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HI all I have been dating my boyfriend for 4 months. During that time I was hot and cold and very emotional because I have a lot of stresses with my family as my mother is ill , have had to support them so I never have any money and have taken it out on my boyfriend . I did a foolish thing by e-mailing him a letter that I wrote to a friend who has a crush on me where I was telling him how miserable I am and basically left out all the good things my boyfriend and I shared because I did not want to hurt my friend's feelings. The reason I forwarded the letter was so that my boyfriend could see how much I am hurting. Well he was sick and tired of me pushing him away, telling him maybe he should break up with me, maybe I am not ready for a relationship that he broke up with me saying he can't do this anymore and I am disrespectful of the relationship. I asked him if he loved me and he said yes, so I said if you do then don't give up on us and he said he was so confused he needed his space. I asked him how much space and he said one week. He wanted me to go home that night but it was late so I stayed over . In the moring he was still mad and seemed annoyed I was there. He said he needed to be away from me before he got angry about the situation again. Does anyone think I have a chance with him. I have decided that the reason I was so moody was because before I met him I had plans to go back east to grad school and because of him I was giving it up and delaying it for another year. I have decided to stay where I am and apply to a school close home next year and think this final decision will aleve the stress. Anyone have any advice as to how to win him back when I meet up with him? thanks so much.

Hi all, I have a question about the guy I am seeing. As in my earlier post, I am seeing this guy that I slept with rather early and then within a week and a half he wanted to commit to me saying he would not be sleeping with anyone else and that he wanted to start "seeing me" .Anyways he went home to NY to be with his family for a week for thanksgiving and called me once to say he was thinking about me and could not wait to see me. Well he came home today and called me at 2PM while he was coming home and said he really wanted to see me and hoped that I had time to see him. I told him I am busy tomorrow but today I am free so we should hang out.After that I told him I would love to see him and that he should go home rest and get back to me about tonight. I waited until 6PM was fed up with waiting so I called him and he said he was on the other line with his mother and he's been talking to her for almost an hour and a half about his granpa being in the hospital and dying. He said he would not be very good company and that I should hang out with my friends . I was trying to be understanding and even offered to come over but he said I should go out with my friends as I told him I got an offer from a girlfriend to go out to dinner. Something in my gut tells me he was lying about hs mother and it bothers me it took him 4 hours to figure out plans or lack thereof with me.If I am wrong then I am an insensitive paranoid girl when his grandpa is actually dying but something tells me he made plans with someone else or something. I don't know how to approach it or not. I was thinking about ending this asap as I am afraid to be hurt but then again maybe I am overthinking things way too much and should not? he has canceled on me once before saying he had to entertain clients during the weekend. He also came out of a relationship 3 months ago where the girl cheated on him and his comment to me when we were together and slept together is that I have motivated him to not see the women he is seeing and should not be seeing and to cut ties with his ex altogether. I know I sound like the rebound girl. Please any help would be appreciated. Also he gave me an expensive Tiffany bracelet as a whim gift and my thoughts about that is it's a guilt gift like he has a bad character flaw he has to compensate for with giving expensive gifts. Please any advice so I can see more clearly would be great and thanks.

Hi all, I was wondering if anyone has ever dated a man who within one week wants things to be completely exclusive and says he will not sleep with the other women he is seeing and such. I am dating this one guy who I guess Steve will say is a big fish. His past girlfriends were models which he "kept" in a very good lifestyle because he is wealthy. I can't help but think there are red flags popping up with how fast he is willing to commit to me. I even offered to let time pass so that he won't regret committing to me so fast and he said he was sure he wanted to stop sleeping with the other women ( yes we have slept together) . He always says the right things and he even got me a Tiffany bracelet as a whim gift after 3 dates. I don't know if these are signs of a player or not. I keep on thinking that I should not get involved with him because he seems too smooth.Any inputs as to how I should go about this? Also one thing that really bothers me is that his answering machine forwards to a voicemail service. I can't think of any reason for him to have this other than the fact that he doesn't want his "girls"to hear about the others.Can I confront him about this and tell him my concerns or is it too neurotic and early. Any input would be great

Hi all, I went on a date with this one guy and had a great time. he ended up making plans with me and then canceled last minute and his excuse was that he had to entertain some clients during the weekend and he didn't even call during the whole weekend.He e-mailed me three days after the canceled plans wanting to make it up to me and I told him how pissed off I was and I understand that things can come up but that he should have handled it better than he had. I also told him that my guess is he is seeing other women and that is why things are a bit ackward with the scheduling and that I am seeing other people and the balancing of mutiple dating can be hard but he had better handle things better. I agreed to go out with him one more time and we did and had an amazing night and really hit it off. I could tell he was in awe of me and very impressed. At the end of the date I went to his place and I told him I wanted to sleep with him but he said no and that I had too much to drink and he was not going to take advantage of me but then I insisted telling him that I took him as one of those bad boys ( as the plans fell through)and that I wanted to have my first fling and I found it exciting and it was fun seducing him and he ended up giving into me after a lot of hesitation.Well in the morning he was very sweet to me and I asked him if he was sleeping with other women and how was it balancing all these women at one time. Well he said he was dating some other women but that he should not be with them because he doesn't feel about them as he feels about me. I told him that I normally don't sleep with anyone unless it is exclusive and he told me whatever I want. I did not want to make things exclusive so soon because we barely know each other so we then established that if we sleep with other people we should tell each other. well he's been calling me and acting wonderful and is planning an elaborate dinner for me this evening. Sounds like he's totally falling for me. What I am wondering is can I tell him that I want to withold the sex because this is turning out to be something special? or should I not discuss it and just not have sex with him? I don't know how to approach this now that I find he is so sweet and seems to want more than just a fling. Thanks

Hi, My ex boyfriend whom I adore still (he broke up with me about 6 months ago because we argued too much) e-mailed me recently checking up on me and asking me how things are. After the break up we had minimal contact and everytime we attempted to be friends things would get ackward so he gave up and then so did I. We had ran into each other at a restraunt about 3 weeks ago where I hugged him and he said hello and then walked away. In his e-mail he apologized for his behavior saying that I had caught him in the middle of an argument with some girl and he said it was not one of his finer moments and he just didn't want to deal with the situation. I guess he thought all of us saw them arguing or something.Well he then proceeded to say he distanced himself from me after the break-up because on the few occasions we had talked after we broke up I seemed so at ease talking to him that he figured I already had a boyfriend and there were too many emotions it made sense to not contact each other anymore. But now he wants to become friends and offers that we get together for lunch or something. I don't know what to say or do. It took me an awefully long time to get over him and in many cases I am still not and I fear seeing him again will make my recovery falter. But then maybe he wants to get back together and I should take that chance? men usually do not contact their exes that they broke up with unless they miss them and have re-assessed things and want them back? Any help would be very much appreciated. Thanks.

Hi all, This guy and I went on our first date like 3 weeks ago and since then he has been trying to schedule a weekend date with me but always has done it kind of last minute which never worked out for the both of us. Well he finally calls and makes a date with me one week in advance and the day before our date I get an e-mail from him saying he has to entertain some clients from work for the weekend and needs to cancel and will call me later to beg for my forgiveness. I don't know how to react to this. My first instinct is to tell him not to call me anymore and everything just seems really fishy how plans are always last minute then last minute canceled but I do really like this guy and on our first date we got along really well. I am wondering if he is doing this to provoke me into not wanting to date him anymore? Do guys do that rather than tell the girl they are not interested anymore. Please, any advice would be great.

If you are sleeping with a guy casually, do they like or dislike the girl spending the night over? Thanks.

I have a question for you all. I am 27 and am feeling as if I am getting jaded with dating and I am starting to panic because so many people my age or younger are getting married. My question is when one gets married later in life rather than earlier is it a disadvantage because by then you have become so beat up by the dating scene, have so much baggage that you can't ever be as well adjusted as the happy young couples? Like any dating or marriage stories you can tell me would be much appreciated. I am so afriad all the great good men out there are already married and I will have to settle. Please any honest input would be much appreciated

hey all, I was just wondering how people make new friends now a days. My problem is I am 29 and all my close friends have moved so far away that I don't have anyone to do things with now a days . The friends I do have are very superficial friends and I am not close to them at all that if we do do anything it's like once a month. Anyways any advice would be much appreciated.

He calls me every other day to talk and he says it's because he likes talking to me and likes me as a person but then the other night when he invited me over to see a movie he seemed so reluctant to watch it saying that he just wants to kiss me because he hasn't seen me in a while and all. we ended up arguing about expectations with him saying I am paranoid about him and that I should really believe he likes me and that I frustrate things because I overthink it. Anyways we did end up making out which lead to other things and in the end I was there wondering why men lie about these things. If he were upfront and said he just wanted sex it would be fine but I thought he wanted a friendship too. I guess I have been really stupid thinking that if he calls me a lot it must mean something. It's hard for me because I still like the guy. when we hang out outside of the bedroom he's great but those times have been far and few so it frustrates me. Anyways thanks for the input. I don't know if I can turn things around anymore and it makes me sad.

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hi this guy that I am kinda seeing always ends up calling me late at night around 8-9PM and today he called at 11PM and then he said he had another call and would call me back. It's been 40 minutes and I am wondering what I should make of it .This is inconsiderate isn't it? or am I just overblowing the situation? Any advice would be very helpful thanks.

Thanks for answering everyone. In terms of how much tme we spend together , we don't. he always says we will hang out go to the movies but then calls so late that I end up being busy or he just calls to call. Anyone have input on this situation?

Hi all there is this guy that I origionaly was going to have a mere fling with and we slept together and I am now liking him. I don't know what to make of it .He calls me about every other day and he always ask me if everything is okay. I dont know how to handle things or what to think and he tells me I act like I am freaking out. Well I told him it's just an ackward situation for me and that he calls me more than I expected he would and I don't know what to say when he calls me. Ideally when a guy you like calls you a lot you should be happy right? I am happy but I am highly skeptical of him so I sometimes come off like I am worried. Anyways to all the guys there would you think I am crazy for my behavior and what I said or would you understand? Also I have been waiting for him to call me, I am thinking that way i don't come off too eager is that a good idea? thanks.