JLKLEE
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day 15 A friend died last night and it just makes it seem like a stupid break-up is not even worth thinking about. You should always appreciate the things God gives you because you never know when they can be taken away...in an instant. I don't want to waste my time on someone who doesn't appreciate me.
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Day 14 The more time we don't talk, the more I feel better and see the situation for what it is. I feel like I was blinded by love and couldn't see reality. You are trash, seriously. You would think that you would get your life together but apparently taking a step back and seeing what low people you chose to surround yourself with is not in the cards. How can you not see the consequences of the choices you make? The more I think about it, the less attracted I am to you and the less I can see you as a GOOD husband and a GOOD father. I'm pretty sure you will spend the rest of your life in your college party state. I just don't even look at you the same way.
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Day 11 Weird...I'm not even counting the days. I had to open the calendar to check. I feel confident today. My emotions were so up and down last week. I felt really nervous that I would never hear from him again but today, I feel like he is just stupid for breaking up with me. I have so much going for me and he really does not. So regardless if he is in my life, my life will still be awesome
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Day 9 Not thinking about it too much today. Came to the beach with my friend so my mind is occupied. I still miss him. I wonder if time away is really what we need or if we are completely over. Regardless, I won't break NC. If we work things out it is because he puts in the effort.
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Day 8 It gets easier to not want to call him. I still miss him a lot though. I guess, just like everyone else, I feel like our story "isn't over". I try not to have hope, but I can't help but feel like me completely cutting myself off from him will give him the opportunity to see what life is without me. Even in our relationship, I was ALWAYS there for him. I've also read some where people say that some people don't "fall out of them", they just run away from the problem rather than deal with it. I can't help but feel like he did this. The attraction and feelings were definitely still there. He wasn't pulling away from me. We had just spent a great holiday with his parents. But we were arguing about things going on in his life and I think he just ran away so he wouldn't have to deal with it. It does kind of make me feel crappy though, thinking I'm not good enough and all these other girls are.
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Day 7. I'm at the point where I don't even count the days. I just try to think of it less and less. I know I need to be completely out of his life for him to appreciate anything (If he does).
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I'm on Day 5. We have been broken up since November but just recently I became ok with NC. I no longer count the days but just try to focus on my life. I feel like he was either stringing me along or was putting in the least amount of effort to keep me there. I got a lot of the "I'm just trying to give us time", telling me he wants to work on things when he is drunk, telling my friend he is thinking about working on things, telling me he will make an effort, telling me he wants me in my life, texting me after a week of NC to tell me he hoped I had a good week. I finally decided I had had enough. It hurt too much to be in contact with him and getting breadcrumbs here and there. I feel like I did everything I could do to try to give us another chance so it is time to move on. If sometime in the future things can work out, MAYBE I will entertain that. But I just feel better not feeling like I have to look at my phone every second because I don't expect a call. I do know that all my other ex-boyfriends have come back. I wonder if he will too.
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NIC day 8!!!
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Technically Day 7 but he texted me on Thursday to say he hoped I was having a good week and I replied "Thanks, you too". I'm kind of sad today. I would be lying if I said I was doing NC to get him to realize what a horrible mistake he is making and come crawling back. I feel like the longer we aren't in touch, the more angry and resentful I feel towards him. I hope he is thinking about me every second of the day and it drives him crazy. I large part of me wants to text him but I keep telling myself that if I do, I am just postponing finding out how he really feels about me.
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Well I'm on day 5. But he did contact me yesterday and say "Hope you are having a good week and the new job is going well". I replied about 7 hours later and said 'thanks. you too"
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Well I tried doing NC when he broke up with me at the end of November. The point of me doing NC then was to heal. His attitude towards me has changed. When we broke up, he was very cold towards me. But within the last few weeks, he has seemed to be warming up to me and has even talked about his feelings towards me and us working on our problems to one of my friends. I'm doing NC for a bit now to give him the space he requested. So.. DAY 1
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Day 6 This is the longest we have gone without speaking. I'm scared. I'm trying to move forward but I still want him back. I just know that he can't have all of me when I have very little of me.
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JLKLEE replied to Nynnja's topic in Healing After Break Up or Divorce
I HATE you so much right now. Guess what? I'm finally moving on with my life. So you know the restaurant industry we have both been in? Ya know, since you graduated in 2009??? Well I graduated in 2011 and I QUIT my night club job. I am SO happy!!! I feel like this huge weight has been lifted off my shoulders and I am finally moving on with me life, while you stay stuck in the restaurant industry because you have no drive to get out. I'm not sure why I feel so much anger towards you right now. Maybe because for the last 2 1/2 years I could tell you everything. I thought you loved me. I thought you cared. But now I wonder if you ever even did. I'm sure I'll cry myself to sleep tonight because I'm sad, but it is so much better than calling you. -
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JLKLEE replied to Nynnja's topic in Healing After Break Up or Divorce
haha, it is Day 5 now...ya know, the day that I always give in and call because I can't seem to get past it. Well I'm having a much easier time NOT calling you. I'd love to speak to you and get some sort of response. But then I tell myself that I'm such a great girl and a great catch that I don't deserve to be on the back burner. You kissed some other girl!!! We have only been broken up for a month and a half and you've gone and kissed a girl and stayed at her house. Well guess what? I did the same thing this past Sunday. And I felt like crap. Because that is not me. I'm not going to follow your actions because I'm better than that. I'd love to think you will call me up one day realizing your mistake but I'm beginning to wonder if I ever meant anything to you in the first place. -
Day 5 For some reason I am having an easier time. I think I've started to find more confidence in myself and know that he eventually will contact me but if not, he really is making a big mistake. All my exes have said that they made a mistake for ruining things with me. I've had trouble since the break up getting past day 5 but I don't think that will be a problem this time. I don't know what is going on but I just feel so confident in myself!