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  1. I would not try to read too much into his behaviour. So far, it does not sound like he posted anything to you that would have been worth a reply?! Stop wondering what he is trying to do...maybe it's just that what he wants?! However, if he really wanted something form you, such as getting back together, I think he will say so quite expressly. As long as he does not say so, and just keeps sending emails without any apparent reason, I would not go ahead and try to guess what he's up to. Chances are big he doesn't know either...
  2. Hey there... I would not read too much in his attempt to contact you. Sometimes ex's just tend to do that in order to see how you are doing, whether you miss them, etc... It's not because they still do care about you. I have had the experience that after breaking up some people still do feel some sort of "responsibility" for their ex...but basically it's just they are trying to still be part of something, they do not belong to anymore: your life. So do not let his attempts to contact you pull you down. Stay strong, do not write back, ignore his attempts to contact you and take your time to heal. It was his choice not to be part of your life anymore, so he now has to deal with the consequences... Wish you all the best!
  3. Hello Ivy, I'm very sorry to hear about your break up. Dumping you because your love for him was too intense sounds so mean... Some of us wish we had partners who would love us just like that. Just keep going, as tough as it may be, and you eventually will find someone who deserves your love! Your life will only be empty if you allow it to be! We are all with you...
  4. Hey there! I have to agree with NJRon, I too wold guess that it might be due to the "non-exclusivity". That sometimes means a "relationship" just trundles along for a bit and is just put on hold until things eventually are lightened up again. A week of not writing is not such a long period of time. that would immediately lead to the assumption he does not like you anymore. Just wait and see, sometimes it really is just a question of being in the right mood for writing an email. Especially if you do care about someone, you might want to put a certain dedication into what you write, which might eventually take some time. I don't think that guys are particularly "bad" emailers, or particularly lazy with replies. I'd say it really depends upon one's personality...
  5. Hello keenan! Thanks for your advice. I guess I really did hurt her feelings. I tried to give her another phone call in order to tell her how I feel, and how much I would like to see her. However, seeing as I don't believe in hiding my caller ID she probably was aware it was me and did not pick up. I left her a message on her voicemail, asking her to call me back... Edited: ...which she eventually did, telling me that she was not angry or upset at all. and that we'd still be talking. *phew*
  6. Hello to all of you... Ok, I haven't posted for alomst two years, and now this is my second post within days...funny how things can change... Anyways, I met a very nice girl at uni, who I did fancy a lot (see the link above for details). Last thursday I invited her to my place for dinner, we had some wine, a very nice and light conversation and eventually ended up kissing and cuddling for the rest of the night... On sunday we went on another date, cinema with some of her friends, and she had offered to take me home afterwards. So when we finally arrived at my place, I asked her to stay for the night, which she happily agreed to... However, I am afraid that today I messed things up BIG TIME...we went out on another date and I took her home afterwards, when she asked me to come up with her...and I said "NO"! Not expressly, but I somehow was scared all of a sudden, how quickly things were moving, so I told her, that I would love to, but I thought it would be better if I slept at my place...so eventually I went home. I could feel that she was disappointed to the least, and I felt really silly for doing this as soon as she had closed the door behind herself... Now I am at my place, it's 4 am and I am trembling, wondering I should do... I have tried to call her right afterwards, but she did not pick up the phone. I guess she must be very upset with me for doing this. I would be!](*,) Right now I just feel so incredibly silly, or worse, downright stupid...I really do like her a lot...
  7. Hello fellow posters, it's been quite a while since I posted the last time, but I currently find myself in a situation I could use some input on... I am currently doing legal training in Germany and will take my bar exam in about six weeks time. While visiting a seminar at uni a couple of weeks ago, I met a girl who I found really attractive, so in one of the breaks I approached her and we ended up chatting for quite a bit. Seeing as she still is an undergrad and supposed to take her exams quite soonish, she asked me whether I could help her out with some rather difficult topics. I happily agreed and we met up a couple of times afterwards...well, things developed and we ended up going out a couple of times, dancing, cinema...you get the picture. I really do like her a lot, and I think she is not only attractive physically, but also mentally. She has a great sense of humour and is really just plain fun to be with. And I have a feeling that she also likes me... However, I have been wondering whether I really should try and "move things forward" with her, seeing as I will be taking my exams very soon and thus am stuck in loads of revising...even worse, after my exams I will do a three month stage of my training abroad, which will take my to the US. At the same time she will be preparing for graduation, which means I will not be able to see her for that time... So I have to wonder, whether anything "more" than a friendship could work out, if it started with such a "burden" on it?! I know that, ultimately, I have to decide whether I want to try (and it's not even sure she sees things the same way I do), yet I really could use some input on this. Any thoughts and ideas would be greatly appreciated...
  8. Hello guapa! Sorry to hear about your break up. I do quite understand your situation as I have been through something similar at my last break up, although I now am completely over it and can look back without bad feelings. Generally I would like to say that talking or emailing is not a bad thing after a break up, as it can help to resolve undisputed issues you have...and eventually it may even lead to some sort of friendship, or at least inner peace. However, from what you write it really does sound like he wanted to do something with you...especially seeing as the two of you do work together so well sexually. In that case I would think it'd be most sensible to cut down contact to a level which is comfortable to you, i.e. that does not make you dream of him and does not bring up those feelings. I remember how much trouble I had with getting away from my ex. She had broken up with me, but still we would spent a lot of time together and well...I guess you can imagine. The point is it was nice for the moment but after each single time I felt worse about the break up (and so did she). It just was a constant reminder of what I was all missing. What it all boils down to, I guess, is that you only should do what you are comfortable with. If his phone calls remind you of him and bring up those feelings again, you should try to avoid those. Either by telling him how they make you feel, or by simply not answering. Hope I could help?! Wish you all the best.
  9. I was horrified and sad to see the pictures of what happened in London today. I have friends living and working there, but luckily as far as I am aware they are allright. Yet, I feel deeply with those whose friends and family are involved in those terrible incidents. It just seems so unbelievable that this happens in a place I have been to so many times and will be flying to again on sunday. I am stunned that a human being willingly and purposely causes such devastation, mischief and pain with coward attacks striking inncocent people. And although I doubt that I will find an answer, I will keep asking myself the question: WHY?
  10. Hello Kirsty! I am very sorry to hear that your boyfriend is treating you this way. Being left never is easy, especially if you are not even given a proper reason. I really do feel for you, and it is quite understandable that you do miss him after being together for a year making all these plans. However, I have to wonder how he possibly can move on so quickly after leaving you. I cannot really see why you would want him back so badly though. After all, the way he has treated you is not really the way to treat someone you love. Considering that he is already seeing someone else, I fear there is only a small chance that you really will get him back... As hard as it may be, right now the only thing you can do is to keep your head up and try to get along as good as you can. I know that this is not easy after breaking up, but after a little time you will feel better. Plus it will show him that you are not waiting around for him (even if you are inside). If he really should want to be back with you, he will come to you. On my last break up I tred to do everything and anything to get my ex back, but instead of achivieng anything I just drove her farther away... Do not chase after him, as this will quite possibly only cause more pain for you... Try to get all the sleep you can, try to eat, just try to get along as good as you can. Things will eventually get better, although it doesn't look like it at first. I do wish you all the best...
  11. Hello sweetie! First of all I would like to say that I feel really sorry he is treating you this way. However, I have to agree with Angel here: Do not stop your life because of him. Even if he is true about what he says you should not sit around and just wait for him. If he really cared about you so much in there first place why is he stringing you along like that?! Also, there is a chance that even if he is true about things now, he might change his mind. So please be very careful in making your decision. I'd like to think that someone who loves you does not make you wait... I have been in your situation myself, about a year ago. My ex told me that she would come back as soon as all that trouble that was at the time was over. Well, a year has passed and she has moved away since, and so have I. And I guess both of us have moved on. Sweetie, do not wait for him to come back. Go on and live your life. If the two of you really are meant to be together, you will be! But until then go and enjoy your life as good as you can. Good luck!
  12. Hello... Concerning the legal matters I would like to refer to Daywalkers and avman's post. I cannot really say much about law in the states. Should you be in europe "signing away" rights should not be so easy, as in most states you plainly cannot do this and you are held responsible for child support no matter if you want or not. As to the criminal law side, I guess it again depends on where you are and what the age of consent is in the state you live in... However, I would like to say a couple of more things... I do understand that you say it was a one night stand, and above all one that you regret having, even that you do not want to have anything to do with that kid. However, life is not only about what you want, but also about what you do. You might say it was just a silly mistake. Nevertheless, there is a point in your life when you have to take responsibility for your actions, and I'd say at the age of 18 you are old enough to do that. And it's definitely NOT the kid's fault that this happened, if you understand what I am trying to say... Please do remember that there is more behind this than just a financial interest in not having to pay child support... Apart from that...it sounded like the news about the pregnancy are a bit "vague"?! How long ago did the ONS happen? Although I do not want to assume that she is making this up, as I would generally consider a topic like that far too serious...
  13. I most definitely have to agree, butterfly. Although I find those particular shoes a bit "strange", I'd say, if the right girl was wearing them for me... Oh well, better not get into that...lol
  14. Hey troutboy... the no contact rule only does serve one purpose: It enables you to heal while avoiding further painful experiences. Some people see it as a tactic for getting someone back, however, I somehow do not believe in that sort of "psychological warfare"... It really depends on where you want things to go... I would not completely ignore her contact attempts if you would like things to be friendly between the two of you. I would not assume that she is trying to get back with you just because she is contacting you. It may be she really does care about you, but maybe she cannot see herself in a relationship with you... However, should you really bump into her at work, just try to be friendly, greet her... I think it would be plain silly just to ignore someone you know so well, don't you think? If she really should call and you would like to answer the phone do so. Try to be friendly, yet save your distance... Maybe you will be able to deal with each other as friends. Maybe even she will start to realise that she is missing you more than she thought she would...however, no guarantee for that on, ok?! I have experienced in a couple of occasions that women try to be friendly on a break up, in order to make it easier not only for their partner, but also for themselves. It's just not so hard to walk away, if you know that your ex is doing allright... Whichever way you decide, let us know how things develop...
  15. Hello...here's my little contribution... Something that definitely does help is fruits that contain citric acid and sugar, as this helps to improve the taste... Orange juice does well serve the purpose, yet pineapple juice is the "alltime classic"...if there is such a thing...lol Things to avoid are fish, garlic, onions, beer, milk and coffee, as they result in a rather nasty note... Supposedly chocoöate does also do some good...just give it a try...
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