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I'd give him the friendship speech, or mention that you are just like the brother you never had.....or if you have a brother, you could mention that you wish he was your brother instead....that should turn him away. Thats probably the most diplomatic way to do this without bluntly telling him you're not interested. Good Luck!

1) Did I make a mistake confessing my feelings and asking her out? (because it stings a little to have her possibly avoiding me) You didn't make any mistake at all. You really liked her and went for it. Unfortunately, not everyone gets what they want. However, you took the dive and went for it. Some people hold back and don't even reveal their true feelings and live with the "what ifs". At least, you know where you stand with this girl. Telling her how you felt will put a strain on your current friendship with her. She probably feels that she doesn't want to lead you on further and is avoiding you. I'd suggest having a talk with her to let her know you still want to be friends (if you do want her friendship). 2) Should I give up on this girl? If not, then how should I approach pursuing her? I'd lay off on a pursuit because she has already told you where you stand. If she really wanted to be with you, she would drop all this "other city" guys and you guys would of been together. From what you've described, I think she only wants friendship. Good Luck!

If she's holding hands with you, she is ready for that kiss. Remember, the first kiss shouldn't be all about the tongue. Go slow, lock lips and hold that moment forever! Besides, work it slow and things will pick up faster then you think. Good luck!

If you don't want the hassles of selling each item, take it all in one big box then donate it to charity. That way, you are getting rid of the memories and her. As they say, one person's garbage is another person's treasure.

Go for it! I recently left a job after 7 months, and I have no regrets looking back at it. I think 6+ months is good enough to put on your resume, just as long as you have a good relationship with your current employer. Remember, its all about a graceful exit. Complete all your projects, and offer assistance to those who will be continuing your work. Not only does that help your current company, that will solidify a great reference. The business world is ever too small and you never know when you will run into a familiar face in the future. Good luck!

There really isn't a timeline. If you want to go to the next level, take charge and make it happen!!!

Your mom wants the best for you and your future. From your previous post, it doesn't sound like you don't do anything productive except stay at home? Perhaps joining clubs and meeting new friends will motivate you to achieve success. If you hate working, I'd suggest you get yourself into school and learn about what you could be interested in. Your mom sounds really supportive, so I'm sure she'll pay for your school? In any case, I think school would be a good option for you. Good Luck!

I'd try to avoid her, especially at work. If you see her walking your way, walk the other way. No contact means no contact. Don't even say hello. It may be harsh now but it will pay off in the long run. Good Luck!

Maybe she needs a girl's perspective on the problems she's having and is not comfortable talking about it with you. You can't really do anything except be there for her when she does need your help.

I'd take a step back and walk away. There are tons of girls out there who are single so definitely look at other options. Besides, its unlikely she would want to commit to another relationsihp so quickly after having a divorce.

Don't tell him, its the nail in the coffin of your relationship. If there is absolutely no way of him finding out, keep that to yourself.

I think you should meet him right away. Make it a casual meeting with a group of friends and see how it goes. People act differently on the internet and telephone so you'll be able to determine if there is chemistry in person. From what you already know, this may not be an option if he's antisocial or extremely shy.

It sounds like you have a big crush for Melissa or that you haven't spent time with other girls to determine if this infactuation is more then that. What I would suggest is going on and continuing to meet new people. You've made the effort already and it sounds like you are building your social network. If this Melissa girl really sinks into your mind, I'd follow up with a phone call to say hello and catch up on things. You'll be able to determine if there is a positive rapport and perhaps setup a coffee date with her? Good Luck!

Make sure each resume you send out is tailored and specific to the company you are applying. What hiring managers hate is a truckload of spammers, spamming their resumes with generic objectives and skills. I hate to see people sell themselves short because they don't spend the time on their cover letter and resumes. If you're not savvy with resume writing, as others have mentioned, hire a professional to help you out. If you're short on change, there are a ton of books at your local library to also help you out. Good Luck

Its human nature to compare ourselves to other people and be envious of what they have achieved. There really is no way to get out of it because you'll always compare yourself to classmates, colleagues at work, friends, family. For me personally, this fuels me to continue my efforts in life and look for greener pastures. In a way, the comparison makes me thrive and motivates me to go as far as I can. So in summary, take this comparison and use it in a positive way. It sounds like your using this comparison to subconsciously put yourself down. Remember its also a matter of perspective. Change yours and you'll notice i isn't that bad afterall. Good Luck!