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  1. You think it is screwing it up but it's not. She's chosen to be with someone else regardless of what she texts you by you disappearing and doing NC you are no longer there while you are there she knows you are on standby. If she wanted to be with you she would be regardless of the baby. By not been there she may start to miss you and realise shes made the wrong decision. Maybe just send her a text saying while she is with somebody else you can't really be in contact with her and you need space then leave & disappear.
  2. Hey Dave, Me again! You will be so sick of me soon! In the above you mention about things that backfire etc, my ex still has to collect the rest of his things but before the break up he was very home sick so I went online and bought a really old postcard of his home town (he collects really old postcards) anyway it was to cheer him up and we were due to visit his mum just before the split and was going to go with him to find the street on the postcard. Anyway the post card arrived in the mess of the split so I never gave him it so I have just stuck it with all his things with a note saying I got him it when he was homesick and that it arrived in the post in the mess of things and just said he may as well have it. Do you think I should remove the note or just leave it with the postcard or is this just going to annoy him? I want him to have the post card and its no use to me but unsure on the note? But if I didnt include the note and just gave him it he would wonder what it is?
  3. Nothing is ever simple... I'm now worried tho because he had this fb page that he uses so he can log into his fb fan page for his blog anyway he never had friends on it but now he has the girl plus three of her mates on there and only one of his no one else its as if its a secret bubble anyway I don't think he knows its not set to private so everyone can see all the comments him & this girl are sending to each other. I have blocked both so I can't see but people keep telling me things they write to each other which makes me so ill and angry I have asked them to stop. Its like he actually has no respect for me and my feelings if he can do this anyway I got upset in front of my best mate about it and said I was sick of hearing things. Anyway she mailed him and said the following its not word for word as she only told me....He knows me more than anyone so he prob knows how I'm feeling at the mo and just told him that in case he didn't know that his page is not set to private so people can see and things are getting back to me. She said he should respect me and turn it to private as all Ive done is love him and thought the feelings were mutual so all this ending has come as a big shock to me and the way hes acting is not like him or the person we loved and hopes he can take some of what she said on board. I'm glad that she stuck up for me and said it as it was really making me ill but now I'm panicking that he knows how I'm getting on or how I'm feeling from her mail when Ive managed to keep up 14 days NC I just hope it hasn't messed my NC up even though its nothing to do with me if that makes sense. Any thoughts, I just hope it hasnt?
  4. He knew my thoughts that I wanted to work it out tho when it ended I feel if I mail anything like that he still knows I'm here waiting. Until he messages with anything positive I think I should just stay NC as hes still with her. I have just stayed doing stuff and kept busy still sad tho but I havnt give him any information to let him know how Im getting on etc. My house mate just said I was ok that was it.
  5. He was supposed to mail my housemate to sort all this out not me. I dont know if I should just get my friend to sort it rather than me and just carry on with NC? What do you think? I dont know if I could cope with seeing him so soon esp when the mail is so blunt? He has been back once already for stuff but didnt take the stereo n cds. So confused with what to do.
  6. I got this from my ex today I feel sick don't really know how to go about it as I feel so ill I get annoyed that hes asking how I am as he knows Im going to be a wreck! Hi, How're are you doing? I was just wondering if I could pick up my CD's and Stereo. I'm sure you don't want them hanging around either. I can't do it until thursday morning or friday morning this week or anytime after that. Hope you are well. Let me know Any advice of what to do?
  7. I know thank you, its silly how we think of them more than ourselves when there the ones that left! Went out with a friend tonight and it took my mind off it somewhat!
  8. Thanks Dave for this thread, I am been so brave its so hard sometimes but have done 12 days NC feel the worst but got to keep going. Weird thing is ages ago when we knew a couple that broke up and I said god if you ever dumped me I wouldnt talk to you for about a year, so do you think he will just think Im doing that? Just get so angry its so hard everything. Im going out tonight with a friend to take my mind of things X
  9. I would just leave it longer as when me & my ex had our first major argument I text like mad etc when he said he wanted space it wasnt until he ended it that I have gone NC I took it that he ended it as he didnt really speak. From then on Ive left him if he thinks the grass is greener with this other person then I have to just leave it. When I first argued with him over it his reason for wanting to split up was because he shouldnt be hurting me like he was doing the right thing thats when he said he needed to think, I think he didnt do much thinking as he works with this girl and know he will have just got drunk and could tell when he came round he wasnt sure if it should end or not by all the contradicting answers he gave me. But still it ended and since then Ive stuck with no contact its really really hard to do but I think you should just try leaving it for a bit XX
  10. Just so hard when everything was perfect then to wrong within a week, all the signs / things my ex said when we broke up suggest GIGS but it says theres nothing you can do and you just have to move on. I was about to move in with this guy now nothing.
  11. Maybe just try your hardest to do NC, I really thought what use is this doing me but I read a post today about it all and really there's nothing I can do, my ex knows how I feel and that I wanted to sort things out so what's the point in me mailing him to re tell him that. I want to mail him to tell him he's not really had much respect for me since finishing it but why should I tell him that! He should just know not to do it, he's a kind kind guy or was so everything is disappointing me. I have no idea what's going through his mind nor will ever know and if I just keep trying to go over it and over it its not going to get me anywhere as hard as it all is I really have to give him space even if he does or doesn't know what he wants. Let him learn by his mistakes and if he thinks the grass is greener then there's nothing I can do, I started to think I had done something wrong but I hadn't he just thinks hes done the right thing and only time will tell if he thinks he has. I have to just grin & bare it! Try your hardest to go NC and even if she messages you just ignore it or if you feel you do cave after a few days to her texts say you have been busy. She prob knows you are there still so its easy for her. Hope it helps XXX
  12. I am on my 12th day maybe of NC but Im finding it so hard I wake up ill think about him every minute, I feel he has gone and done the grass is greener thing but its so hard sitting back while they are with someone. I suppose I feel the NC isnt helping me or feels like it isnt? I know that my ex must be thinking about me as you don't just walk away from a 14 month relationship so easy well knowing him I know he will be thinking about me but feel the mess he got himself into just escalated to a bigger mess. But then I think he will be thinking of me but why is he going with this other girl. So confused and finding NC so hard! X
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