tinkerlizzie

both of your replies mean so much thank you! i just tried talking to him about it and he got all defensive...anyway it means a lot!

my bf and i spent a few hours watching porn nd touching ourselves. we then went to his place to have sex. we had the most craziest sex yet, but he was unable to restrain himself and came too early before i had reached my peak. still determined, he continued to pleasure me but nothing happened. this didnt bother me cause if i dont come it isnt the end of the world, and i care about his pleasure before mine. yet, he seemed upset that he peaked too soon and we both got dressed quicker than usual and drove to my place in silence. i assured him that i wasnt upset and thanked him for everything, but he still seems pissed. did i do something wrong? is there something i can do to make him feel better?

thank you. the think is that i already have on several occations and its still no. i just wish theyd understand an trust me

..WOW thats a lot to think about. my parents do know and like him, my mom assumes wre having sex and my dad doesnt even want to think about it. ive staed there before and he at my house when they were outta town, but i wanted to be upfront and ask them truthfully. they think thell be setting a precident, that if i do it once then ill always ask to

im 18 still live w/ parents and to to college. my bf is 21 and weve been together for 2 years. i really want to stay the night there but my parents wont let me. is this wrong? any advice on convincing?

i first started enotalone 4 years ago when i was with my last bf, and i stopped after 2 years. and never, never before have i receive such heartfelt responces so quickly! i left out a bit becasue i really wasnt expecting relpies. my family is majory dysfunctional. my mom is..well..not well, and my dad has always been verbally and physically abusive to me, my mom and my sisters. they are irresponsible-forget about me at times and my bfs ngative view of them is because of this. that is why he wants me to move out with him. i see what he sees and want to leave too, but the whole controlling factors is what is holding me back. im sort of stuck in a rut-stay with family or leave with bf..and i dont know what to do. i love my bf tons despite his quailites i dont like. he does have a temper because he used to (and now picked it up again despite my wishes, but is not doin it as much as he did before) smokes weed and that can take a massive hold on his emotions. he doesnt want me havin girls night out , but i dont want him to smoke. he doesnt listen to me but despite my feelings i respect his wishes and refrain from doin things that i want. when i confront him in it he looks at me like im stupid and "why didnt you?" making it seem as if he doesnt realize his effect on me. ugh its just all drama. i dont expect relpies but thanks for takin time to read

my boyfriend is very controlling. he doesnt like it if i hang out with my friends, that i go to college, or that i want to be independent. he always assuses me of cheating or wanting to cheat. weve been together for 2 years and both came from realationships where weve been cheated on. my ex cheated on me 7 times w/ 7 different girls 2 of them my close friends. his ex cheated on him once. i find it unfair that he accuses me when i should be him. he controlls what i wear, how much i drink etc. hes 21 and im 18. he has a terrible temper. he talks * * * * about my family. on the other hand he can be very sweet and giving, and he wants me to live with him. any advice?

im so happy for you! how long has it been since youve seen him? i personally dont think you should be worring or anthing. it was a big step for the both of you (since 2nd grade thats so cool) and maybe he needs time to think things over. i dont think you should be unhappy at all. give him time to get back to you, and if he doesnt, then approach thinks as if nothing happened and bring it up...talking things out is the best way to go. i wish you all the best. liz

i know what it feels like to endlessly return to that one you gave it all to. and i know what its like to try to break it off and then go back out of missing that person. and i know it sucks to hear this but i think you should continue to not talk to her. she will realize what a stand your taking and how being ignored really hurts. (ha get her back for hurting you!!) she will get a taste of her own medicine..and itll taste preety nasty : ) you dont deserve that much physical and emotional pain. and moving on is the hardest part. but if you continue to not talk to her, the reality of not being taken back this time will hit her hard...and maybe eventually change her for the better. let her go, you will love yourself for it later on. once youve hit the bottom, the only way you have to go is up

my cousin and my best frined are in love. i want them to be happy and i deny all hurt feelings when asked about the situation. i lie about how i feel to keep them happy, but then again, im going insane. what should i do? ~lizzie

hi its me again...same guy, different problem. for those who dont know the situation (hi im liz) my problem last time was getting over the breakup, now were not together, but still intimate... hes moving on. since we broke up hes fooled with my good friend, then confessed and apologized. i forgave and forgot..as always. weve stayed close friends, and after a few fights and attempts to end it forever, we still see eachother intimatly and have had sex twice(in 2 months). we tell eachother we love eachother(we do..) and we would be together if not for my desfunctional (the skys the limit) family. we talk every now and then and when we do, we talk for hours. if we see eachother, and sexual things arent occurring, we have a blast. basically i love him so much still. hes a really great guy, and best friend, even when we have our problems. but were not together. and i know hes looking into other girls(not BEING WITH sexually or what not) and im looking into other guys...but with him still in mind. i think of us as still being in a "relationship" so im not in a hurry to be with someone else. (im confused about him on this part..he says he loves me but...?) my closest cousin and best friend disapprove of him because he can be a jerk and because hes supposeavly talking behind my back. i usually jump to conclusions and blame him and thus beings the fights. and when i do call him on it, he denies it. so i dont know who do believe, my family or him. i love him still, but im confused on what that means. should i believe my family end it with him and move on? or continue being with him and work things out..agian? thank you for reading and i appreciate your advice ~lizzie

almost a month ago my boyfriend and i broke up. (we were together for 9 months) the reason: he was too stressed out. i mean we did fight a lot more as the months progressed, and taking a break was a need, but it was a hard choice for me to make. all i wanted was him happy. during our relationship weve shared so much sexually. and its hard to let go of that connection especially when your not willing to let go of the person. during our "break" we secretly continued our sexual actuvity, but this time we had sex; the one thing i never wanted to give up, especially if i wasnt with the person was taken. i wasnt forced, i wanted it too. i was still in love with him as he was with me, and i wanted that connection more than anything. but i ended up leaving the situation in tears and feeling used. we're still "close friends"--well at least we were. (we barely talk anymore) hes now ready to move on and meet other people because hes now certain that he doesnt want to be with me. his only setback is how ill react when hes with someone else. he still wants to be my friend but i cant stand knowing that hes over it all and im still lingering in past memories and recent hurts. i give him the seperation he needs, and when i (rarely) mention my lonliness, he gets mad and claims that im making him feel bad. he is such a huge part of my life, and im trying to get past all of the things weve shared, good and bad and the fact that hes been disrespecting me as a person since we broke up. i think about leaving him period, not even being his friend, but he doesnt want me to leave, and as much as it hurts, i cant leave it myself. any advice?