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  1. Hey mate if you click on my name to the left, it will say check all posts! Think its my ex left me 5 weeks ago after 7 years together! I will check urs when I get in 2nite! Does sound like we're in same boat tho!
  2. God jonsey it sounds like we are in the exact same place as each other apart from you two having a kid involved! Have a read of my story and let me know what you think! I will your story tonight when I'm in from work if you have posted it on here! How old are you both! My ex enjoys clubbing and that came in-between us really, she said exactly the same that she wants her own place to see what it's like to live on her own! I think she's at the age where she dosent no what she wants and thinks the grass is greener!! I guess again it depends on the girl mine loves being out and wants to travel? Where like you said for last 6months I settled for her stopped having my life and relied on her making me happy when I should of had my own life aswel! But you don't see it til they have gone! I done same thing the first time we split up but I started enjoying myself again like I was before I meet her and once she saw that she fell in love with me again! Your in a better position than me as you haven't broke up before so Ur ex will start to fink mayb it will work again! She may find that the grass aint greener and having bills to pay on her own etc ain't the sort of life she fort it would be! Don't wanna give you false hope as I don't no you both but seems like time apart to find yourselfs again will do you both good! When I split from my ex before she even went out on a few dates and said it was horrible cos she could only see my face and the blokes were arseholes! So even if your ex starts seeing someone else it ain't end of the world! I'm not sure what will happen to me or you all we can do is take each day as it comes! 3years ago when we split for the 3months I was at work painting away hadn't heard from her in 2months and heard my phone beep and there it was a txt saying been thinking of you today and I miss you! So to have hope isn't a bad thing but you also need to get on with things cos you never know you could open ur front door walk to the shops and meet someone 10 times better! Check out my story tho jonesy and let me no what you fink of my situation!
  3. Thanks mate! It is bloody hard and I guess I'm lucky I didn't have a kid with her! Cos that would be harder! I guess it does depend on why the ex left us to whether or not they will miss us! But no contact is the only way they can see what they had and start to think about us again! As I said it worked with my ex lasting round, and this time she left because she was young when we first got together and has never really been on her own! She's always up and down about what she wants from life! Xmas day she wanted kids and to get married this year! She's got alot to sort out in her head and I couldn't of treated her any better than I did so it's down to her now! Could b months or years or not at all before they contact us! But the one thing me and you have in are favour is how long we were together with them! You can bet anything they think about us everyday! But all we can do is use no contact to become stronger and better people!! Chin up mate!!
  4. hi ninicette its been 5 and a bit weeks with no contact to my ex and i nearly gave in earlier even posted on here that i wanna txt her about post shes got at my flat, just to see what she would reply, i still miss her loads but it does get abit easier as the weeks add up! i was with her 7years! no contact is def the best way to deal with it and you gotta keep telling yourself if you break it you will feel worse and be back to square one again!! the way im dealing with it is they need space to miss you and realise they want you back! after all they finished with us so why should we chase them! ive been in this situation with my ex 3years ago and i spent a month begging her and she never replied to a single txt then i went no contact for 2months and after that time she was texting me saying she missed me! but im here again now with same girl even though this time i done no begging just straight into no contact she left me in tears saying she loved me but needed time on her own for abit! so thats what shes got but this time even though i want her back im actually using no contact to get over her! if she wants me shes gotta prove it and by me txting her and breaking no contact isnt the right way they need to come back!! stick with it and keep on this site it does help to here that others are in same situation! and theres still a hope that they will miss us and if they dont it is there loss!! x
  5. hey guys, need some advice! was with my girlfriend 7years, we never ended on bad terms she just said she needed some time on her own to sort herself out! that was 5weeks ago and ive been in no contact since! but shes getting alot of letters at my flat now, and also i drove past her in town yesturday and she couldnt even look at me this has happened a few times now! she didnt look like she was very happy either like life is getting to her! do you think i should mayb txt her saying that shes getting alot of mail at mine and that im upset that she cant even say hi to me in the street after 7years 2gever! i no thats breaking no contact but what do you guys think i should do!!
  6. hi guys im new to this site but fort i would write my feelings down! im on day 43 of no contact! its been one hell of a roller coster ride one day im missing her like mad then the next i hate her! been really weird but actually the not contacting her isnt that hard! its just the constent feeling in my heart and stomach that is annoying, i still love her and when she left she said how much she loves me but wanted time on her own cos had been with me since she was 18! we were together 7years! we live in a small town so its been hard staying away from her and today i saw her she looked really unhappy as i drove past but never even looked at me to say hi! i do still wonder if she will come back! but i also no ive gotta move on! we will all get through it just wonder how long it will take!!
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