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  1. About 3 years ago I met this guy online, and after awhile things started to get serious. We talked on the phone every night until we could hardly keep our eyes opened and ever since we first met we've always talked about meeting one day. About 5 months ago I started a relationship with my bestfriend and don't get me wrong, Its been a great experience, but the problem is that I'm always wondering what might have been if I were to still talk on the phone with the other guy every night and still be head over heels for him. I've never quite known what drew me so close to the guy I met online, but theres always been something I've seen different in him then with anybody I've ever met. I often find myself wanting to break up with the guy I'm with now even if I just think about the other guy for one second. I don't want to hurt the guy I'm with now because he has treated me the best out of everyone for as long as I can remember, but I seriously don't know what to do. The guy I met online still calls me almost every night, but I never pick up the phone becauce of what I may do or say to hurt my boyfriend now... Please Help me.. I'm so confused.. Thank you in advance ~Jennifer
  2. I figured thats what someone would say.. but Hes not like that. I mean I guess i can understand why he left me in the first place. We didn't do anything but get on eachothers nerves and we fought constantly. But even through it all we loved eachother. He knows that I'm not going to take him back everytime it happens.. really I wouldnt even take him back after this one time, but its the first time it has happened and the way i see it, everyone deserves a second chance. He has always given me chance after chance when I messed up, so why can't I return the favor? I mean is there something wrong with forgiving and forgetting when it comes to this situation? ~Jenn
  3. A couple weeks ago my now ex-boyfriend told me that he didn't want to be with me anymore, that he wanted to be with this other girl, Ashleigh. I respected his decision even though of course I wasn't happy about it. After all, this guy was who i woke up for in the morning, who i dreamed about not just when I was asleep.. but all day, everyday. He came in my life and turned my whole world upside down and when I look back on my life before I met him and I can't see myself ever being as happy as he made me. Anyways.. getting on with the story.. like I said I respected his decision and decided that moving on was my best bet. I started going out with "the girls" every chance I got and I actually met a couple guys worth my time. One of the guys I met actually wanted to have a long term relationship with me, and really I wanted the same thing. Except the other night my ex-boyfriend was talking to my bestfriend and telling him how much he liked Ashleigh except that she was no Jennifer(me of course). He was telling her how he still had a choice in the matter because he knew I would take him back being that I told him I would when it all happened in the first place. As you can probably see everything I ever thought about that guy I met went right out the window as soon as I heard that my exboyfriend might actually be coming back. I know he loves me and I know i love him more than I could ever say, but what I don't understand is why he left me in the first place and why hes having a hard time just moving on with his new girlfriend and forgetting about me.. Being that it was his decision in the first place... Can someone help me with this? Thanks ~Jenn
  4. I know how you feel.. About a month ago my boyfriend left me for another girl and the whole year we were together he always tried to assurre me he would never leave me, and that he was so called "different" than other guys. It was really hard for me to trust him and put aside my pride and independence, but after awhile I didnt have much of a choice because he would always yell at me and tell me how I needed to trust him and bla bla bla.. I guess what I'm trying to say is if you love the girl give her the space she needs. I know that when my ex boyfriend was going through a lot he told me he needed space and he didn't talk to me for about a month or so, but let me tell you.. thats the best thing I couldve done was give him time. I know that I want my boyfriend back more than anything, and its been a month, and I admit I sit in my bed everyday and pray that he'd realize he can't live without me anymore, but things happen for a reason, and if you really want her back than you have to be willing to put up with her anger and how she treats you. You have to forgive her for her lying and bitterness. What i have been doing was doing everything imaginable to keep me busy because I know if I'm alone not doing anything than I'll start to think about him and then everything I feel inside will begin to surface. Just trust in your heart that what shes going through will pass and that maybe eventually yall can work through things and everything will be okay. Be prepared for the worse and hope for the best.. If you need anything else.. email me email removed ~Jennifer
  5. Okay I know I posted a message yesterday about My boyfriend cheating on me when he got drunk, and didn't know whether or not something happened.. but honestly.. I think he told me all that because he wanted me to let him go because he wants to be with this other girl, Ashleigh.. All along I've been sitting here telling him who to be with because theres not one time I talk to him that he doesn't mention her.. so I figured that shes obviously doing something right.. I mean what shoud I think? Last night I told him he couldn't have his cake and eat it too, and it was either her or me.. He sat there for awhile and he came out and told me that I was right.. that he wanted to be with Ashleigh.. I feel bad about it because I didn't mean to so called influence his decision because I want nothing more than to be with him its just I cant come out and tell him how I REALLY feel.. Its just I don't understand how he is going to sit there and throw everything away, not only our relationship, but our friendship that weve built in the last 4 years. Before he gets so far gone in Ashleigh, I want him to know how I feel, and I want to tell him soo bad, its just I'm scared hes not going to want to hear it now.. I just need advice in general.. how do I handle this situation? I don't want to lose him..I know he loves me its just weve been fighting a lot lately and of course that never helps a relationship.... Thanks ~Jenn
  6. Last night I was on the phone with my boyfriend, Jaret. When he called we were getting a long really good, It was just like an ordinary phone call... but when it was time for him to get off the phone he told me he was sorry. I didn't know what he was talking about, so I asked him sorry for what? And he told me that he was sorry for what he could've done.. and I was just like o..k..? And after getting on his nerves and asking him a numerous of times what he was talking about, he told me that he didn't know what happened... That the night before he got drunk and woke up yesterday half dressed. I don't really know what to think of the situation because something could've happened, but than again theres a possibility that nothing could've happened..I know that If I were on the other side of the situation I would want him to forgive me. Its just after I got off the phone I sat and cried and cried because I didn't know what in the world I had done to deserve this. From the very start I have always been more than faithful to him and when I see other guys I don't thnk twice about them. Its just I want to forgive him, but I just don't think my heart is going to let me forgive him this time. Not even a month ago he told me he had been lying to me about being a virgin, and I forgave him, Its just maybe I shouldn't forgive him because it seems like when I do he just does something else stupid.... He called me this morning, but luckily I was still asleep. In case he calls again today I need to know what to tell him...What do you think I should do? Thanks ~Jenn
  7. Well yeah It does piss me off.. and I mean IT REALLY DOES... But than again I don't feel like I have any other choice than to forgive him. I kind of made myself see that its nothing I should be mad about, even though i know inside I feel so.... betrayed... But thats how life is sometimes, and I know if I were in his shoes I would want him to forgive me... so ya know..
  8. well I mean he like had to drag my past out of me... and he expected me to tell him.. So why the heck couldn't he tell me? I mean I don't get it..
  9. Me and this guy have been together almost a year. From the very start he has always insisted that I trust him and hes always tried to prove to me thats he is different than all the other guys. Saturday night the converstaion of sex came up... and well he knows I'm not a virgin, and he accepts that, and hes always telling me that through eyes I'm still a virgin and I'm just as pure as I was to begin with... but even before we started dating hes always told me that he was a virgin, and that everytime he had the chance he didn't because something was missing, as in he didn't feel the way he shouldve about the girl...He didn't love them.. put it that way.. Well Saturday night he brought up that he thought it was "time" for us to have sex because we both love eachother and bla bla bla.. Honestly.. I freaked out.. I mean that conversation just came to me as a surprise, I knew it was coming eventually but he just kinda of caught me off guard.. Well anyways he confessed that he had lied to me, and that he wasn't a virgin.. Of course I had to beg him to tell me, but still.. He told me that if he were to tell me I would probably never talk to him again and never answer his calls and so on.. so I wanted to prove him wrong and just act like he didn't lie to me all the 3 years I've known him. The point that he lied to me changes the way i feel about him because I don't know whether he can be trusted. Its not the whole point about what he lied to me about, but the whole point he lied.. All along hes always been accusing me of keeping something from him, which isn't true.. and here he is keeping something so big from me.. I mean I can't believe he has the nerve.. I love this boy to death, and I want to forgive him but I'm so scared that hes going to lie to me again.. Hes forgiven me for a lot, so really I don't feel like I have any other choice but to forgive him... Please tell me what you think... Thanks ~Jenn
  10. Well i don't really know how to say all of this, but here it goes.. Me and this guy Jaret have been talking to eachother, and I guess in a sense you could say we're bf & gf. Well a couple weeks ago I was talking to his older brother and his brother asked me if I loved Jaret.. and I told him that I did love him but wasn't sure about the whole "being in love with him" thing anymore.. Well of course his brother went back and told Jaret and of course I had to give an explanation on why I was beginning to feel like that. Well Jaret took it as I didn't want to be with anymore and he got rather offensive I guess you could say.. I didn't talk to him for 2 weeks after we had our last little talk about why I didn't love him anymore. Well in the middle of the night Jaret called me just to tell me he loved me.. I just don't get it. I talked to him about a week ago and all he could talk about was other girls.. His ex, Liz and this girl he went to prom with Ashleigh.. Well he told me that if he were to date someone it would be Asheigh, but only because she reminds him so much of me, and he tried to assure me of how much me and Ashleigh are alike.. Well after he got done with that he started talking about some girl he took out on a date named Julie, and honestly I don't know where that came from but he told me that while he was on the date with her he called her Jennifer (my name) and she hadn't talked to him sense. Well after I started crying, he told me that he had to go because it was late anyway, and he had to get up early the next day. Well He told me he loved me and I wouldn't say it back, and he wanted to know why.. and I was like Jaret.. after everything you just said why in the world would I love you? And of course he wasn't too thrilled, and we hung up.. Well not even 30 seconds after I got off the phone I called him right back and told him I loved him and that if he felt like he needed to see other people then to go right ahead. Well then he said no Jennifer.. don't you understand I told you all that to make you jealous because I miss you, I don't get to talk to you anymore, and I miss that. I didn't really understand what to make of it, or whether he was lying to me or not. I mean why sit there and tell me about all these other girls? Its only going to make it worse.. I don't know how to handle the situation, and I'm just so confused.. can someone please tell me what they think... Thank You Sorry So long... ~Jennifer
  11. Okay well my boyfriend and I live about 250 miles apart. Since hes a senior this year, of course he has prom.. A couple of weeks ago he told me, well he asked me if he could go with this girl as friends..and I had to tell him yeah, because that would just be mean if I didn't. After I told him he could I was quiet for awhile, I had to let the whole idea of his spending prom with another girl soak in. After about 5 minutes I just kinda came out of no where and asked him if he was going to kiss her..and he said he didn't know, not if I didn't want him to. And I know this sounds really dumb.. but I told him to kiss her. I just figured even if he did kiss her it wouldn't mean anything because he loves me. By the way... Prom was last Saturday....For the last week I have tried calling him and hes never home which makes me think thats hes out with this girl. I know he has a job and friends, but for as long as I have known him hes never not home all week.. I feel like something happened between him and that girl and hes avoiding me.. I don't know what to think. I don't want to call him anymore because I don't want to seem like I'm in desperate need of talking to him.. Yet I don't want to wait around for him to call me.. What should I do? Thanks ~Jenn
  12. I know what its like to be where you are, its not easy. You get your hopes up and then they all come crashing down. But let me tell you this.. If this girl doesn't like you, forget her.. shes not good enough for you to begin with. Even though you probably feel like its your loss, its really hers. Go out and meet some new girls, do things you like doing to take your mind off this girl. We all go through this at least once in our life, but it only makes us stronger when we come out of it. We have to travel down some roads, and have our heartbroken in order for us to meet the girl/guy of our dreams.. believe me.. Life isn't easy, but when you meet that girl, you'll know.. Good Luck ~Jenn
  13. Well let me say this.. You may change the way you are and the way you behave, but that isn't going to help the relationship unless she changes her way of life also. I can understand that she has a lot on her with school, especially law school. All you can really do is be there for her and I know its probably hard because of the way she treats you, but just understand that she probably needs you way more than you think right now. You seem to love this girl a lot, and if thats the case, stand by her. I believe that you need to tell your feelings to her, and explain to her how you feel when she treats you badly. Be open with her. Communication is the key to relationships of all kinds. Good Luck ~Jenn
  14. Honestly, I believe that meeting with your ex like that is a good idea. If you love the girl, then why not? At least you'll get the chance to see if things are meant to work out or if they aren't. There are plenty of us that wish we would have had a second chance, and never got it. Don't take this time spent with her for granted, if you get the chance, go for it. She seems to still love you, and by what you say I could see y'all being a couple once more. Hang in there, and like she said, go with what happens..Even if y'all are not meant to be, eventually you'll meet someone new, even though I know thats hard to imagine, but believe me, it hapens to people everyday. For the longest time you think you could never have anyone better, and eventually you wake up and see the light, that there is someone out there greater than you thought... Just be prepared for the worst and hope for the best... Good Luck ~Jenn
  15. Everyone has qualities.. everyone is good at something... yeah of course there is always someone that can do it better, but so what? God made you who you are.. because thats who he wanted you to be. He made everyone beautiful, and if we weren't all so caught up in what the society sees as beautiful we wouldn't judge people by appearance, we would judge them from whats on the inside. Maybe youre not a girl that everyone thinks is beautiful,but if you think about it, theres not one person who everytone thinks is drop dead gorgeous, everyone has their own opinion, but you also need to have an opinion about yourself, an uplifting one at that. Love yourself for who you are, not what you might want to be. Everyone was put on this Earth for a reason, not all of us know what that purpose was, but we are all here to make a difference, whether its in one person's life, or 100 people's lives. Stop looking at what you don't have, or don't like about yourself. Look for everything that is wonderful about you. Like they you can't ever expect someone to love you, when you don't love yourself. I have learned over the years that loving yourself is the best thing you can do. It will get you through anything that life throws at you. You are a beautiful and wonderful person, and youre worthy of everything.. no matter what people tell you. ~Jenn email removed
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