marymarg

i have been there and done that road, it is no fun....but you have got to make it happen....this is a chance for you to "find" yourself, make this a lifetime journey.....keep a journal and read as much as you can. My favorite is In the Meantime.....excellent book....also, books about identity... it has taken me 40 years to figure out who i am but i finally realize what i enjoy doing, by myself.....i am learning everyday about who i am and it gets more better as the days go on. if you would like to e-mail me, e-mail me at email removed i would be more than happy to help you get through this time in your life......everything is temporary...aloha

i am a somewhat a strong, mature woman but I am jealous of my boyfriend's ex-wife because he spends time with her on the phone talking about other stuff other than the kid's activities and when she brings the kids for a visit he spends more time "hanging out" with her.....he is no longer physically attracted to her so i know that there will be no sexual affair....but to me this is almost like having one.....i know they are just friends, best friends, but it bothers me....i want to be a "better person" and get on with "my" life but this bothers me......he asked me not to make him choose......her and i are "friends" but it would not be real if i continued the "friendship"...my boyfriend and i love each other very much.....i think what i need to do is get my own life going, i am new in this town and have no friends yet.......i guess i want someone to validate my feelings....then again i want to be able to let this go and just enjoy our life......growing but stuck