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  1. okay, i'm an asian guy, about 5'7" ish, so i'm relatively short. i'm pretty decent looking in a way that makes me look a bit younger than i really am. that being said, i've dated a lot of white girls (maybe half of them slightly taller than me), and only one asian girl ever. the main thing working against asian guys is the stereotype of their personality being introverted and submissive, and not very manly. anybody who has met me knows i'm definitely not the asian stereotype. i pretty much only speak english, with an americanish accent, i'm pretty wild and outgoing, and i'm really not hesitant to say or do anything that i want to. if i met a blind person they wouldn't know i was asian. in the end, attraction is all about image. but image isn't just want you look like physically, it's how they see your personality/character/etc. i've never really seen an asian guy fail to get girls because he was asian, it usually tended to be because he was too shy/submissive/etc.
  2. i would guess bartenders would have loads of experience and thus know their way with women.
  3. well, i'm not really intimidated by any girls, but i'd be less likely to approach girls who don't look like they'd be friendly.
  4. Well I think shy girls are kind of cute actually, but if they are shy long term, it might get to be a problem for me. Long term, I do prefer a girl who can speak her mind and give me attitude when I'm out of line.
  5. okay, that's your side of the story, but one piece of critical information is why your counseler would do that. maybe she is being mean, or maybe it's actually for your own good. we can't tell. what things are you doing that your parents don't like?
  6. i couldn't point out a number of ways to tell if she's interested, but to be honest, it's not really worth the effort to know. the real important thing is to learn how to generate and keep her interested. and when it all comes down to it, be yourself, don't be afraid to show her you're interested (don't have to tell her, but don't be afraid to show her) and just don't be scared. if that doesn't work out, then you're probably not a fit.
  7. women tend to prefer confidence and above average manliness in a man and dislike neediness or insecurity. it really has little to do with "good" or "bad" because there are plenty of women who like good guys and plenty who like bad guys. there are also women who like shy men, although they are fewer in number.
  8. don't think that the need of a chase is related to confidence. maybe confident guys are more willing to chase than the non-confident guys are though.
  9. one reason i started doing this was because of a change i had a few years ago. i had become tired of becoming passive, and started being more aggressive into approaching girls, and it did wonders. there were some mental blocks and limiting beliefs i had before which i suddenly realized weren't true. even thought i had gotten a lot further, i had also decided not to follow up on girls who didn't return my first call, since i thought it would be pointless and annoying. i just recently realised that this was a mental block and started questioning it. i'm starting to think of ways of being persistent and still staying charming, which i think would work well.
  10. thanks for that. about the guys giving 100% attention, i understand that there is a feeling of clingyness and weakness on their part, but what if they way they persisted was in a more "manly" way. ie, what if the guy did it like brad pitt or george clooney would in a movie, in a charming, flirty, and unneedy way?
  11. i guess the appeal of doggy style is that the man dominates the woman in this position, so if that's the spirit you're doing it in, i think the guy is supposed to do most of the work. arching your back does tend to look sexier. but even though you're passive, it's still preferable to do stuff, which makes it an interaction, as opposed to him just having you as an object he can thrust into. personally, it's my favourite position, just cause dominating a girl really turns me on.
  12. okay, i've been thinking about this lately, and wanted to hear some other people's thoughts on it. so, as a question for the females, does persistence ever change your mind about a guy? like if you gave a guy your number one time, he left you a message, and you ignored it, and he followed up on that, could that increase your attraction for him? speak as openly as you want about this, i'm interested in hearing from a lot of different view points.
  13. Not scum... more like mildew... Seriously now, the guy being scum is about them looking at the relationship as a way of getting sex. It's when they look at sex as a top priority. I am looking at love as being the priority, sex is merely a manifestation, a declaration of that love. I wouldn't have sex with her because she is attractive or beautiful. Sex would be once we get to the point where we are truly in love and vow to spend our lives together. Then I'll enjoy sex, not because of the sex, but because of the connection and bond we have, the love that is between us. And when I say she is that beautiful, its her heart and spirit that really makes her beautiful, illuminating an already wonderful exterior. If that makes me scum, ok then. But at least I'm romantic scum. Nobody said that sex was the only thing a man wanted a woman before. What was said was that most men would like an attractive mentally balanced woman who they can enjoy sex with. Of course, you took the comment as another way to put down men in general except for "different" guys like yourself.
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