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114 days...it's getting better some days and others it feels like its taking forever. This process is so brutal...I've been here before, I know it takes 6-9 months to really get back on your feet. Praying to make it in one piece as this break up has cost me a lot.

Ok thanks for the info, I joined a local toastmasters that starts this Tuesday. Can't wait

So do you think its beneficial to go for the purposes I stated above?

I'm 22 years old, and I have to take a speech class and I'm really nervous. I just want some practice, the debate class is for advanced orators.

Hey there, someone on this board recommended I join a Toastmasters Club to help me with overcoming the fear of public speech. So I called and am gonna go tomorrow to check things out. But I heard from a friend it's run by scientologists, and it's just a conversion tactic. Now, I don't have anything against anyone but I just want to know if this is true. The guy did tell me they are holding the meeting at a Scientology center...hmmm. Are there any other groups or associations that are purely for helping overcome fear of public speaking, etc? Thank you

I had the same problem, but this is what helped me. Go to your college career center, then take some tests that are about 30 minutes long. Then when the results come in you will be evaluated by a college counselor in which they will discuss your personality traits and which top jobs suit you. Give it a try

Awesome advice, thank you. I like what you said about if your prepared you wont choke, that's probably the best way to approach it. That's why I dropped that first class, because I was totally unprepared for a 5 minute introduction speech

Yea I know Scout, dang anticipatory anxiety. LOL, all this Zen and Power Of Now readings have really given mea new perspective on life but I get scared over speech LOL

That is exactly what I planned on doing for the first teacher until he said get infront of class and introduce yourself for 5 minutes. I'm a pretty mentally strong person, I know im gonna do this. I'm just wondering if any of you can share comforting stories, or advice? And by comforting stories I mean of taking speech class and seeing people freak out but it worked out in the end sorta thing.

I am taking it at a community college, and I have to take speech 101, the link removed and my counselor told me theres no way out. I guess im S Outta luck

Yea, but a few years is so far away

My fear is that I will embaress myself, choke on stage, pass out, vomit, etc. The funny thing is, I do socialize with people often at parties/clubs/ and amongst friends. But with this class, it just feels like an OMG! The only thing working for me is it's my last semester here so I wont have to see anyone ever again, but im utterly terrified.

When I got into my dream med school 2 months ago, I couldn't believe it. I was so happy, and felt so positive, especially since it happened recentley after a break up with a girl I was with for a year. So all was well until I get a letter from my school telling me that I have 1 more general education class I have to take before I get in, and the words in the letter spelled SPEECH101. All I could think to myself was NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!! The one class I purposely avoided all of my junior college career is now the only thing standing in my way of getting in. So, ok I signed up for the speech class, I had a positive outlook going in. I get to the class, and I had heard good things bout the teacher off link removed, so I'm sitting there mingling with people, etc and the teacher tells us," After this video I put on everyone has to go on stage and introduce themselves for 5 minutes." I CHOKED! I freaked out! I walked out to go think what I should do, I couldn't believe the teacher would make us do this on the first day!! I just refused to do it, and instead I just walked away with my tail between my legs. I dropped the class and now I'm taking one that starts in the 2nd half of the semester instead, which might motivate me more as it is only a 1 month class. My question is, I'm utterly terrified of speech. I have given 1 before in junior college but the teacher turned the lights off and gave us powerpoint so I didn't feel like all eyes were on me. I just feel so psyched out over this, but if I dont do this I can say BYE BYE to my dream med school. I know im going to do this, but I just need advice on how to use the fear and transfer it into an energetic speech. Any speech students, or people who work in fields where they give speeches wanna help me out?

Hey guys/gals, I broke up with my ex of 1 year 8 months ago. I believe I am over her now and it was not too difficult to get over this one, and she and I are friends now. But I have a question, I still haven't even gone on 1 date since my break up which is bizarre for me. Let me explain why; 2 relationships ago, I came out of a 2 year relationship and began IMMEDIATELY dating. I overly dated, probably about 50+ girls in a year, did my 'physical' experience if you get my drift, and realized it's not for me. That I'm a sappy, romance loving type of guy. When I broke up with my last girl, I knew I needed time. I also wanted quality dating with someone I can see myself with over just dating someone for the fun of it. I'm only 22 years old but man have things turned around for me since the break up, I got into my dream med school, I've gotten straight A's since the break up, and my future seems bright. But now it's been 8 months and I realize I haven't even gone on 1 lousy date! I know I am at a good place, but the loneliness is seeping in. My ex moved 5 hours away to her dads, my best friend moved to college, and my sister is busy with her wedding plans. I have never been this alone before and I'm trying to just accept it but the loneliness is overwhelming, I guess what Im trying to ask is do you feel like I'm waiting too long? I have never had problems with women, but I just dont feel INTERESTED enough to date right now. Does that mean I still need to heal? Thank you for reading