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ChellyV

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  1. I actually do, my bestfriend, but she is recovering from COVID. 😔 And gave me feedback about him being difficult sometimes. Ayayay.
  2. I thought this was a non-issue to me but I will be a hypocrite if I say it does not bother me. I thought I would be indifferent by now, but I am not! Grrr at myself. Ex-husband of 10 years separated in late 2019, and in the process of divorce. The cause of the demise is quite complex - a stepson who is a chronic thief (not sure what words best describes), lazy, disrespectful, and by year 7 of marriage, ex-husband would say “he does not love me, and will never love me”, slept separately for 3 years before the final kaput. I stayed hoping things will change, but its true what they say, you wake up and suddenly you are so tired of it. I asked him to leave. He admitted he was not ready for that, but I said, you will just have to figure it out. Just a week ago, he was stalking me on social media. Then, called me to say he will pay off our credit card. I said, I cannot make a lumpsum payment of my share, so we have to do a payment plan. He said, I can pay whenever. Called again about his covid scare, his union, his job, etc. Then today, called me ..his typical sarcasm over my text request for him to be present on a zoom call with our immigration lawyer, for my daughter’s I-130. I thought a simple smh reaction would do, but I was 😡😡😡😡. I did not articulate what I was feeling, I simply pretended not to hear it. The worst part is having to stay on the line for him to finish $@)*#)*!!@@## just so I can say what needed to be said, that his wet signature is required on one of the documents, and when may he find time to do it. Ah just venting. I am friends with most ex’s. This one is a challenge. May be a problem on my end too.
  3. I primarily made sure my kids are taken cared of, feeling the love between both parents, and did my utmost best to be the single provider and a mother at the same time. It was like putting my life on hold so my kids get adjusted to the new. After a couple of years, pursued my M.A. in an attempt to improve economics for me and my kids. A good 11 years after, re-married. I was around my family a lot, which aided me in making short term decisions. What you want to do as a person will get to you as you thread along. My kids are both grown ups now, and here I am, re-planning what to do on the long term but with a sense of peace that they grew up to be great invidividuals.
  4. sending me a text and an email prior to giving me silent treatment with no conversation between us in between, puzzles me to this day. so not knowing that that email was going to be your last contact with me, i waited in silence and tortured myself for days. until after 3 days it occurred to me, we have no relationship. you have long ago built a wall thats too hard to penetrate. you have abandoned your desire to make it work long before the actual break up. i was left alone in making things work. that's why now, even if i cry every day, i know i did the right thing. and hopefully you understand, that no one is perfect, i have flaws but i seriously wanted to correct them. in order to make us happy. however, you have long given up before the finished product is made. there is nothing i can do. let the new man in my life enjoy the new me.
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