BabyGirl16
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Contact her. You only have one life to live. take the chance and see what happens. 8)
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Have you heard of the saying that everything happens for a reason? If I were you, I would tell every the truth and tell them the reason why you did not tell them up front. The truth is you obtained feelings for more than one person, but did not want to lose or hurt either of the two, or make a decision that you would regret. Tell everyone the truth because they deserve the chance to make their own decisions and to establish their own feelings....And know that only those who are meant to be in your life will stay a part of it. People come and go, but true friends will last forever. The person that you are meant to be with will look beyond your mistakes and know your true heart and spirit inside. (And from now on, If I were you, I would just be honest about everything so that no one would feel hurt or disapointed)
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You are basically telling me that you are in pain, and feel betrayed and hurt by someone that you love and put you trust into, someone that you felt could be your all and all. I can't start to tell you how many people I've trusted and loved have betrayed me. It almost seemed as if it is something that I was destined for.(To be betrayed and never to find true love) So for a while I started to build a barrier around me and my heart. I started to keep people away from me. Personally, that's not the solution. That's not the missing piece to the puzzle. Every deserves love and deserves the chance at finding love. Look at life and each situation as an experience. God is preparing you for something more amazing and more wonderful than you thought she was. Remember everything happens for a reason. Keep faith and remember there is a better reward in the end. . .......... and remember, you will get through the pain. and then use that experience to make you stronger.
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Looking at it from you perspective(because i don't know his side of the story). I see someone who possibly never cared about you, or someone who instead of admitting to his wrong, turns the blame on you. I feel like this, you honnestly and openly cared for this boy. And to be honest, love sometimes make mistakes. (Not to say that you were wrong) But if he cared about you, he would look beyond that and he would not have a problem with anyone knowing that he liked you or you liked him. The most I can teell you is to watch out for these boys. Some of them are so devious to that point that you can't even tell whether they are real or fake. Love yourself most of all, and never let anyone my you second guess yourself or feel guilty for anything you say or do. Because outside of all of this, if he was a true friend. He would understand and have no reason to hide and reverse blame. If I was you I wouldn't concern myself with what him or anyone else think or feel. Love yourself, don't question yourself. Look at yourself as a jewel, something that is rare, and precious, and deserves to be treated right and taken care of. If he was smart, he would treat you like that rare diamond that you are. Obviosly, he don't see your value, so I would let him go.
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I don't want you to feel like your alone while trying to get over him. I'm currently in a relationship where I feel like I'm by myself. My relationship went down hill a long time ago. Somehow over a few months, I developed feelings for him and right now I'm in my period of morning...Well, not morning, but I'm also trying to let go of old feelings so that I can feel again like I can stand alone. I don't know why, but when you get into relationships it always seem like that person takes a part of you. Or like their presense is buried in your soul. But anyway, I wrote this so that you can know that your not alone. And eventhough it may feel hard now, it will get better. You can email me at anytime at email removed if you need any advice or just to let some things go.
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If I were you, I would move on. But If you are curious to see how true he is about what he is saying...Wait the two weeks. Give him two weeks and then see if he is really going to come through. And during these weeks, I would focus on myself. (On finding myself, loving myself, and figuring out what is it that I truly want) Think about the consequences long term. How will you family view you? How will his daughter view you? Will you be able to except the fact that you are the reason for tearing done a home, an oath, a vow sacred to God? Are you willing to deal with the long term consequences? Think about that, and think about how much you love him. Is your love for himm so real that you are willing to make such a great sacrifice? It's no longer about reither you like your cousin or not. It's about the respect owed to her because she is your blood. And blood is thicker than water, and it's much thicker then a few months of passion. Think about it, but only you can make the decision that is right for you. I could give you advice, but only you know what is right for you.
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(I'm giving you my honest opinion, so don't take anything personal.) First off, I would like to disclose that you are scandalous. Regardless, of your dislike for your cousin, there is a boundary that you don't cross. For one, she is your cousin (and) for two, he is married. As far as I'm concerned your his on the side young punanni. The thing is you have to look past these feelings that you've developed for him. For one, "God is not going to bless anyone who intentionally disobeys him."--- "Thou shall not commit adultery." As far as I'm concerned, I can't see anything good coming out of this relationship. Outside of my biblical perspective, my opinion is that if he wanted to be with you than he would be with you. It would be nothing to hide and nothing to wait for. You, yourself have to know that you deserve better. Because for one, I wouldn't want to be with a man who is willing to cheat on, lie to, or leave his wife and child. He is basically throwing it in your face that he is less than a man. If he is willing to leave the person who he made his faithful vows to. Then why do you think he would do better by you then he has done by her. So say they do separate, and you two get together..."What is it that you have that would stop him from falling in love with the next person?" He made vows of loving and honoring her forever...If he break his "forever vows" with her, he will break this moment with you. Baby Girl, you have to learn to love yourself and know that you deserve better. Plus, when you turn eighten, it's going to be so many fine boys lined up waiting for you. You are to young, enjoy life first.
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Does my GF really love me or Does she LOVE someone else???
BabyGirl16 replied to superman63's topic in Relationship Advice
If she lied to you about having a boyfriend than chances are she does have feelings for him. If there were no feelings, then their wouldn't be a reason to lie to you or to keep that piece of imformation from you. But reither she lied or not, I feel that If she cared about you than she would not keep something like having a boyfriend of 3 years from you. And secondly, if she has a boyfriend of 3 years and loves him enough to still be with him, but not enogh to stay true to him ... then chances are she doesn't know what she wants. Thinks about it, ya'll have been talking six months, she has been talking to him for three years. if she's not true to him, then why should or would she be true to you. if I were you I would just be friends, and do not become to infactuated with internet relationships. Know a person before you try to question who they are or what their about. -
I personally feel that he is playing games. It may be that he wants you, or it may be that he doesn't want you. In this situation, I feel that you should give him his wish. I wouldn't call him and I wouldn't aproach him in the hallway. I would speak periodically, but i would show him that I'm on a much higher level than he is and doesn't have time to play games. The truth is that you want to be with him, but its not worth the bullshit and humility that he is putting you through. If he loves you, either he will respect that and know that you deserve better. (Or) He will acknowledge what he have and stop playing lil boy games. But whatever the outcome, know that everything happens for a reason. Things may not work out with him, but then a couple of months later you might meet someone who is worth your time. Always remember, "everything happens for a reason."
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You said that he said he wasn't cheating, but for whatever reasons you don't believe him. Now ask yourself this, if he was to give you what your yearning to hear then what would you do? Cause it's obvious that you have made up in your mind that you don't believe. So in return you are going to do what you do regardless. so what is it that you want? Do you want to be with this man? And if he is cheating are you willing to work things out? If your answer is Yes, then you already know what to do. Work out your marriage and your differences regardless of the past. Because like I said before you already have your mind made up reither you know it or not. But what I do know is that a lack of trust can cause tension and stress within a relationship. If your not happy move on, if you are submit yourself to your husband and be the wife that he needs you to be.
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I know how it is to love someone and to become so comfortable in a situation or with this person that it becomes really hard to say goodbye. But you have to realize inorder for life to go on and to learn from your experiences then sometimes "goodbyes" are more than necessary. Take what has happened sexually and emotionally, and use the experience to better yourself as a person. Learn from your mistakes. If I were you, I would move on. If he says that he wants to move on with his life then you have to respect that. If I were you... because I now know what happened this time, I would no longer put myself in this predicament. And if i happened to be in this situation again I would know a better way of handling it. And by the way, don't have any regrets. You've made your mistakes, but now you have the chance to learn from them. Good luck with your decision, and I wish you the best.
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I need to know if I'm doing the right thing
BabyGirl16 replied to Minor's topic in Relationship Advice
In my opinion, I don't believe that you are at all in love with her. I believe that you are in love with the idea of being with her. I'm not an expert on love and there is no way for me to know what your true feelings are... What I see, is a boy who took like upon this girl, she treated him descent, and said a couple of inducing words to him and now he often sit and daydream about him and her. Imagining them together and how it would be. Based on what you just said, I can tell that you have never been in love. You are infactuated with this girl. I believe that you should take a deep look into your self and find out your true feelings. A piece of advice, we all often mistake love with an idea or image of what we assume love to be. And another thing, it does not seem that this girl is in love with you, because she's conversating to you about other boys and not at all pursuing a definite commitment to you. Your young, enjoy life and the experience. And realize that when you are in love you will know it no questions asked. -
Obviously, it's not up to you to pursue her if she's going back and forth. If I were you I would let her know what you want(only if your sure about it) and then give her space to deal with her own ordeals and to find out what she wants. If you care for her, I would be there as a friend and support through these hard times... But if she can't decide who or what she wants, I would move on with my life. And in time she'll either realize her lose or her gain. And for you, be strong-minded in your decision and realize that everything happens for a reason. If it is your fate to be with her then it will be. If not, then it will take this change in your life to find your true destiny. Good luck!!
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please help! i need relationship advice quick!
BabyGirl16 replied to lovehurts's topic in Dating Advice
First off, It's only but so many ways to know if a man loves you. And just because he loves you doesn't mean that he is not in love with her also. The best thing I can tell you is to discuss this issue with him, ask him what are his true feelings, is he having any doubts, or do he at all feel an urge of getting back with her? Once he's answered these questions, then make the best judgment you can. use your own intuition. But I would personally like to say that if he aswers these questions and you still have doubts. Then reither he's cheating, or going to cheat or not.. I believe that you should be by yourself. Because nomatter what he says, your still insecure in this relationship. And I feel that a relationship, should be based off of trust. Find out why you feel a certain way and make your decision the best way you can. But look at life as a big experience, Whatever shall be the outcome...learn from it and use the experience to develope yourself and help you to grow. -
I don't know how old you are, but in response to your question I would like to say that before you pursue asking him... Make sure that is really what you want. I truly do not believe that you are ready because if you were you would not need to question how to ask him to be your first or tell him your a virgin. I'm 16 and still a virgin and I know sometimes temptation is hard to exist, But you have to realize that sex is not just about being physically ready, but mentally and spiritually also. If you really believe that you are ready, then just be straight up with him? Either he's going to say yes or no, but remember eveything happens for a reason. If you decide to pursue this make sure it is something you want for yourself and if you need anyone to talk to about your decision you can email me at email removed. I wish you the best.