learner79

See we are both from Louisiana. We started dating my Senior year and his Sophmore year of college. He knew I was moving back to Louisiana after graduating and we never discussed moving in together until about 6 months ago. I told him I needed a further sign of commitment to do that like getting engaged. Well thing sall seemed to be going fine until about a week before the cruise when he said he started to soul search and decided that we weren't going to work out. then he his this from me while we were on the cruise (ignored me), and then after Thanksgiving broke up with me over the net. I don't know what to do.. i can't eat or sleep. I keep thinking that if only I moved in with him then we'd still be together. I'm trying to work through it. I'm confused and hurt, and I feel like now I can't talk to him. Which sucks because he was my best friend. I just don't understand what happened and how he couldn't discuss things with me before hand, or at least break my heart face to face..

This guy sounds dangerous. I was in a situation like this once a long time ago (although not nearly as bad.. just harassing phone calls). Whatever you do KEEP all the messages do not delete them. get them on tape (you may need them as evidence to show police). Keep records on how many times he will call a day and the content of each message. Make sure others are aware of this situation (sometimes guys like this will try to hunt you down.. ) If you live in an apartment building, then others should know that this guy isn't your friend and should not be allowed to enter the premises. If he starts to bother you at work, then contact the police immediately (this is not tolerable). Since you owe him money, he feels he has the right to harass you. If you do mail him the money do not write your return address on the outside envelope. If your check has your phone number or address on it then find another way to pay. I agree with the others when they say to change your phone number. This will probably help a lot. If he keeps persisting or if you feel for your safety. Please contact the police asap. Have them listen to the messages on your answering machine and tell them you feel threatened. They will help you take the proper steps to ensure your safety. Whatever you do do NOT speak to him, it will only encourage him to keep calling. Good luck! We are all here for you.

I don't know what do do. My boyfriend of 1 year and 9 months broke up with me two days ago. I'm trying to accept it, but i can't. I feel like I caused the whole thing because I wouldn't move in with him. We met in college and after I graduated I moved home and he stayed in Mississippi (About an hour away). He ignored me a week before the whole break up (we were on a cruise) so I knew something was wrong, but when I confronted him he said everything was fine and he was just messed up in the head. Then the day after Thanksgiving at 1:15 a.m. I IM'd him and he said we needed to talk. He said I crushed his dreams, I was too attached to my family, and that I lived too far away and he never got to see me. ( He broke up with me over the internet).... URGH!... I'm ready to move to Mississippi, but now I think it's too late. I keep thinking about him, and how we talked of marriage, and how much I'll miss him. I could deal with losing him as a boyfriend, but I can't bear not having him as a friend. He won't talk to me and I still have so many questions left unanswered... What should I do?