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  1. My sisters have heard how stressful this has been for me but they agree with my mum on getting a dowry. My fiancé folks do not believe in this so I’m caught in the middle of all of this. It’s not like I’m a 20 year old bride living in the village.
  2. Thank you, it would upset me if she disrespected me by not turning up. I’ve always been there for her through the ups and downs. My brother is manipulative but whatever he says, she sides with. He hasn’t thought about how stressed out it has made me feel.
  3. I’ve never wished for a big wedding, I am fine with a registry office then after party. My mum is making me think of her wants and needs and it’s unfair on me since I’m paying for it.
  4. Thank you, I’ve told my mum that my fiancé and I will pay for our own wedding. You can bring some guests but it will be western style. She was annoyed to here that and walked out. I feel like it’s deja vu, I’m pretty sure I told her this before.
  5. So I’am finally getting married. After years of being on the shelve, still available, too old they say (not that old, still in my 30s). I have finally met someone I want to have a family with. My mother has constantly tormented me about being too old, that all her lovely friends have grandkids and all she has are dogs. We spoke many times about if that day was to come, would you let me manage my own wedding? Sure she would reply, all I pray for is one of my daughters to be wed! I don’t care what his background is or what he looks like just as long as you are happy. Well that’s what I thought mother! She took the weddings news well, smiled shyly snd shared the news with the old biddies/ neighbours about it. After a month for the news to sink in she starts asking me so can I invite your uncles and aunties? These are people we don’t like but it’s just to show off. Also it should be an Asian banquet. And I need to speak to the father of the groom to negotiate a price for you. What they don’t believe in dowry? This means no respect for our custom. Your brother and I will not attend your wedding. Funny that all of this is also coming from my brother who didn’t tell us about his private wedding abroad and owes our family money.
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