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So, Sunday night as I left to go to my boyfriends house, Dylan, my kitty ran outside. I never really liked him out at night but it's been really nice out latley so I let him go outside. As I got into my car the sprinklers went on and he ran by the front door. I think he wanted to go back in but I was in a rush and figured my mom would let him in when she got home. Monday morning...I come home and Dylan wasn't there. He always waited for me on the stoop in the morning. I live on a small dead end in a condo complex. He has never left the block. So I walked up and down the block calling for him. ..no answer. I was a little worried, but I figured he was around. I went to the beach came back around 7pm and still no Dylan. So I took my car up and down the whole niehborhood calling for him. I was really starting to get worried bc it was not like him to leave like that. People kept reasurring me cat's will do that sometimes, leave for a couple of days and come back. But I knew something was wrong. I looked for him all night. I made lost signs and my boyfriend said to wait until tuesday to put them up. So tues day morning he still wasn't around I went looking everywhere. I drove in circles for hours. I went to the beach with my friend and came back around 4pm. She dropped me off and I went around my block calling for him. All of a sudden I hear his cry. I start frantically looking for him and there he was! I saw him inside this fence. it was black fences with the wires and spies on top. I have no idea how he got in there but I started panicing because there was no way I could get him out. My niehbor went around and tried to get in but couldnt reach him. There was all wires and vines inside the fence. so my bf rushed over and dove in the fence and got him out. He was not good..I rushed him to the vet and well he had broken his legs, and his spine, and half his body was cut open no fur. and the vet said maggots had taken over his body. There was 0% chance for him to live. So I had to put him to sleep. He was so scared and in so much pain. He did not deserve this. He was only 8 months old, and I loved him so much. He had his whole life ahead of him. I can't help but blame myself for not letting him in on sunday when he ran to the door. And for not finding him sooner

I just broke up with my boyfriend of three and a half years. Basically I love him very much but I know in my heart he is not the person I want to marry. Soo that's pretty much my reason..it's time to move on and try to find "the one"

Hey Stevo ..that's good that you two are still talking. I think it would be a lot different though if one of you starts dating againg. My ex and I broke up about two years ago. We went out for almost 5 years. The first couple of months we stayed in contact. ..until we both started to date. We would get jealous and fight. We didn't talk for more then a year. Now we just started talking again and we are like best friends. I know it's kind of weird but I'm so happy that we are talking again. I know it's hard from seeing someone every single day to not much. I went through it. But I would try not talking to eachother for a little while just so both of your feelings are 100% sorted out. Hopefully then you can stay really good friends hope it works out!

Hey! Well thats not someting I can really answer Basically it starts of with a kiss and goes from there. I dunno I think sex just happens when it's right for both people at the time. If you are that worried she doesn't want to do it again try talking to her about it and see how she feels.

No..not if she has a boyfriend

Aww I have been doing the same thing. I have a picture of her I put on my wall next to my bed..I kiss it everynight and say goodnight. And before I go to bed I get a chair and put it by her grave and sit there talking to her crying for an hour. I also have been sleeping w/ her favorite toy. My mom is really worried she wants to take me to a psyciatrist

Aw, well if she has a boyfriend. Just be friends with her, if anything. You don't want to get in the middle. Get to know her and who knows maybe one day in the future you could be boyfriend and girlfriend. But I wouldn't worry about it so much. I'm sure theyre are lot's of pretty girls in your school besides her. And you are so young..trust me you will have a lot more crushes.

Thanks guys! Yeah I'm trying to get myself together. I haven't even gone to work all week. But I'm going to try to go back tomorrow. It's just so friggin hard. I miss her a great deal. I know time will help. I'm almost done with her scrapbook too. I'm going to put the poem in there also.

Hey..well how long did you go out for? I'm sure she still cares for you a great deal. As I'm sure you still care for her. Regardless of the circumstances were of breaking up. Especially depending on how long the two of you went out. It is obvious she still wants to remain in contact with you. If she has a new boyfriend she probally just wants to be friends w/ you. It's up to you if thats what you want.

Hello everyone. I made a topic the other day about my cat passing away. Thank you for everyone who replied. I am still really sad. I'm starting to feeling a little better I suppose. Not really better but I'm starting to accept the fact that she is gone. I wrote a poem though and I wanted to share it.. Snoopy I watched you as your life was fading away There was nothing I could do, or nothing I could say Hearing you cry brought tears to my eyes It's been three days and I'm lost without you I feel like no one really understands You were my best friend Now you're my little angel I will always love you.

Hey Kyky, I have had been in two long term relationships. Both over 3 years. I know how hard it can be to break up with someone. And start over. But that is what you need to do. If he got really drunk one night and had sex with someone else, and told you the next day...then..maybe try to work things out. The truth is he was just cheating on you numerous times. He was lying to you as well. Every time he was with this girl he told you a lie. AND he didn't even come clean until he was busted. Do yourself a favor and get out of this relationship NOW. He is the one you should be mad at not her. He is the one that did it. And I'm sure he will do it again. You don't want to be with someone like that. Best of luck.

Thanks Fairie and Miracle. Fairie..I can't help feeling guilty. I know she would have died regardless if I was there or not. But I just left when I knew she was in pain. I just wish I had stayed with her. Congrats on your new cat. They are the most loving creatures on earth. I hope you guys have lots of good times and special moments together. Miracle..Thanks for your comment. I'm sorry for your losses. It is just so hard. You are right nobody can really say the right thing. I mean it helps a little. But there is nothing to say to bring her back. I just wish I had said goodbye. I'm going to buy a scrapbook and put pictures and a poem I wrote for her in there.

Thank you jna for your comment. I'm sorry for your loss too I haven't left my house. All I do is sit here and cry. My eyes hurt from crying so much. When I get up I keep think I see her in the corner of my eye. I feel so empty inside. My mom said she was going to buy me another cat. I don't want another one, and I would never do that to Snoopy. I just want my Snoopy back

So yesterday morning my cat passed away. She was 20 years old. I kinda knew that she didn't have much longer to live because she was so elderly but I never thought she would acually die. She was fine until friday morning. Before I went to work, she was laying in the basement. (she never layed down there.) When I got home she was there again. So I brought her up to my room and layed with her. She started crying and when she tried to get up she just fell down. I noticed she hadn't eaten all day so I brought up her food and water. She drank the water but didn't eat the food. When my mom got home I told her I wanted to bring her to the vet. She said "she is just old..there is nothing they could do." So I stayed with her all night. She would cry every five minutes or so and she was weezing. She also fell off my bed twice friday night. Saturday morning she looked even worse. She was just laying there with her eyes wide open in pain. I called the vet and they only had an appointment for 11:30. So I went to work. I was so upset I came home a half hour later and she was gone. My mom said she died 5 minutes after I left. I have never been so sad in my entire life. I loved this cat more than anything in the whole world. I had her since I was 4. I really don't think I can get over this. I haven't stopped crying since yesterday. I miss her so much. I hate myself for leaving her to go to work. I should have stayed by her side. I feel like such an awful person. Has anyone ever gone through a loss like this? If so how did you get over it? Please help me

Can someone please give me advice?