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I'm preggo too! due july 22 Angie

Hi Curtiplas, I've read your post and feel like I'm kind of in the situation that you imagine yourself to be in if your girlfriend was pregnant. I'm just about 17 weeks pregnant now and we're a little older but not much (i'm 22 and david is 23)...He works full time, but since he's not in school and doesn't have a degree, its not the best job but it's decent. I'm in school and have one more semester left (after the baby is born in July) and work part time...We've got our own apartment and let me tell you that it is not easy at all. Together we make pretty decent money but still with rent, car payments, utilities plus food and supplies for the apartment we don't have much money left. We're trying to scrimp and save now for the baby and though our parents are going to "help" its still going to be even harder once the baby gets here. And she's also assuming that her parents will do help her like that. But don't get me wrong, I'm so happy about this baby and so is my fiance, but it's still hard...Harder than I ever thought it would be and it's scary once you're pregnant and you have a little being growing inside of you. Basically I'm saying that I think you should really talk to your girlfriend about being on birth control or using some type of birth control. Because maybe you can handle it now, but why not at least try to hold off until you get through school because not even counting baby stuff, paying for books, rent, car payment, everything at the same time, basically, it sucks!...lol... So I guess basically what I'm saying is get yourselves together first, then you guys can have fun and "pleasure" without protection so you know you'll be okay if something happens. Good luck with whatever you do. Angie

I'm 16 weeks and 6 days now and anxious to feel my baby move! when was the first time you felt the baby move? Angie

Thanks everyone for the info!...I was under my parents insurance up until my 22nd birthday...so i've been hunting around for insurance for 3 months...but most that i have talk to, to add maternity (even from my work!) is almost $100 or more plus the regular cost of insurance...so its expensive...but I'm going to go the medicaid route...i just need to fax in my information...thanks for all the help! Im so excited! lol...thanks again everybody! Angie

I'm pregnant! woohoo! only 5 weeks though, but due on july 23, 2007! good luck to everyone else! Angie

And my fiance and I are very happy. But there is one problem, I don't have health insurance so I don't have maternity insurance. Does anyone know what I can do? or where i can go to get maternity insurance now that I'm already pregnant. And if it is affordable? or if you don't have insurance, what do you do? Thank you. Angie

I love my fiance more than anything in the world...which is why I feel so bad right now...I just don't feel like I want to have sex as much as he does...we still have sex about 2-3 times a day...but I don't enjoy it as much as he does...I enjoy it because it's with him and I love him and i love making love to him but for me, i guess it just doesn't feel as good for me as it does for him...He is kind of "big" and it hurts alot, especially when first going in...and sometimes I feel like he takes too long and really that makes me feel like I'm not good enough for him just really feel kind of down about it...is there anyway to increase my sex drive? or to make ti more enjoyable for me? and is it abnormal for me to feel this way? thanks... angie

Hmmm...well ok...basically, if your girlfriend can't contact you because she is grounded, there is something wrong there.... She is 16 years old, she lives in her parents house, and to tell you the truth, if she were a girl in my family, you would not be allowed anywhere near her...I'm sorry if I sound like a b*tch...but being 22 years old myself, I think that you should leave her alone for a couple of years...no matter how mature she acts or whatever, she's still 16...she's got a lot of growing up to do, a lot of things that will change for her, and I'm sorry but they're just not the same...if you were 27 and she were 20, it would be different. but dude, she's still a little girl and her parents are protecting her for a grown man. sorry. Angie

Hi! i've read your post...and just from my experience, david and i talked on cam and he sent numerous pictures to me before we met...but in actuality, i think he was even cuter in person! but, for the other thing, like many other people have said, and i know you probably won't care, but i think it is really weird that he would move there before you guys meet at least one time. i have dated 2 other guys that i met online seriously before. one of them i talked to for 3 years before we met, first time we got along pretty good...second time it was ok, but then major problems started happening after then...i found out a lot of things about him after 3 years of knowing him, like he had been with 3 other girls while we were "together", he didn't like people of color (and i'm black) and used to say stuff about people while we were together...and just realized he was a total jerk...then there was steve, and he was a good guy and all, we were going to move to be together, we saw eachother about every 2 weeks, but when we were together, he liked to drink...we'd go to bars to have fun and all that stuff...which i knew that he liked to do before we met face to face, but when i actually saw he wasted he could get and how he behaved while he was, it was too much...and come to find out he had other things that he liked to do that i didn't know of....so just a small warning that you just need to be sure you can deal with little things that he may do, or big things in that case...i believe that you can get to know people very well without meeting them, provided they are telling the truth, but you can't be sure that they are right for you until you are in their presense. But good luck. My fiance now is actually moving down here next week so i know how excited you must be!...hope everything goes well for you angie

Hi and thank you all for your responses... As for those that have questioned how many times we've been in eachother's presense in person, the answer is, we've seen eachother numerous times since february. Some of the times have been for only a weekend, but the longest time we've spent together was like 8 days...but it has been at least 1 time a month since february..and we will be living together until we are married in May, which my parents don't agree with also... and in response to freeyourmind, while I do trust and know that my parents want the best for me, I believe that in this situation, that their wishes for me are a bit misguided. I do believe that it has something to, well maybe, to do with his race. I am black and he is white. While they have not come out openly and said that they don't like this, there have been little comments that they have said, especially my father, that would lead me to believe this. Also, Dave's childhood was one that wasn't that great. His father was barely there and when he was, it was not good. But some people deal with things in different ways, and he has used his past with his father to make himself more productive. And he is not in school, but he is a hard worker and would do anything for his family and people around him. He's even decided that he wants to take a few classes now and I was going to help him with the paperwork so that he can do that and help him get money for it. They don't see him the way that I have come to know him. He is such a good person and would do anything for anyone around him, even if they don't deserve his help. He cares about everyone and I love that about him. I do a lot of volunteer work and want to continue to do that, he is the only one around me that supports me in this. He even comes with me to functions and helps! I can be my total self with him and am not subconscious in anyway with him. He makes me feel comfortable with myself and everyone else around me. I can't even find the words to describe him, he's perfect. I pray every day that I make him feel the same way that he makes me feel. And I just wish that they could see how happy we are together. I have no doubts at all that I want to marry him and want to be with him forever. I'm sorry that I'm going on like this, but I just don't understand why they don't see this or how they can't. When he comes down he stays here and he tries to sit and talk to them, but I don't know. My mom is better than my dad, but it makes me so mad that my dad just tries to act like he's not even there. It's horrible. But thank you so much. I was just trying to see if maybe I'm being irrational about my decision and that my parents have a real reason to be worried about us not being ready, but I realize that I think its a problem that they're going to have to deal with. But I love him and they'll have to accept that or I don't know what. Thank you. angie

and he proposed to me, and I said yes. We are going to be married on May 6, 2007. But my parents and friends (only, his mom is excited, and a few of my friends are excited) are not happy about it at all. They say we are too young and aren't ready. I'll be 22 in 3 days and he'll be 23 in November. We met online 2 years ago, but have met in person many times...and he is finally moving here next month so we will be together in the same area have thought about this and have been talking about it for the last year. I am in love with him, he is unlike any other guy that I have ever met. We have both been through so much together and the distance has killed us, but I want him for the rest of my life and I know that he wants the same. I really feel like this is the right thing for us both. But my parents don't agree with it. They say that we're not ready and my dad especially does not support us being together. They think that we are "different" but they won't even take the time to get to know him. My mom doesn't so much not support it as think we're not serious about it. But i have already discussed this with David and told him that I am ready to do this with or without my parents support. I will be finished with school by May and we will be living together also. Really the only reason that we are waiting for May is so that I can finish school. But are we too young? When my parents were married, my dad was 22 and my mom was 24...they were just as young as we are and have been together now for 23 years...which is why I think the "different" issue may have something more to do with it then us being ready...well i'll stop rambling now, and thank you for your responses in advance angie

ok...well here's a small update...lol...maybe i'm just looking into things too much...i'm not really stressing about it, its more of i just want to know if i am or not...but wednesday i began to have really bad stomach and leg cramps, it woke me up in the middle of the night...so i thought that i would start my cycle that day...nothing came...next day, still crampy but nothing again...friday nothing, but friday night there were like 2 spots, so i was like there it is, but i woke up saturday morning and still nothing...so i took a pregnancy test, i wasn't technically late then but i thought i would try...i got a very faint negative line...but it was a minus sign so i thought well i'm not pregnant...yesterday i was officially late and nothing is here still...now i'm wondering if i should have waited to take the pregnancy test and maybe the faint negative line was a sign that i didn't do it right or it was too early...i tried to look up faint negative results, but everything is on faint positive results...but from all the pictures it looks as though the negative line should be strong...do you think that maybe i should take another one? i didn't wait until i was actually late...so i was thinking maybe i should wait a few more days and buy another one and take it? maybe the digital ones so i know i'm not reading it wrong...or that line mean i'm not pregnant? and maybe there's just something wrong with me and i should go to the doctor? thanks everyone for their help...i'm sorry i keep bothering everyone...lol...its just so crazy...me and david were getting married next may anyway, i'll be finished with school and will have my degree, if i'm pregnant before the baby is born, so it's no worry...its jsut i want to know! lol...thanks angie

hi...and thank you for your responses again... i don't know what to think...my fiance and I would really like to be pregnant...but after reading things today i'm not so sure anymore...i don't know when you can get pregnant...but it seems that since it was right before I had my period, I shouldn't be pregnant...I don't think that you can get pregnant when you are not ovulating...from what i'm reading...but i don't know...i don't really know if my periods are regular or not...i don't even remember if i can say that this last period i had was like a regular one or not...i was expecing it more than a week later (that is why i planned the trip to see my fiance then)...and i just thought it was weird that i was having the same cramps now as i do when i get my period...the last few months my periods have been really regular, 28 days apart...but i was getting cramps and stuff before i went to see him...but they felt exactly like this...i don't know, lol, its jsut been weird...but now i'm afraid i'm not my fiance is going to be upset because he was getting kind of excited...but we've got time...i guess i'll give it a few more days...i wanted to get a pregnancy test now, but now i don't know if i want to know the results...it kind of sucks now...but oh well...thanks so much though everyone... angie

can i test this early? i was thinking i should wait til a month...but i can test this early? thanks everyone...and i will

I don't really know, it's really weird...this was his first time ever...but i had my cycle like 2 days after we made love...and now its 2 weeks later...and i having cramps like I'm getting my cycle again (but i just had it)...and i was reading on one site and one lady had a lot of the same things that were happening to me...like different discharges...she said like around 2 weeks after conception she had white stretchy discharge...and a lot of watery discharge...and like i said i've been having cramps like i'm going to get my period again..and i dont know...my breasts aren't tender though and they don't hurt...i'm a little nausueas (sp?) but i haven't thrown up yet (felt like it, but i don't konw if its just because i'm nervous or not)...i don't really know if i've had to go to the bathroom more though, i haven't really paid attention...i've been pretty tired, but i don't konw if its from lack of sleep or not...i don't know...its just really weird...i guess that i really won't be able to know for a few weeks when i can test...but could i be? do you think that i am? angie