cutiepie20

wow, I am so sorry to hear what u are going through. I am going through somewhat the same situation. I think that it would beneficial for you to tell him exactly how you feel. It is not going to help you move on if you are always wondering what COULD have been between you two. This was you'll know for sure and then you'll know what direction to move your life forward in. For some reason I think he really does care about you, and the fact that he was mean to you and showed up with his new girlfriend.. might be a sign that he is trying to hurt you just as much as you hurt him. You must have really hut him, especially if he really loved you, which it sounds like he does. Sometimes...people decide not to be together, not because they dont love each other, but because they are afraid of what might happen if they lose each other. Right now it sounds like you are staying with what it safe and so is he. I think you should definatly try to contact him and at least let him know how you feel. If you shared such a special love you wont let it go without trying first. Good luck and I wish you the best sweetie. Cutiepie20 pm me and let me know what happens!

My ex-boyfriend and I have now been broken up for about 1 month. The reason we broke up was kinda stupid and when he asked me to get back together with him (about 1 week after the breakup I said that I have to think about things. Then about a week after that I told him that I think that we should just remain friends. This is not what I really wanted, but I was really scared of being in a relationship and getting hurt. Recently I have asked HIM if he wants to get back together and now he says that he doesnt know. He still calls me and I still call him, but sometimes at the beginning of the conversation he will be really nice and I can tell that he really wants to talk to me... and then by the end of the conversation he'll act like he doesnt really care. I am just wondering if he is pLAYING HARD TO GET or if he is just toying with my emotions. Before the break up we were together for about 9 months and we never really had any problems accept for ME breaking up with him a couple times (4 the same reason of me being scared of getting hurt...he knows this)! I really really love him and I know that I won't make the same mistake again. What should I do? What is he thinking? Please give me some advice! Thanks

I am in the same exact situation as your ex girlfriend right now...and honestly.. I think the best thing you can do is accept what she says right now and just be her friend. Eventually my ex repected the fact that I needed some time and that we should be friends right now...and now I am actually thinking that I might want him back. You have to give a chance to miss you. The most attractive thing in a man is when he respects your wishes. If you start just accepting her as a friend...she will see that you love her so much that u are willing to let her go. I think that u too will be alright!....Time will Tell Good look let me know what happens Sincerely cutiepie20

You know what? It is so sad to say, but your ex reminds me of myself. I have been recently trying to get back with my ex after breaking up with him several times and then wanting to get back together! Charming huh? Well, I did it only because I have a lot of issues about being afraid of getting into relationships but anyways.... I think that you not answering the phone is not at all a signal of weakness. When my ex doesnt answer the phone the only thing that runs through my mind is, "Wow, he doesn't want to talk to me....and he's trying to move on". Never once have I thought, " Oh, he has to avoid me because he knows he still loves me and he wont be able to handle it if he talks to me"! I think this girl (like me) doesnt really know what she wants...or she thinks she knows what she wants, but then realizes she doesnt want it! I think that maybe when you show her that you dont care.....she wants you even more. It is a big ego bust....when someone who once told you that they loved you shows you that they CAN in fact do without you...and actually is ENJOYING being without you! I havent dated anyone else since the break-up between my ex and I...and although I have issues with being afraid to allow myself to be emotionally close with someone... I don't expect anyone to have sympathy for me. ...NOr do I have sympathy for your ex. I think that part of you still cares for her... because you still want to be friends, but I don't know if that is going to work...Unless you flat out tell her that you would like to be friends with her, but strictly friends! AT least then, she wont have any expectations and maybe she can to move on with her life.....or noT!..... pm me and let me know what's happening! Wish u the best of luck Sincerely, Cutiepie20

Well, this one is tough! I am actually going through a break up right now and I am going through the same situation. You know what I think it all depends on the person. You never know, he might fall right back in love with your smile and all the qualities that made him attracted to you the first time around! I have a feeling that if you were to find someone else he would be very jealous, because I think that sometimes when we are friends withour ex's they don't really necessarily get to or have to miss you because in a sense you are still in their life, just in a different aspect. I think you are better off at least trying to move on, not to make him jealous, but just for yourself. In the process you will eventually find out if you two are meant to be, because I am sure that he will let you know if he does....knowing how strongly you felt about him. We never know the depths of our love for someone until we know that it is truly over. Maybe you taking that step will make him miss what he has lost. Time will tell, but even if he doesnt do anything, then at least you have the comfort that no matter what, he will always be a part of your life, because boyfriends come and go, but true friends last forever. Good luck sweetie! cutiepie20 keep me posted to what happens (pm me)

My exboyfriend and i recently broke up about 2 months ago because of a fight that we had ( it was my fault). Then about a week later he called me back and wanted to reconcile, I told him that I loved him but I wasn't sure if we were right for each other...and that I wanted some time to make sure that we were. So I had been talking to him on the phone and seeing him for about a month ( as friends) .....and he kept asking about us getting back together, but I insisted that I needed more time. I love him very much....and the reason why I was delaying getting back together is because I have a problem in which I dont like to get close to people because I am afraid of getting hurt ( I have broken up with him several times during the relationship over stupid things because of this). He had stopped asking me about getting back together about 2 weeks ago. And yesterday I finally got the courage to tell him that I love him and want to be with him...its just that I was scared. I asked him if he wanted to get back together and he said, "I don't know"! He still seems interested, so I didn't understand what this meant. I am wondering if I should just back off ( stop talking to him for a while) or i don't know what I am supposed to do now. DO u think he has given up on me? What should I do? PLEASE give me some helpful advice..... Thanks