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Babe, I feel my ex won't ever call me either....it's been 2 months 6 days....i don't try to contact, but these past 3 days have been as hard as the first 3 and I broke down. I miss her so much and knowing she is with someone else makes the realization that much harder that I won't every be with her again. I know, I know move on find someone else, but this girl broke the mold for me. I know I can't make her miss me if I don't let her be, but i'm afraid that me leaving her alone and not reaffirming my love and compassion will do the similar.

I wish I could give you the answer to your question, but if I knew it I wouldn't be in the same situation. This girl is the first one to have blown me away and our relationship for me lasted a very long time, but the same night she told me she loved and we'd be together forever she broke-up with me and never looked back. I knew how to handle all this from the beginning, but she became my life and replaced everything and everyone because I never felt more happy then while i was with her. I was having problems with roommates and my biggest consideration for a new place was so that we were much closer. Now most of my close friends have graduate or they weren't as good a friends as I originally thought. Now I have to start all over from the beginning. My life has bee shattered into a billion pieces and is taking every ounce of me to find and pick these pieces up. Unfortunately in the mean time my time hasn't been as productive as it should. I missed her so much that I couldn't help but call/text message her explanations, anger, miss, and love.......it's so difficult and now 2 months later I've started to cry the past couple of days. I consider myself a strong individual unfortunately this one has me torn up.

My biggest problem is that I can't see her for who she and how she treats me now. She became the most important person and thing in my life, she became my life. That's all I can see her for is the person I loved beyond belief. If any other person said, did, or treated me the way she has they'd either get a foot up their wahoo or completely remove them from my life. I realize what and how I should react to her now, but it's so difficult when the only one you really love and trust turns their back on you. It feels like your parents turning their back on you and telling you that you aren't worth it.

Hey pip, I'm going through the same exact thing...and my ex has a mirror image of your ex's thought pattern. I know she still has to care for me and still finds me very attractive but it seems that the more she want she thinks these things the more repulsed she gets. I wish I knew why she would think like this...by all means read some of my prior post about my relationship. This girl was the "one" i'm pretty sure and after lots of we are going to be together for ever talk she suddenly dropped me out of nowhere. Now she is saying the same thing your ex is, but i think she has a roommate and a couple of friends that are giving her bad information about me. (They'll run into me and then they skew the information to sound bad) God I want her back more then anything this world can offer me, but I know I shouldn't have to feel like I need to justifty lies coming from her friends but I can't help but think she's taking it as fact.

Stolen heart....I am in the same exact boat as you are. I'd love to know the right thing to do. This girl was my first true love and I just feel like i've been duped. She act towards me in completely different in everyway possible. I don't understand....she promised me not even 2 weeks prior to the breakup that she wanted to be with me forever and that when I had a feeling she was gong to breakup with me...she assured me she wasn't...how can I already be replaced and erased in such a short period of time.

Hey, Welcome to my world....my ex broke up with me 2 months ago and she was everything i've looked for and I somehow knew this right when I met her.....kind of weird since i've never over my many relationships felt this. I was doing alright for a week or so, but the past 2 days have been hell...i try to keep myself occupied, but they slip in and that once thought is enough to send me into an emotional wreck....which is crying and complete hostility. If you wanna read any of my post just click on my name and follow the link. I'll post something more later......good luck.....I know i need it

thanks to those who replied, but since this post i've either cried or became unbearable frustrated with thhe idea that the greatest love of my life was nothing at all and that some other guy is enjoying the "in's and outs" of the girl i am sure i want to marry. Right now my feelings have gone into self-destruct mode and it's what i do next that scares me. I can't as hard as I try see past the only 2 options that seem plausible for me and that is make myself the most I can be and show her i've changed and get her back -or- use my huge social power and dirt that i have and make her life like mine.

Hey everyone.......need suggestions/comments/just tell shut up, I've been in many relationships and never have a problem with the ladies, but I am still so captivated by this amazing relationship and want the person back that made it possible. For reference purposes this is my original post: link removed (Not really necessary to read, but just incase you want to) My life seems to be a rollercoaster of emotions. I've never been a violent person, but this feeling of helplessness gets me so frustrated that it seems to be the only outlet that surfaces at the end of the cycle of denial and depression. My passion of exercise is the only other thing that helps me out, but it's not meidically pratical to do this 24/7. I've tried most of everything else and that hasn't seemed to work. My ex of now 2 months, which to some of you may seem like nothing, but this has been by far the hardest 2 months of my life. This girl brought something to my life that no one has every done. (Friends, family, etc..) I'm a very popular guy at college and no matter how much I try not to think about her I can't, and so on and so forth. To avoid the risk of losing friends, I put on the biggest front to keep from annoying them with this whole thing. Now for the great information that has happened over the past two months. If you want to just reply to the above without reading what may be a short novel, please do. For those that are willing to read on...it'll be intrestingly delightful. Well, i've signed with a couple of agencies for modeling and looks like I may be getting a house bought for me right outside of New York, but this is completely dependant on whether or not me having to finish out school will interfere. Everyone is like awesome and that should be enough motivation to feel much better, but it doesn't. Not even 2 weeks later she is already talking to someone else and from what people tell me she's with him. I ran into my ex once at the gym running the track and I didn't know how I was going to handle it so I just left. Of course that started my emotions flowing. The next encounter was at my apartment....my apt. parking lot is right next to the entrance/exit out of the college parking lot. Well I was just getting back from the gym and as I was getting out of my car I saw her coming out of the parking lot.....now i know anyone knowing where their just recent ex lives they will be interested enough to look and see if there car is in the parking lot, but she drove right by me which I could only assume that she was ignoring me. A week ago in the gym one of her guy friends who I knew came up to me and asked how everything was going....I just told him it's going and wasn't going to get into the whole situation, but he asked me for my side. Which come to find out he was happy he talked to me, because he said she had conveniently left out some of the big things and that he couldn't believe she did or said any of that let alone breakup with me. On top of that he knows the new guy personally and he said that he told her that it was a big mistake for her to do see him and do what she's doing. This surpised me since this guy always seemed to not like me. Well this week like the past have consisted of lots of drinking and partying. I was going out friday and one of her roommates told me hi and asked what i was up to and i kept it short and just said I was probably going out to this bar. Well sure enough her and 2 of her friends show up, by this time i was pretty hammered. Well they just tood there in a group looking my way everyonce and awhile and I just acted as if i was ignoring them. My friends were told me to just move to the other side of the bar, since I couldn't bring myself to talking to her. So the night goes on and sure enough she just happens to walk to the other side of the bar and with doing it walks right by me....I wasn't going to say anything, but she said hi and I just said hey and threw my hands up and just said talk to you later. Well her and her friends went and stood in there group not 10 feet from where I was. I knew a bunch of hot girls and told them to act like they were all over me.....well this seemed to get her going because she left pretty quick. Me being drunk though of course i think now I just missed a perfect opportunity. The next day I couldn't resist because she was looking so very good and text messaged her. Just saying hi and how have you been.....her reply was I'm going to New Orleans to watch "her new guy" play soccer.....I replied ok, well maybe we'll talk some other time. The comment she made though tore me up......so off to my boys and the bottle. Last night one of her friends was around and I told her hi and to tell my ex hi......instead of just saying ok she said "not be mean, but she has a new guy"......i just thought to myself w.t.f.....i replied "I know and I hope she's happy, I did what I could...and take it easy".......well leave it to the emotion I haven't cried since the day she broke up with me, but last night was a repeat. I guess I don't really have any questions that I need answered, but I would love to hear any comments/suggestions.

I think the best thing to do is not think about advancing you guys' relationship past where it is. If you push she'll pull away and everything will just become unconfortable. It seems like you 2 have a really good friendship and if she likes you then she has to do the right thing and break up with her boyfriend, but make sure she comes to that decision and it wasn't you that pushed it or brought it up.

Hi Pip, I have been diagnosed with clinical depression. I've always been a person who would get depressed for no reason, was always tired, and always really irratable. When I got into college and started doing worse in school my friends and professors suggest I go get tested for Attention Deficit Disorder. I made an appointment just to see. Well sure enough I had it a lot worse then I knew. What I didn't know is that the medication makes depression even worse. This cause a great strain in my relationship and I ended up getting broken up with. Around this time I couldn't understand why I was always tired regardless of how much sleep I got. My normal physician diagnosed me with depression, but I didn't believe her so I brought it up with my psychiatrist and after a lot of test he was surprised he missed it. I was soon after put on a low dosage of prozac and it helped me out quite a bit. I was not longer tired and was told that I was actually a pleasant person to be around. I just recently was broken up with by this girl I absolutely loved and adored, and she made me so happy I figured I didn't need my medication and got off it cold turkey. Little did i know it would also be the downfall of this relationship. I got very irratable, every little thing set me off. I never told my Dr. til' recently I did this and he said it was like coming off anything else and the body didn't like it. It's been two months since this girl broke up with me and I don't think I'd be able to live my life right now if I didn't have this medication.

I wish I could honestly tell you, because my most recent ex was my life. I loved her more then anyone else in my life (past or present). She told me she loved me a lot and that she knew she wanted to be with me forever. I put up a post a little while back under relationships. I feel your pain because I also feel like there is something I'm missing and just want to know how we went from everything to nothing in roughly a week. I look forward to any replies you get or anything for that fact. I have a lot of hypothesis about what the reasons were, but I'll probably never know.

awesome that's all i have to say....it definitely expresses my feelings, I wish I could come put my feelings to use like that. If you have anything else post it.

Lately, she has done nothing but be mean, condesending, and take back everything she has said to me during our relationship. I in someway feel like I am the cause of this whole thing. She never did anything to hurt me during our relationship and what I did has just built up and this is how it is coming back. It's so hard to think that someone who said that you mean the everything to them could say that she doesn't love you anymore, you weren't right for her, and that nothing will every come of us again. I'm a smart person, who has a great deal of common sense. I've known what to do when she wanted the break, but my feelings overwhelmed me to the point that I had no will power. I'm sure this surge of kindness was coming accross as fake and that I was only doing it to undo my screwup. It's completely understandable, but regardless....everything went from point A to C and somewhere I'm missing B. So, I can only feel that I was the overall cause of it.

Man, I'm going through the same thing. I'm not old enough to have to deal with the a divorcee, but in case it is similar. I just recently made a very long post, you pretty much summed my post up. I want my ex back more then anything, and I read every day hoping for someone to have the miracle answer. As much as everyone is right about what to do, it of course isn't what you want to hear. I feel your pain!!

Hey, I'm pretty much going through the same thing you are, and man is it tough. It's only been a month for me and it's torture. I've thought about finding someone else, but i'm still to hooked on my ex and for me to do that wouldn't be fair to the other girl. If you get a chance I made a big post the yesterday. It all comes down to guy's hormones and they craving girls. Girls have such an upper hand on guys emotions. I wish there was pill to make the feelings go away. I look forward to any replies to your post, good luck