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I think that people here are very quick to judge OP's GF, forgetting that we only know his side of the story. I also noticed that OP consistently avoids WM's suggestion that OP has been camping at his GF's house every single weekend. But he very willingly builds upon every single comment alluding that his GF is a nut job. To be honest if I work Mo-Fri and then my BF comes to my house Fri night through Sun evening,I would definitively feel smothered and snappy. I would also feel resentful that he eats on my dime. It is not for a first time that people come to the forum to obtain validation that they have been wronged by their SO, conveniently ommiting part of the facts. The forum users normally just map their personal experiences on to the situation at hand, instead of trying to be objective and rational.

OP, do you always go to your GF's house? Perhaps she is fed up with hosting you at her house every weekend, feeding you and paying higher utility bills because of you. Perhaps she is growing resentful if you overstayed your welcome. Have you thought about that? Are you contributing financially to the weekends, or you profit from her hospitality?

I have had a "situational" tinnitus after a night out in a club with loud music. For the last several years I've been taking Magnesium with vitamin B6 and noticed that the tinnitus has completely disappeared, also confirmed by an acustic test. I've been reading that post covid long term consequences that the nerves' ends get damaged by covid. Tinnitus is actually a defficient transmission between the nerves in the inner ear and the brain, hence the 'whistling' sound. Magnesium, also zinc, vitamin A and C; but especially the Magnesium reinforces the nerves and the muscles, this is why it is recommended as anti stress/anxiety and heavy physical strain relief. The normal diet only supplies 50% of the magnesium the body needs, so unless additional quantities are taken, most people are magnesium-deprived. It worked for me, but it took a long time (years) until the tinnitus disappeared. I also avoid loud noise of any kind. Tinnitus can be really annoying. Wish you good luck with the cure.

If you fantasise about other people/relationship, in the general sense it means something is missing in your relationship with your husband. But from what you wrote, there is nothing to be missed about your ex. Considering the length of the relationship with your ex, 8 years, and the fact that it was pretty traumatic, it takes a longer time to "clean" yourself from it, before being ready for something new. In this case two years does not seem like a long time. Your ex is getting married, this may be something that stirs your emotions. But it is useless, because now you are married, with children. My advice would be to honestly look at what might be missing in your relationship with your husband. You said he was a great dad, but how is he towards you, as a woman?

What it could have been if you had satyed with your ex? More of the same: non-consensual sex, name calling and abuse. Why would you miss that? You did well to severe ties with your ex, but you made a mistake to marry your rebound after him. It seems to me that your current husband was your rebound after the demise of your abusive relationship. Now you have two children and a good husband. You are a lucky woman. It would be helpful to explorer your longing for an unhealthy relationship with a therapist. From where I stand and based on what you wrote, it is hard to understand that you might feel unfulfilled with a good husband and 2 children. Many women would love to have that, and you should cherish what you have.

The FWB thinks of you as a sex object, not e human. He advertised your qualities to his buddy, as if he is selling his motorbike. His behaviour is disgusting and insulting. Most probably it is barter deal: your FWB exchanges you as an object for something he wants from the other idiot. The creten said he does it because he "loves you", because he knows women are suckers for these type of "declarations". Does that sound normal to you "Honey I love you, therefore could you please give sex to my buddy?" You should be cutting and blocking both idiots and go get an STD check. Would would you allow to be treated so disgustingly?

Yes, many dates and no relationships, exactly because of the things you are doing, it is rampant: people expect instant gratification. And if they do not get that gratification quickly (for men this is sex, physical contact), they move to where they can get their itch scratched; not realising that they miss an opportunity to build on solid foundation if they chose to be patient; people like you go on dates, not because they look for a meaningful encounter, but to assuage their insecurities. Like you went out on a date with a different girl, not because you liked her, but to assuage your insecurity, because the smart girl is blowing you off. You are insecure and you used the other girl for validation. This is why relationships have become rare.

Yes, I did read everything, including your previous thread 3 years ago, when you wrote that you were 25. The other stuff is what you yourself wrote in thread title several years back. So, either then or now you were lieing about your age. What amuzes is me is how you are trying to make it look like your lie is somebody else's fault, that it does not matter, that I didn't read the thread, etc. Hilarious how liers act when they get caught in their lies. 🙂 As for the young lady, you are asking a questions about, she most probably identified that you are not an upstanding individual (lies, pushing for physical contact), so she has her guard up.

So, how old are you finally? Most probably she feels creeped out by a signifficantly older dude trying to get in her pants. On the other hand, she enjoys the attention dnd the fact that she got an older guy wrapped around her finger. The player got played. 🙂

Self-flagellation serves no purpose. Making mistakes is part of our human nature and the rectification of mistakes makes us grow as human beings. You made a mistake with this married guy, because you formed an emotional attachment with him. This is human. Finally you had the strength to sever ties with him, and this is good. Overall, you grew as a person from this experience. While growth feels unplesant while it is happening, few years from now, when confronted with a temptation, you will know better and act better. And then you will be thankful of the difficult experience you had. It is time to quit agonising about the past, that was a lesson; your boyfriend needs not to know about your lesson, it is part of your secret garden. Enjoy the relationship with your boyfriend, and please be more accepting of your past mistakes. You corrected it, this is what matters. You need not continue blaming yourself.

The Chinese New Year took place yesterday, the 1 February, it is one of the most important celebrations in their calendar. Buy a small, but maningful gift, or bake a cake, or something, and ask the Chinese builder to meet for a short meeting to present him with the gift. At the meeting kindly request an appointment with him and the welder to inspect the structure, citing as a reason that you were informed by the local administration that the shed structure needs certification. So before the certification, you need one final check by the welder and the builder. As you came with a gift and a nice smile, the builder will not turn you down. Then, durig the inspection with the welder presentn you can point to the welding scar and ask question why it looks so bloaty and black. Hear what they have to say. Most certainly, if indeed there is a mistake, it was not done on purpose by the builder. Given the very low daily rate that you paid to the welder and the hot weather, he might have been tempted to finish the work quickly and prioritised time, over quality.

good luck with the date please let us know after if 30 min were too long, or too short 🙂

If I may, just a friendly advice: next time do not ask him, or any other man on a first date, to clarify. It shows insecurity on your side. And he does not owe an explanation to a woman he has never met. You may demand an explanation to your boyfriend, or husband, but not to a man you are going to meet for a first time, as to why he would like to keep the date short. Too heavy as a start. And most probably, his excuse is just a BS anyway.

well, OP you kind of put him on the spot with the question about what time your ride should pick you up. If he said 5 hours, you wouldn't be happy with this reply either. He tried to be diplomatic and said "30 minutes to start with", emphasis on "to start with". Is there any reply to your question that would have been satisfactory to you?

For some reason your colleague is very sensitive to what you do, even when your behavior has not been directed to him. You may wish to put some distance, unless you enjoy the attention and drama.