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  1. When I made that sarcastic remark " I hope I can find TP at the store" I was sincerely surprised when she reacted by saying "let me know if you can't". I realized then that it was more serious than I thought. She had had an incident where someone yanked a package of TP out of her hands in early 2020 when all the panic buying was happening. But, it's hard to get a read on her sometimes because she actually laughs about that incident now. So, maybe that's why I took a liberty with my sarcastic remark. But he reaction was one of concern, so I pulled back. One night, she messages me. She says "hey...you up? I need to talk". So we video chatted awhile. She says "I am getting unfriended left and right. Then she told me that it was because she was posting old outdated memes to other people's pages. So, I say "yeah...maybe stop with that". Now, I do believe that posting to other people's pages is something she CAN control. And, for what it's worth, the old outdated memes she was posting to other people's pages were funny ones. That's when I said "hey...maybe share some current funny stuff to friend's pages. Because those 2020 jokes are kind of over now. Ya know?" and the whole time, we are both laughing. Then, I used seeing Jack Tripper falling over the coffee table on Three's Company for the 70th time as an example. She liked that. She laughed. Believe it or not, she wants me to make her laugh. And yeah, sometimes I may poke a little and have a "come on, snap out of it" tone and that's not always appropriate. But, that aside, if she says lighten the mood, I am going to lighten the mood.
  2. Yes, for my own selfish reasons, it'd be good to have her back. Yeah, I said it. That's selfish of me, sure. But it also speaks to how much I wish the previous version of her could return so she could hike and camp and go to museums and offbeat attractions in other areas of the country. The things SHE used to do and ENJOYED doing and wishes she could again. Maybe she will one day and maybe she won't. This could be permanent. For her sake, I hope it isn't. But, it may very well be. Yes, it SO inconveniences me!! It makes me sit with my arms folded pouting like a child. 🙄
  3. Maybe if you'd have been a part of the conversation her and I had had, you'd have a better understanding. Chill out was NOT meant to be offensive. Just an FYI, my friend thought that my Three's Company reference was funny. That had to do with her posting a toilet paper meme on someone else's page and I said "imagine seeing Jack Tripper fall over the coffee table, again. Are you still laughing after seeing it for four years and probably the 60th or 70th time?". We were both laughing when we were having that particular talk. And I must say, it was really good hearing her laugh again.
  4. That is a great idea. I'm setting mine that way as we speak
  5. Chill out. I was referring to when she asked me to be completely straight with her about some things. What had happened was, she was starting to go to her friends FB pages and post old, outdated things about 2020. They stated to unfriend her as a result. So that’s when I said that even if 2020 were a happy time, people are going to get tired of hearing about it, especially on THEIR pages. And let’s just call a spade a spade here. People get tired of things like having their own pages inundated with posts from someone else, no matter if said individual is suffering from anxiety or not. That’s when I said that about watching Three’s Company and seeing the same old joke a thousand times. And let me be clear, a lot of what she was posting to her friends’ pages, as recently as this year, 2023, were joke memes about toilet paper and hand sanitizer. Hence the reason I used the Three’s Company reference when she asked me to be straight with her. No, people aren’t going to laugh about toilet paper 3 years later, even if it was funny three years ago. The issue is, she says “be straight with me” so I tell her to at least stop going to friends’ pages with old outdated posts and memes showing a group of people playing poker for toilet paper and hand sanitizer. She says ok, stops for maybe a day before starting back up again
  6. I don't know why anyone would enjoy reliving 2020. Lord, what a horrendous time. If I never again heard another word about that year and all that it entailed, it would still be way too soon, LOL. I mean, even if 2020 were a happy time, like everything else, things have a season and they come and go. When she was asking me to be straight up with her regarding her continued 2020 interest, I told her "well, let's say it's 1980...you're watching an episode of Three's Company and Jack Tripper falls over the coffee table, again. Are you still laughing after seeing it for four years and probably the 60th or 70th time?"
  7. Exactly. I told her that if she continued with that, the number of FB friends that had dropped from over 100 to less than 10 would eventually go to 0. It's like she's lost without something 2020 related to discuss. Be it the virus, the protests and riots, broken supply chains, murder hornets, wildfires, the 2020 election, the pushback from some on the stay at home orders, shortages of guns and ammo, etc. Then she started taking all that to friends' pages and it got rather heated fast. Virus related anxiety aside, I wonder if 2020 kind of kept her on the edge of her seat and entertained her, so to speak, and now, things are much quieter and not as interesting.
  8. You're right. Seeing so many people walk away from her was sad. I will say this though. She had gotten to where all she would post were things from 2020. That included posting those things to friends pages, even after they had asked her more than a few times not to do it. That included not only virus memes, but also outdated news stories about the racial injustice protests. Politics got involved and that rarely, if ever, lead to anything good. So, she didn't exactly do herself any favors there. Still, I wished it didn't result in so many people leaving her
  9. When she started to live again, her mindset was "goodbye Covid fears". She even said as much. Then a relative got Covid for the second time and she was right back into the early, pre-vaccine and uncertain days of the pandemic. Her relative recovered in no time and even said that his second bout with Covid was barely noticeable. That relative has spoken with her at length and told her that his second bout with the virus should serve as proof that it's ok to live again, as the virus does not present the danger that it once did. I know that she WANTS to overcome it. She even said that she misses hiking and camping something fierce. I hurt for her there, because I know how much she LOVES those activities. I think that it's going to take a long period of time where nobody that she knows contracts the virus. Had that relative not caught it again, I believe she'd be ok right now, as she had started to live again. I wished I had not made the sarcastic remark about how I hoped I could find TP in the stores, because she freaked out. Like she thought it was happening again. I did tell her that it was probably a good idea to chill with the outdated posts and memes, and the only reason I said something there was, she mentioned that she was being unfriended left and right on social media. She went from over 100 friends on FB to less than 10. I told her "I don't say chill with the outdated posts to be indifferent towards what you're going through. I say it because it's causing people to walk away". And it seems that she took what I said to heart. I don't want to jump up and down and get too excited just yet, but her tenor seems a little different now. She does seem like she's in a frame of mind of "ok....deep breaths....maybe I can try again". So...fingers crossed.
  10. It’s really disheartening because she has been a good friend in the past. When my dad died in 2017, she made me her number one priority, even though her dad had died not terribly long before that. She put her own grief second so as to care for me. I guess that’s why I’m hoping against hope that we can navigate through this somehow. She has qualities that are really hard to find
  11. I apologize. I should not have been so knee jerky. You’re right. Her and I are at an impasse on this subject. I told her last time we spoke (in a sarcastic manner) that I hoped I could find toilet paper on my next trip to the store and she responded that if I couldn’t to let her know. Like…she didn’t get the sarcasm. I started to say “umm…you know I’m joking, right?” But I declined on saying anything. The fact that she responded as if we were in the days of the toilet paper craze really told me a lot. I’m to the point of praying for her, just so she can get some sort of peace of mind, even if it’s just a little bit. My response to you was of the knee jerk variety and I do apologize
  12. You’re right. Who in the world knows what “taking it seriously” really looked like, As we were told time and again all throughout the whole ordeal “there is no one size fits all”
  13. @boltnrun I wasn’t saying that I didn’t empathize with the anxiety. Not at all. I was referring to when she says she believes that another pandemic is “right around the corner”. The likelihood of that is not high, considering the one prior to Covid was 100 years earlier. I’m saying that I wish she’d look at it that way. I never said that I didn’t emphasize with her anxiety. No, the next pandemic isn’t “right around the corner. That much I can say with a great deal of confidence and I’ve said it to her so as to hopefully ease her mind a bit. I assure you that I DID I repeat DID take the Covid 19 pandemic very seriously. I didn’t shrug it off. Look, even if another one did hit, I would not have the latitude to return to my home and stay there like before. It’s not that simple. So please don’t make assumptions that I was one of the ones who just said “eh…it’s just the flu…no biggie”. For your information, I had to make some very tough decisions during the height of Covid. Like chance being killed by a tornado or chance the contracting the virus. You think that was easy? Knock on wood, when I had to chance the virus so as to be in a tornado shelter with a lot of people who were having to do the same thing, I somehow got lucky and didn’t catch it. But to some people, that was me “not taking the pandemic seriously”
  14. Exactly. That’s the thing that gets me. She’s certainly much smarter than she’s been acting lately. She should be able to reason and grasp that we aren’t going to see something like this again in this lifetime.
  15. Just like she can’t talk me into returning to 2020. Just kind of ranting for a minute, I can’t for the life of me fathom why anyone would want to time travel back to that. For me it was an extremely dark time. Contrary to what she proclaims, I did take it very seriously. But I also knew that there would come a time when society would need to resume and learn to live with Covid as best we could. We’ve come a long way from the early days of it, at least from my observations. But….I can’t tell her that. Or I can, and she nods like she agrees but deep down, her heart and mind are in 2020 never land. I can’t help but wonder what others who know her think. I haven’t asked them, but I wonder if they’ve grown weary of mask and toilet paper memes 3 years later. I haven’t said anything to her, but I’ve said many a time to myself “dang girl, we get it. People went crazy and bought up all the toilet paper in early 2020”. But…I can sit and shake my head and have all the consternation in the world over it and it won’t change a thing. I can’t put the round peg in the square hole. My efforts will simply be better served with someone else
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