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  1. thank you all to the contributers, ive spent the whole weekend mad at him and hurt, but i suppose this is how he must of felt(keepin in mind he was only angry with me about sleepin with my friend becuase i didnt tell him) im gonna give it a few days to clear my head, but its true were just goin round in circles, but i mite aswell bite the bullet and try and sort this out. im just worried that with my reply(and he hasnt replied yet,)that its to late and ive pushed him back in his direction. but i suppose whats meant for you wont pass you by! thanks all!wish me luckxx
  2. basically ive been seeing this guy casually for about 6months, when we first met he told me he broke up with his ex 3months ago. through the 6months that we have been causlly seein eachother we have grown closer, but i messed up and slept with one of my bestmates(who he used to hang out with all the time)i didnt feel the need to tell him as i thought it wudnt be a big deal because i didnt care for him enough, but when he found out by accident he seemed angry, but tried to hide it with sarcasim. after that happened i realised that i didnt want anyone but him and told him, he felt the same way but didnt trust me enough to start a relationship as i lied about sleeping with my bestmate. last nite he phoned me typsy(Guys when you phone a girl typsy are you for real?)and at first told me he was thinkin ov gettin back with his ex, then later on in the convo said he slept with her and doesnt want her anymore he wants me. now im not a silly woman, but a aprt of me thinks that he's dun this to get back at me. but i think he still feels for her and wants her, so in our convo i told him to go back to her, but he kept on saying no. so i txted him the nxt nite and told him how i felt and wished him goodluck with her. im not sure if he's gonna reply, but i think im in love with him, and if i wasnt so angry i would wanna give this ago, but i feel its pointless. did i make the right choice in ending it with him, or am i a hypocrite? anxiously waiting reply asap!!
  3. please i really need some help with this, thanks
  4. hey ya'll, i met this guy last month at my girlfrends friends houseparty. we exchanged numbers but i didnt go into it coz i thought nothing of it. but after a while i wondered hy he didnt call, it was becasue i told him at the party when he asked for my number that i was taken....its an automatic thing i do duh.. anyway once he found out i was single(againlol) he started phoning and texting each day, which at the time i thought ticked me off. but we agreed to meet again at the same party the following month which was last sat. i was in a mood and basically ignored him, i found him to eager and put off by that. so he goT the impression i wasnt interested, and at the time i thought i didnt but... only until yesterday i finally realised that i do like him(i have issues which affected my reasoning and i became so confused) but he's in a mood with me becuase i gave out my number to one of his friends the same night that we met, but what he doesnt know is that i only gave my number out becuase his friend wanted to inform me of parties going on in our area, because without realising we all live quite close(not the guy i met). so now he thinks im playing him, and he doesnt call or txt no more, what ive found out is his friend that i have given my number to is in compettiton him to get me(WHICH I FIND SOOO IMMATURE)and im not interested in his friend. so i phoned him last night to ask how he was and he was so icy, and said that he was going to txt me today, but he hasnt... so peeps is that it then, is he not going to call?are we done? im so damn annoyed and confused?!
  5. im sick and tired of just everything, im at uni and everythings just gettin on top of me, im going through really heavy moodswings and i have no one to talk to.the course im doing is really competitive and ive been missing days(which is not usual) and thats making me feel like im a failure.i cant sleep properly, it takes me 3hours to get to sleep most nites and im scared im gonna fail my course which is a part of my biggest dream. really i need my dad he was my mentor, but he past away a year ago,and im feeling really lost, and ive got to many responsibilites to break down, but i feel i will soon, help! any words of wisdom?
  6. heya everyone that helped me with my a-level prob, anyway just reporting to let you know(especially segagirl) that i passed all 3 alevels, and will be startin uni next month thank god! but even though im really grateful im angry with myself for not gettin the grades that i wanted..badly! but i suppose i can retake some modules? but thanks everyone, much love, Latavia
  7. Hi all, ok i have this really big mental/emotional problem, my Alevel results will be out next thursday and i am more than scared, but more petrified. I know im not the only one, but im the kinda person that goes into things like this to much. The thing is i cant sleep at all, im getting really ratty and really emtional, and to top it off i finally came to a realisation that no matter what its my future so i shouldnt let my parents get involved and put me dow, coz they always do, so ive decided not to tell my fam when im gettin my results so it will put let stress on me, but its gettin a lil annoying now. I mean one min im fine, the next im just panicking!I need help, and trust me ive talked to friends/fam, but that aint helping. I just need to find someway to really relax, im just so scared that if i fail i wont get to do my course which is a DREAM COURSE FOR ME peeps, i did the hard bit, the portfollio, the interview and got a place, but its just the results. If it helps i got B,D,D in my as level results, and ive been going crazy in trying to predict what i mite get, but its driving me crazy, just plain crazy. And this experince is made even more worse becasue my dad died last november, so i feel im deff gonna fail. im going crazy with pure worry, im a social person and im even having stupid thoughts of not making friends and getting really lonely in my flat(thats if i get a flat as ive been put on a waiting list..........how annoying)all these really deppresing thoughts are creeping in, i know its just the mood im in most of the time, but im really scared what am i going to do, am i just predicting whats gonna happen? can anyone help me please?
  8. hi, i went out this past tuesday night with friends, basically i got really drunk and ended up puking everywhere for the first time. but im still nausiated and its like sunday. im really scared becuase ive never been nasuiated for this long, and not vomited. i mean each morning ive felt like vomiting but nothing happens. im sure it cud be a alot of reasons. imean im taking antibiotics and the lable says side effects are nausia, but i havent suffered from any until now if thats the case, and plus i got sum really upsetting news on the same day from my bestfriend. so im hoping that that cud be the reason why im still sickly. and also do feel hungry once ive drunk lots of water in the morning, but after eating i feel full and really weak and drowsy. can anyone tell me why im still sick? Latavia xx
  9. hey thanks man, uve given me s um really good advice! yeah i went back to school lastweek, its been the same, but now i know!lol, hope u get lucky 2! xxlataviaxx
  10. heya hun, before i say anything can i say your such a great girlfriend to be caring for your man like that, and im sorry to hear this! Im not sure if this will help, but ill give it a go anyway. To be honest there is no perfect way to handle things like this at all, so dont think that you need to, coz you dont trust me. i can really relate to what you and your boyfriend are going through, my dad past away less than 12 weeks ago and im going through the motions of deep deppressions. However unlike your boyfriend i hadnt seen my dad for two years, then saw him for less than 10 seconds in a coffin, so you can reassure him that he is EXTREAMLY FORTUNATE to be with him for the time that theyve got. I neva got the chance to even say goodbye, he does and that will mean so much more to him than he could ever imagine. All you can do is just be there, reassure him , preach to him that you LOVE him and that you will never leave him in his time of need and that he's not alone. the saddest thing about losing someone you love is thinking that your on your own. However its true that you can have all the love and support and still be on your own. So just make it clear to him that come rain or shoine you will be there, because even though we may think we dont need anyone we really do. OIts also important to respect his wishes and give him some time to reflect and take it in(the situation, and his departure when it comes)Im sure your doing the above anyway, so its all good. Im not sure weather his grandad is in hospital or at home, but make sure he gets to spend alot of time with him. Mentally the brain is building the strength, so even if he thinks he cant take it he can. You said he thinks about it alot, that will happen for a very long time, so theres nothing anyone can say opr do to stop him from thinking about it to much, however its important that he finds his own reason for why things happen the way they do. The thing to tell him not to do, is go overboard with morbid thoughts coz trust im going there all the time and it aint helpin! I believe that humans since day one have a purpose, and reagardless they were going to die anyway, i know its a shame when they go to soon, but it had to happen, and we dont know why know and not later. He will overcome this, its just takes time. regardless of how close he was with his grandad a loss is a loss, but the love they both share remains forever, so remind him that though his grandad may not be around physically as long as he has his blood flowing through his veins they WILL BE TOGEHTER.I also believe that when people die early than we want or sudden, its gods way of asking his angels to come home. so count his grandad lucky. im sorry if this doesnt help, but hey i tried. you will find that you will help him naturally, and if he does shout at ya, which is normal, he doesnt hate you, he's just hating whats happening. i hope your boyfriend and his grandad spend loads of time togehter in peace and that god or whoever controlls what happens to us, gives him a few months extra to live. hope you to get through it in love, god bless Lataviaxx
  11. heya, soz took while to reply. But yeah thanks for that, its def put my mind at ease. But yeah the thing is it depends on the type of girl. You see when girls see a boy thats ugly that walks by and thinks he's all that then we laugh and you can generally tell coz we WILL MAKE IT OBVIOUS AND PULL FACES. However like you said ugly peeps r invisible to us. But if your cute then we give you the eye and just keep on checking you out and smiling. Or we might double take and get embaressed if you make eye contact with us.
  12. Heya elgi, yeah i think your right, and i like to be different. But i had hoped that there would be someone who would find my differentness interesting and would step up. i mean i dont mean to be intimidating its just how i am. i suppose i could soften myself up a little bit, but i dunno just think that peeps like ourself were somehow put in situations like this to show that were meant for bigger and better things.And as for the boys whispering....eh never thought about thaat(obviously coz i wud be up myself) but yeah i mean i new they were talking about me, but didnt if you get me?! i mean another example, a group of boys were not being so subtle but i think they thought they were, but then i think they were trying to get my attention.anyway i was sitting down eating my lunch with my mate, then this boy who i do see around but stares and fronts stands up with his boys(so they all crowd round him) and point and stare and agree, then i look up and away so i can see them from the corner of my eye so i dont make eye contact, and yeah still pointing and staring then they sit down. so i dont take no notice coz i think that there taking the piss or dissing me. then he turns around again and really trys to get a good look and ive caught his glance and im looking at him looking at me, then i get freaked out and confused and look as far down at my lunch as possible(then tell my girllol) i just dont get it,i mean i did see him up the city lastweek with my girl, but he was with this girl that i assumed was his girlfriend. but anyway thats not the point, its the fact that he keeps on pointing and staring, and not being subtle, what does he want me to come ova and ask?and the look was so intense and inquisistive like i was on fire or something!??this is making me well paranoid!?then omg these other group of boys the year below me, one of them is always staring and he is trying to be subtle, always trying to catch my eye, but im not a bitch i dont lead him on, i dont smile i just look away without smiling.but yeah his lot always follow me into the library try to sit on the computers infront of mine and just get in quick stares when they can. it makes me so embaressed and paranoid at times coz if i liked anyone of them i wud do something, not just stare.aahhhhh im gonna go crazy, but im sure you get this aswell! so what do i do,to let them no im not intrested but just cud be mates?none of them have ever spoken to me by the way. i mean i dont wanna do what i usually do and get bitchy if im to soften up know do i? hope to hear from u soon, thanks, Latavia
  13. Thank you so much nikki. I do need to look into myself alot more, i suppose infact i know i dont bother with speaking to people other than my friends, i dunno its like i dont want people to get to close to me, coz im just gonna get hurt. ive gone through an enormous amount of pain in my life and i dont want to get hurt, coz thats what happens, i let people get to know me, then theyn just use my kindness to their advantage.i had this one insident with this christian boy at my school who was 17 at the time and i was 16. The thing is he thought he was soo good, and i did too because i got to know him intellectually(he is quite bright) but then his ego got too big, think i scared him away at a party when i said i liked him, then had to change the subject coz he gave me a sarcastic "ahhhh" when i told him, that hurt, felt rejected coz most boys wud of leapt, says me mateslol. either way he got to know me a lil deeper than most. anyway the whole time he was brushingme off and insisting that we be friends, he really liked me. i found this out a few months after he left 4 uni, from one of his mates who was mine coz she worked wtih me and only new bcoz of him apparently. she said all he wud talk about is me, no girl cud be talked about. anyway that experience did mess me up coz i thought i cudnt get this boy, which every1, including his friends thought i cud get, so i think im stll reeling from this expereince. but im just protecting myself....arnt i. well i know i got to get to know people more. but i feel as if im seeling myself, i like to keep protected and strong, but ever1's got to get hurt i suppose, but i feel as though im always gettin hurt. thank you, i hope i can be more open! Latavia
  14. i think u know why they stare at u!lol, it sounds as if your the type of person that enters a room and gets noticed, in a good way, from your description you sound very handsome. dont worry bout what peeps think, just be yourself and get on with it. what makes a man xtra sexy is his confidense, so work it baby, work it! x
  15. Hey, my name is Latavia, okay i have this big problem, but for anyone to understand me i need to describe my self in detail so you get a picture of what im chatting about. Im 17, 5"3, im a of medium/small build, im black, i have decent hair,dress well. Most of my clothes from H&M. I have soft brown eys, kinda big, my skin tones kinda yellow golden brown, but im not mixed race, both parents black. I have straight white teeth, im of normal intelligence, can excell myself here and there. My eyebrows are plucked on a regular basis there very defined, a lil thin, but not drastically.I walk around school like ive got an attiude problem, apparently and look scary....i havent got a boyfriend, havent had a serious one in 4years!How sad i know. I just dunno whats wrong with me, its like ive got a STAY AWAY AURA ABOUT ME.But im not like that at all, boys at my school will just stare as i walk by, none of them will talk to me. The one time one of my old friends who's considered a god talked to me he had to be coaxed by one of his mates. i was there listening to them whispering.it was so embarissing! I have a lot of friends, but findiding a boyfriend is a problem, boys just wont bother, and i dunno why! can someone, anyone please help me and suggest a reason why, its starting to tick me of, and i aint liking it. thanks Latavia.
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