long enough to let go of him. I dont blame her and it's not her fault because she doesnt know that the guy she's seeing is seeing me too. But he knows that she's my cousin after going out a few times with her and he still keep seeing her not knowing that i would be hurt. And now my relationship with my cousin is like ruined, i just felt awkward when we see each other. I really like this guy so much but i dont know what to do now i dont mind if the guy doesnt end up with me but as long as he doesnt end up with my cousin cos that would be a disaster for me as i couldnt bare to see them together for the rest of my life. I just dont want to get hurt anymore. please help.