MISSINGYOU2004

DEAR ALL, MY EX HAS GIVEN ME ANOTHER CHANCE, She has forgiven me, last night was a really special day for me, we went out on a dinner date, she told me she has broken up with her ex that she had gone to, because she didnt love him and loved me, we went out to dinnner, talked made up and dropped her off home with a kiss goodnight. Im so happy so everyone who has helped me along the way thank you for being there I am back with her and happier than ever, and more appreciative than ever, I will never make the same mistakes, talk to everyone later, and please go with your heart and never give up, i love you all.

Look dont say that about yourself I was once 18 I once thought I would never meet a girl, thats not true the way you are thinking. Trust me girls dont care much about looks anyways, they want a guy who will be there for them emotionally. They want someone they can talk to and trust. Look this is a important lesson in life, if you dont fail if you dont get rejected you will never win, in order for you to win in life you have to lose that is the rule of it. If you went out to a club , party, or anywhere and went and talked to lets say 20 girls at least 1 of them will talk to you and then you will have a date. dont worry, you need to get your low confidence out of you, you have to remember you are the best person in the whole word and go after it and if you get rejected thats the girls loss not yours, go get that punani. if you need anything write me back. I used be be in your shoes I can relate, now im 25 and my problem now is that I have 2 girls that are in love with me and I do not know what to do, that is my problem. So dont worry be strong, become confident, try focusing on a hobby or something that you like, and that will make you strong, since you are good at it. and people will flow right to you, you will then have to decide which girl you want. okay take care I hope I can helped you a little, the rest is all up to you.

My exgirlfriend is playing games with me, well I started it, I left the state and didnt contact her for 2 months, she called me I never called her back, when I came back to her state, I started to call her because I learned that I luv her, anyways to make a story short, she tells me she has gotten back with her ex. The main reason for this is because she was hurt and needed someone to rebound too that is understandable too. Then we go out on two dinner friend dates she seems thats she really likes me, and tells me that with time she will forgive me and take me back, that she needs time to break up with her ex. She tells me that she wants to take me to a concert soon, that she cares for me and that she really likes me. I tell her look I dont want to play games, but deep down I know that she is getting revenge on me for what I did to her, she is giving me a taste of my own medicine, which is very understandable and I admire. Sunday she calls me, then says she will call again, she doesnt. Then I decide to do the no contact rule, I do it, go through the pain, then on Wednesday night she calls and is like why havnt you called me, I tell her you were supposed to call me, she says she has to go and will call me after 9pm so we can discuss some important stuff, 9pm rolls up she never calls me, I will not call unless she calls me because she told me she will call. I understand she is playing games, well she is 18 she has a reason too, im 25 , I really do luv her, I know I have to move on, but deep down it was me who messed up not her, she is just taking revenge. Does anyone see this as healty, maybe I should let her play these games with me until she sees that she has done enough to hurt me, well all these experiences has taught me so much, I will never hurt another girl again. I have met a new girl who is older and more mature, she is great, but I still miss my ex and the wonderful times that we shared, we went through a lot of things together and made things work out with us. Right now she is in pain for making her go through her being alone during the Christmas Holidays, I didnt calll her christmas, or new years, I just lost all contact because I was somewhere else having fun, so anyone what do you think in my situation. I think I should let her do her thing, and if she really cares for me and really wants me back she will call me and make the effort, does anyone think its a good idea for me to go back to her, I want her back again. Please give me your opinions anyone, I will continue the no contact rule until she calls me and keep playing along, and not show any emotions. HELP SOMEONE PLEASE I SO CONFUSED.

Dear Kuhl, I just ready your response to my post, I just wanted to let you know thank you for taking the time to explain this to me, thanks for caring, you are right I am not in the right state of mind, this is not a MOVIE. I really liked your response and I am going to try to move on and leave the past in the past and my mistakes in the past. You also answered my second question if going back to your ex the relationship works or not, you told me yours only lasted one week. So I need to just move forward and take it slowly with this new girl and just never make the same mistakes twice, it is really really hard, I will go get the book, thanks again for all your help your help did make a difference, now I have to fight time and the pain, and if she does call me I will keep it short , so I can move on, thank you again.

I need serious help, Im so lost, my heart is shattered, I cant sleep, I do not know what to do, my ex has gone back to her ex, the reason for this is all my fault. I put my ex through two months of pain, I went out of state to visit my family and disappeared for 2 months without calling her or letting her know how I was doing, when I return to her state where I live I call her and she tells me she has gotten back with her. I know deeply why she got back with him is because she missed me and was in so much pain that she went back with him to help heal the pain, we went out to dinner a few days ago, we talked about everything, she told me that she still cares for me, and that she really likes me, but she told me that she cant believe that I have changed, and only with time she will see. She told me she would call me the next day which she did, then she said she would call again she didnt. I dont think she is playing games, she just wants to do exactly the same thing I did to her on me, and it really really hurts. My question is I have met another girl, exactly what she did she went to her ex to hide the pain, but this other girl is very very good to me, should I tell this new girl about my last relationship, I do not want to hurt her, also if things dont work out with my ex I want to go with this new girl. But my heart is still with my ex, because she is a challenge and I love challenges, is the no contact rule okay if she is dating her ex, or should I call sometimes to check up on her, what if she calls me back in a one month or two and wants me back should I go back with her, do going back with your ex girlfriends work out good. please someone who has ever been in my position try to help me out , thank you very much.

HELLO, I HAVE HAD NO CONTACT WITH MY EX FOR 1 DAY, ITS HARD MY FRIEND SAYS I SHOULD BUY HER A DIAMOND BRACELET THAT SAYS THIS IS A SYMBOL OF MY LOVE AND RESPECT FOR YOU, AND IT IS TO SHOW YOU THAT I WILL NEVER HURT YOU AGAIN, WHAT DO YOU GUYS THINK OF THIS. IN MY OPINION MY EX IS GETTING REVENGE ON ME, I DIDNT CONTACT HER FOR 2 MONTHS AND LET HER GO THROUGH ALL THIS PAIN, SO I THINK SHE IS TESTING ME OUT, TO SEE IF I HAVE CHANGED AND WILL DO THE SAME FOR HER. AS EVERYONE ON THIS POST WILL SAY TO BE, NO CONTACT IS THE BEST BET TO DO. BUT I HAVE ALSO STARTED TALKING TO THIS NEW GIRL SO I CAN TRY TO MOVE ON, SHE CALLS ME EVERY DAY AND WE HAVE LONG CONVERSATIONS, NOW IM STARTING TO LIKE THIS NEW GIRL, NOW IM SUPER CONFUSED WHAT DO I DO, I DO NOT WANT TO HURT MY EX, I DO NOT WANT TO HURT THIS NEW GIRL. PLEASE SOMEONE HELP MEEEEEEE, SHOULD I LEAVE MY EX IN THE PAST AND LET THE PAST BE IN THE PAST AND GO FOR THE PRESENT WITH THIS NEW GIRL. WHAT SHOULD I DO, I LUV MY EX REALLY MUCH, WE HAVE HAD 6 MONTHS OF TIME TOGETHER , THIS NEW GIRL IS PRETTY GOOD TOO.

Everyone who posted to my post, and gave me a message was right, this girl is playing with me, no more contact, she keeps playing games with me, i dont know what the deal is i cant take this anymore, i need to stop contact with her, if she calls i will keep the conversation very short or i will not pick up the phone, no more contact, this girl is driving me soo crazy i dont know what i do, i need to focus my mind on new things and not this old stuff, i guess once an ex there is never any luck for getting back together, i really luv her and i guess i have to be a man and move on, so sorry guys, no more contact it will be difficult but i will do it. Thank you again everyone

The reason your boyfriend has not slept with you yet, is cause you are 17 he is 20, he is waiting until you come legal, dont you see that, i did the same with my girlfriend, we do not want to suffer consequences, your not legal girl.

michael, over dinner last night she told me that she will get rid of her ex, dont you think that means something. i was the one who messed up, she went back to her ex as a rebound, so she does not go through pain, please let me know your opinion. so are you telling me once its over its over, she told me it will take some time for her to regain the trust back from me, deep down i know she really luvs me and misses me, or maybe do you think i should move on, i have not been in luv like this for a long time. i have dated other girls when she told me she was with her ex, but when i went with them i didnt feel anything, i still had feelings for this girl, please let me know do i move on, i really dont want to move on, i think that she is a good girl and that things can work out. please let me know what you think or anyone else thinks thank

IVE A MALE, IVE HAD MANY RELATIONSHIPS IN MY LIFE, THE BEST ADVICE THAT I CAN GIVE YOU IS THAT GIRLS ARE GUYS THAT ARE CONFIDENT AND STRONG, THEY DONT WANT A WEAK SHY GUY, THEY WANT SOMEONE THAT IS A CHALLENEGE AND THAT THEY CANNOT GET, LADIES REALLY REALLY LIKE A CONFIDENT MAN, WHO KNOWS WHAT HE WANTS IN LIFE AND IS VERY STRONG, THEY DONT LIKE WEAK GUYS, YOU NEED TO STOP BEING SHY AND GOING FOR IT WITH FULL FORCE, LIFE IS WAY TO SHORT TO BE SHY AND SENSITIVE, HUMOR IS ANOTHER THING THAT GIRLS LIKE, ALSO HONESTLY, AND A GOOD HEART.

Hello everyone, i am soooo happy right now its the best feeling ever, last week on sunday my girlfriend broke up with me officially, please read breaking up section titled: breaking up my girlfriend calls me and tells me she got back with her ex anyways deep in my heart i knew that i was the one who messed up and caused her to go back to her ex, because of her pain or maybe she was rebounding, i started to read the posts what do i do how can i get her back, some people told me to do the no contact rule and she will come back to me if she still cared for me, they said no more contact no matter what, i followed that advice for like a day, i couldnt take it: last sunday, she broke me the news, we then went out to dinner as friends, monday i called her, left her a message no reply, tuesday i called her she was at school, told me she would call back, when i got back home i saw there was a missed call from her, this is where i got the green light, that maybe there is some hope, wednesday i called her left her a message to come see me for a few minutes still no reply, still i didnt give up. Thursday i sent her a card, and since it was her brothers birday on the previous monday, sent her brother a small present, on friday she called back to say thank you to me, i didnt pick up she left a message. Friday night all night i was listening to her message over and over again, i knew that deeply i loved this girl and that i needed to get her back any way that i could. So on saturday i called her and left her a message, no call back, again i called her left her a message, told her to call me back i have to tell her something very important, in a few hours she called back. I told her i needed to talk to her, i told her my side i apologized spilled out my hear to her, i told her do you love your ex boyfriend that you are with now, if you do please tell me so i can move on, i respect your decision if you do. She could not tell me that she loved him, she had simply gone back with him because of the pain i put her throw, it was a rebound. I told her i wanted to see her for dinner, she said okay i went to her house we went to dinner and i talked over dinner she was like what do you want to tell me. I was like is there any way i have another chance with you, she looked thought for a while and was like how can i trust you after all you have put me through, how do i know you are going to change, i was like i am and only time can tell. So basically after all this long talk, she told me that she still likes me, and that we can work things out, and know she has to find a way to get rid of her ex boyfriend. We went back to her house to drop her off, her parents told me her, her exboyfriend had come by, she had told her ex that she was tired and was going to go sleep soon, but her parents told the ex, that she had gone out to dinner with me. Wish me luck everyone, she told me she will come visit me today, does anyone have any advice about getting back together and making it work, will it work, will i make the same mistakes, any advice anyone, i really care for this girl and love this girl, she means a lot to me, please anyone who has gone back to their ex's let me know the pros and cons, thank you very much for listening to my story.

Can I get some feedback from anyone, I really need some feedback, my heart is hurting, I am going to do the no contact rule starting today. But I senT out her brother a birday present and her mother and father some pictures of us as they had wanted from me, today. But I Promise no more contact for at least a month, I will learn from my mistake and move on. Please anyone any feedback will help, I want some opionions in regard to my situation, it would be really appreciated. IM HERE ALL ALONE AND ALL LOST, I JUST NEED SOMEONE ELSES THOUGHT ON THIS. ANYONE WHO HAS BEEN DUMPED, WHAT HAVE YOU DONE TO DEAL THROUGH THE PAIN, THANK YOU. WHAT ARE THE CHANCES OF GETTING HER BACK. PS LIL MAMARAINS13 THANKS FOR YOUR REPLY TO MY POST , THANK YOU VERY MUCH. HERE ARE ANSWERS TO YOUR QUESTIONS, I DONT KNOW IF SHE CALLED HER EX OR IF SHE CALLED HIM, BUT ORIGINALLY SHE TOLD ME SHE BROKE UP WITH HER EX BECAUSE HE CHEATED ON HER. I HAVE APOLOGIZED TO HER IN A POEM I WROTE HER AND GAVE TO HER LAST SUNDAY NIGHT, WHEN WE MET AFTER SHE TOLD ME SHE GOT BACK WITH HER EX. FOR NOW THE NO CONTACT RULE, IM GOING TO STICK TO IT.

A LITTLE LONG SORRY BUT PLEASE READ AND TRY TO HELP ME THANK YOU: Here is my story, this is the first time in my entire life I have had a broken heart. I have been dating this girl for about 6 months, for thanksgiving i went back home to visit my family and told her i would return in a week, instead i got stuck there and stayed for 2 months. Over this time she kept calling me trying to figure out where I was, my best friend had just passed away, so I was not calling anyone of my friends or her back. She knew about my best friends death. Anyways one day I call up one of my friends who also knows her, the one who introduced me to her, and we start to talk, and he asks me about her, and I was angry so I was like forget her, I have better girls here where I am. What happened was that she was there and heard this conversation, i learned to never talk shit behind someones back. Anyways i return back to the city where she is at, I date other girls and realize that I am really in love with this girl. So i give her a call, and after 4 days she calls me back, she is like hey how are you doing so you have a girlfriend, im like yes, thinking its her, and she is like I got back with my ex. This hurts because it was 2 months I was not there, and she get back with her ex, why do girls do that is it because they still have feelings for the ex, or is it rebound, or is it from being in soo much pain from me and they jump into something else. So then im really heart broken, and I write her a very very touching poem, and we went out to lunch as friends and I realized how much I have messed up because she was a great girl. I called her from sunday, monday, tuesday, wednesday, on tuesday i saw my phone with a missed call from her, wednesday she didnt call back, after this i going to do the no contact rule since i know now that is the best. thing to do after reading the different posts. She is now with her ex, she told me she works close by my house, where her ex's uncle hooked her up with a job and will visit me sometime, what should I do should I do the no contact rule. This is my first time I was deeply in love and it really really hurts, I have had so much pain, I met another girl, we went out on a date but I kept thinking of my ex, I need to move on, I need to learn from my mistake and move on, but my question is well if in the future after the no contact rule, if she calls me and wants to get back with me, do I accept and get back with her, or will she break my heart again. Please anyone help me I am very very sad over this situation, that I cant work or concentrate. im depresssed.