celestial1

I think I'm overreacting but its really bothering me. My fiancé is divorced and has a child with his ex-wife. The ex-wife is crazy...she really is you can't even talk to her without her blowing up at you. All of my fiancé's friends and family dislike her, but they still talk to her. It drives me nuts. The ex-wife emails them and they reply back, the ex gets info about me and my fiancé and I really don't like it. I'm starting to dislike all his friends...because they all seem two faced. I feel like if I bring this subject up to my fiancé he will get upset and feel like I'm controlling him. His ex-wife really controlled him and wouldn't allow him to do anything without her. I just feel that if I bring this up to him then he might feel as if I am acting like her. I don't know what do. But its making me sick...I don't want him to hang out with his friends anymore, one of them even told me he thinks my fiancé will get back together with his ex-wife. If I was in high school and he was just my boyfriend I could expect this kind of behavior out of his friends, but we're not. Should I talk him? Should I say something to his friends and family? I don't want to seem out of line...but I am going to married to this guy and I want all the problems resolved now then later.

I dated a guy for almost 9 years he was my highschool sweetheart. We broke 2 years ago. I just recently got engaged and am extremely happy with my fiance. The problems is my ex keeps popping into my head. I can't get him out. I keep thinking what if I married him??? I know I would never be happy with him, he was a horrible boyfriend...thats why I left in the first place. But why is that I keep thinking about him??? Is this normal?

My boyfriends ex-wife broke into our house. She didn't destroy anything she just took our mail. The mail she took is important it has my social security # on it and bank info. I want to press charges, but my boyfriend seems hesitant on doing this because his daughter lives full time with her. She has done stuff like this in the past and nothing has been done. I feel she needs to be punished.

Thank you, for all your advice. I had a really good talk with my boyfriend last night, I think he actually understood my feelings. Basically it came down to his ex...when she stops everything will start to settle down...and I know that will only come in time. I explained I will try my best to be more understanding and not let my emotions get the best of me. He doesn't see his daughter that often so I need to let them have their time. What exactly is the best way to deal with and ex-wife? I have tried to be nice and civil with her, but she always seems to turn it around. To her I am the devil. How long is it going to take her to accept the fact I am in his life? She is already in a relationship with someone, will she ever move on????

I've been in a serious relationship for a year with a guy who is recently divorced. He has a daughter with his ex wife and I am extremely jealous when she comes to visit. It's horrible! She's cute as can be and I know the jealousy doesn't come from her...it's because of the ex-wife. It seems every time the daughter calls he has to talk to his ex and then its turns into some kind of fight between them and between me. Even if its just his daughter calling I get this really frustrated feeling inside. I have never dated anyone with a child and I was wondering if these feelings are normal? How can I deal with it? His daughter is very blunt and tells you exactly what she thinks...well what her mom thinks. I guess her mom tells bad stuff about me, that I'm ugly, I'm funny looking, I'm not a nice person, etc...the list goes on. I try to talk to my boyfriend about all these issues but when I do it turns into ME NOT WANTING HIS DAUGHTER! Well, thats what he believes. I don't know what to do I don't want this problem to become bigger then it already is. Can someone please HELP?!?