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  1. I happily and merilly blocked my ex on everything. Let the ex rot in her despair and loneliness. No other person deserves that level of treatment. btw this coming Christmas Eve, will mark 10 years when she told me "I am divorcing your ass, you motherf***er" as we were preparing to go to a Christmas family diner. She got what she deserved, and she is the one keeping tabs on me, not the other way around.
  2. Ha! Now it's my turn to block her. After 2 years of strict No Contact, she unblocked me again for the 5th time this year. When I saw her as a suggested friend, and it was my turn to permanently block her. Glad I finally got to turn the table around! Dumpers who abused their power don't deserve another chance. I am doing much, much better years after the breakup, despite the severe trauma and PTSD (which I have worked on). My current relationship is progressing well, I am a much healthier person both physically and emotionally. To all of the dumpees out there, stand up to Narcissists! For some, it might take longer than others. Be patient and don't give up! And yes, No Contact works if you allow it to work, and if you give it time. It's the best way to turn the table around. Even though my ex may be isolated, single, and miserable after so many years, that's on her, and I couldn't care less... Happy Holidays everyone! ☃️ And remember, the best Christmas gift you can give to your ex, is the gift of No Contact.
  3. catfeeder and others: my current wife feels my ex is very bizarre and has serious mental issues. She also thinks my ex-wife is not over me and that she should move on. She even feels sorry for her, in a way.
  4. To answer your question, how do I know if she checks out my posts? Because it shows me who reads them. How do I know if I have been unblocked? When social media shows me their profile as a 'Suggested Friend'. My reaction is "oh my, here we go again'. I keep rolling my eyes. I was also searching for a celebrity on Instagram and as I typed the first 4 letters, I noticed my ex gf who blocked me on again on IG like several months ago appeared. Is she stalking me/what could this mean? I don't see the point in blocking--unblocking--stalking an ex for years and years during a strict No Contact phase. This behavior is excessive, especially after 10 years. My friends who major in Psychology say that she is still struggling post-divorce. Hope it answers the questions above.
  5. I don't even need to block her, she is doing it for me, despite the fact that I remain in strict No Contact. Do I feel sorry for my ex? Probably not, it feels so long now. But it was her decision, despite my best effort at trying to save the marriage. I even suggested marriage therapy and reconciliation, to no avail. She claimed she could find another man very quickly (10 years have passed...). Don't burn the bridge over which you must pass yourself... The reason for me posting this is that I major in psychology, so I am always curious to analyze psychology at the post-divorce stage.
  6. Nope, I do not keep her on my social media. How do I know she is still checking out mine, you ask? She looks at my IG stories. I couldn't care less if she blocks or unblocks me. From what I am reading, this shows emotional turmoil.
  7. Nope, not trying to contact her. I moved on a long time ago. I just find the situation bizarre,. This is an article I found the other day about this type of behavior: https://ideapod.com/ex-keep-blocking-and-unblocking-me/#:~:text=It could be that they,ll reach out to them. I thought it was unusual, but it looks like a lot of exes don't move on that quickly after they regret their decision. 10 years is a very long time to be single and to check on an ex!
  8. Hi everyone, I haven't been here for a long time. Just wanted to share a weird story. My ex-wife of 10 years ago keeps unblocking me, checking out my stories for a few days/weeks, then blocks me again for a few months to a year, then unblocks me, blocks me again, in an endless loop. Our divorce has been a weird one to say the least. She is Russian, I am American, and my friends, family, psychologists, and myself, suspect that she had either narcissistic disorder (severe lack of empathy towards people) or may have a form of personality disorder. Anyways, to make a long story short, my ex-wife has been single for over 10 years (since our separation/divorce), we haven't been in contact for years, and for nearly a decade now, she keeps this blocking for several months, unblocking for several months, loop. I've never seen this bizarre behavior to that extend. Several years ago, I did read a couple of articles about it: most experts suggests that exes tend to block/unblock when they miss an ex, when they are miserable, when they get curious about you, difficulty moving on, etc. For for so many years?!? What goes? We haven't communicated in years, haven't seen each other in over 10 years. I haven't contacted her for such a long time that I don't even remember which year (she is the one who has instigated the divorce). Is this s typical normal thing? Anyone out there encountered a similar situation? Curious to know, Dannaz
  9. Mine has reached out after 13 years...we are now married for almost 5 years now. She would have reached out sooner if I was single. To make a long story short, after she dumped me in 2004 (reason why I created an account here in March '04), I pursued her for about 3.5 years until I gave up. After I completely gave up, I started dating, was then in another relationship from 2007 to 2016, (married 8 of those years). Once my divorce was over, my ex from 2004 reached out, started dating again in 2017, got married in 2018 and we now have a child together. As for my ex from 2016, well, after she dumped my ass, she is still miserable, jealous, and single 7 years after the divorce. She resents my success even though she did the dumping, and I DID try to repair the relationship. Go figure. You never know when an ex will reach out. It could be tomorrow, or next year. In my experience, self-improvement and no contact (for several years) were the recipe. Looking back, I am still surprised at the turn of events, all of the odds were against me.
  10. It's definitely a good sign, however, all experts would agree that she has to contact you FIRST. Not the other way around. I wouldn't be surprised if she texts you around Christmas. Just show the most attractive version of you on IG. Let us know how it goes. As for me, my ex is still stalking me on IG, but won't talk or communicate with me.
  11. As I said, you have way too much free time.
  12. askdan

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    The good old annoying No Contact rule is your best friend at the moment. To suggest a separation over something like this is excessive in my opinion. She sounds a bit immature. Just continue as normally as possible with your life while maintaining No Contact until she reaches out and is ready to communicate. Sooner or later, she will come out of her shell. It won't be like this until Christmas!
  13. Sounds like you have a lot of free time, to dig up old posts of years ago to take them out of context. How much time do you spend on this web site? For the record, I was trying to prevent a divorce years ago. Once it was finalized, I've never tried to reconcile and I've never looked back. And if you're interested, that so-called ex is miserable and still single 7 years later. I would not advise our friend Openreach to stay with a person with mental illness or personality disorder. Our two stories are totally different. I would not obsess so much about my old threads of years ago, they are completely irrelevant in this case. Gee!!
  14. ??? Even I am confused by these responses...I think you have me confused for someone else sorry
  15. Well, I am back with my ex. After her dumping me back in 2004 (see my earlier posts from that year), I moved on, as she spent over 10+ years regretting ever leaving me as I was in a new relationship by the time she realized her mistake. We are back together, married with a child, this after she hated my guts for over a decade. YES I significantly improved myself over a decade, I've read a lot of self-help books BUT it was not to get her back, but just to move on, meeting another partner, etc. The books did work in my situation, but the results were delayed by over a decade. I would not advise anyone to wait that long to get an ex back. The best way to get an ex back, is the formula below, and it is not more complicated that that: - NO CONTACT (yes, people will hate me for this) - Move on - Improve yourself like a vengeance - Have spiritual faith Actively pursuing an ex will just have the counter-effect. The more you pursue, the less chances you will get him or her back. My two cents...
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