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I went over to his place last night and we watched tv and talked, it was really nice. His younger sister and her boyfriend where there too though, that was pretty annoying because we didn't get any alone-time! Unfortunately I didn't get the chance to be flirty or whatever... too bad!

Good idea, but i guess i'm way too shy to do that! I'm totally interested. The problem is that I always talk to him about 'crushes' that I have because I don't want him to think that I'm into him even though I am...... I know stupid.... I guess I should stop doing that! (ANd Slayer: You good luck with your crush!!!) Yeah, you're right some ppl grab like everybody's hand... don't really know about him though. This may sound stupid but does it also matter what kind off handholding it is.... like this one or this one?: image removed

That just means you're really into him!!! I've had it too...... it happens when i'm really attracted to someone.... guess it's a physical reaction or sumthin!

Okay this is the story: Me and this guy (18 yrs old) have been friends for quite a while (like 5 years).... We went to school together a few years ago. Sometimes we see each other a lot and sometimes we don't see each other for some time. He often calles me to watch a movie, go shopping together or to go to a bar together. When we are together we have a lot of fun but sometimes I feel like he only wants to hang with me when he is bored and has no-one else to call. Anyways, the other night we went out together and we were walking home (we live a few blocks away from one of the local bars).... and all of a sudden he grabbed my hand and later on he put his arm around my shoulder. He had never done this before! I mean, I know this doesn't necessarily mean he likes me.... but what does it take for you guys to grab a girls hands. Would you do this if you are totally not interested in a girl?

My thoughts go out to everyone who has been affected by this tragedy. Take care!

Just chill and don't pressure this too much uniquely_pink, you'll find one eventually. Just be sure to stay away from guys like airmcnair06!

I guess everyone feels like that (lonely) sometimes.... I wish there was something I could say that would help you but I guess there isn't anything. That's the con of a LDR.... But I agree with darkblue: Distraction is important! You will still miss her but it might help a little bit. Maybe it's time to find a new hobby. If you're into sports join a team or a gym, if your into science join the scienceclub, if you like studying pick up a couple extra courses, if you like music.. learn to play an instrument, if you're into nature become a lifeguard or whatever. Doing something you really like will also help you grow as a person!

The trust and jealousy issues can't be solved in a day or two, that'll take a lot of time! You both have to show each other that you are trustable(Think action speaks louder than words!) without putting to much pressure on it. I understand that you want to be close to her, but if that pushes her away then maybe you have to slow things down a little bit. I know that's hard but for the long run that will be the best! What is also really important for most girls (and guys too) is time with their own friends. Even if you feel sad you can't spend time with her.... don't show her too much, because that will only make things worse. Especially if she feels guilty because of it. Instead of staying home alone, go out with your own friends or do something YOU like! Having a personal life (own hobby's, own friends etc.) outside of a bf/gf-relationship is neccesary for a healthy relationship!

I agree with kookie... too much tongue is a big no no!

I have a friend like that too. Blue eyes, blonde hair, skinny, very outgoing and she attracts a lot of guys! But some guys don't go for that type at all, they want someone either more real, more down to earth, more edgy/tough or more whatever. Also guys might be attracted to her physically but that doesn't mean they see her as girlfriend material. (Because if they date a girl like that they know they'll have to share her with other guys ) Just don't think about it too much..... I'm sure you have qualities that she doesn't have and soon there will be a guy who notice that!

This is a thing that has been on my mind for a while.... When I was younger I've experienced several little things that made me kind off scared and intimidated by guys. They were mainly just minor things but they did affect the image I have of guys. For instance when I was 10 years old I was at camp and older guys entered our tent and started saying sex-related things. They asked us very intimate questions and when we didn't answer they threw beer bottles through our tent and eventually they started hitting us with the bottles. Also I've known some other guys who said they would hit me and my friends if we wouldn't do this or that. When I was in junior high I got picked on a lot by guys saying that I was ugly and wasn't worth to be alive. By the time I entered high school I really changed and guys started to think I was attractive and they wanted to hook up w/ me. I was really confused and wasn't able to trust them... I couldn't believe they were really interested in me! Also I thought it was stupid that guys didn't like me at first and then all of a sudden they did... like all they care about is looks. But anyways... for a long time after all this happened I felt really intimitaded by guys and was often scared of them. During my entire high school I never had a boyfriend and I never kissed a guy. If a boy was interested in me I would blow him off immedietly (Even if I DID like him). I know and have heard of a lot ppl who were raped when they were younger. To me the weird thing is that many of them don't seem to have a problem with being intimate at all. Within a couple monhs after they were raped they started dating again and had bf's/sex etc. I mean I know that the way you cope with things is different for everyone............ But how is it possible that the little things that happened to me really affected my ability to be intimate w/ someone while some ppl who get raped don't seem affected by this at all?

Your welcome... Good luck with everything!

What is he interested in? Ask him about his work/school/favorite sport/hobby's/fav music etc. Or you can ask him what he has done that day or the past week or what he is going to do this summer. Anything will do: * What classes does he take? * Talk about ppl you both know (teachers, friends, whatever) * Anything you saw on tv / read in a magazine recently * What kind off music does he like? * Movies that are playing in theaters at the moment (Have you already seen -blank- ? I went last week it was awesome!) * CD's you or he recently bought * Ask him about the sports he likes (So you play -blank-? How long have you been playing -blank-?) * Clubs he's in (I heard you joined the -blank-club, is that true? That's pretty interesting! What do you guys do there?) * Vacation/Trips (so you went to -blank- huh? I've always wanted to go there, what was it like?) Just show interest and ask him lots of stuff and he'll do the talking (most guys love to talk about themselves!) It's even better if you guys can find something you have in common, maybe you share a favorite movie or a band or have both been on a vacation to the same place. There's al;ways something two ppl have in common (even if it's just friends or the same school!)

Too bad! I think you are right in letting it go for now! And if your relationship w/ him becomes more serious you can always ask him then. He probably doesn't want to talk about it right now.... Or maybe you totally got the wrong idea and nothing marriage-ish has happened! just give it some time! take care!

yea, i know ppl like that too! They're soooooooooooo boring! It's so much more fun when you have a relationship and still hang out with friends alone, that makes your life way more interesting! I honestly couldn't be w/ a guy who wants to be with me 24/7. You don't necessarily have to ditch your friends when they become single again... but do let them know how you feel! Right now they might not get it... but when they're single again and ask you to go out say stuff like "Ow, so now you DO have time for me. When you were with your bf you didn't seem to have any time! What am i... your backup plan?" And then hope they don't do it to you again next time. But sometimes it's just their personality (like the codependency types etc.) and they wont change... in that case: go get yourself some new (good) friends!