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I just want to ask a quick question and see what your thoughts are on people that blatantly overuse buzzwords. Personally, I can't stand them and I know that we've all said them in our life, but I'm talking about these people that walk about with an eogtistical air about them, spewing out all this crap jargon that they apparently think makes them sound so cool. I recently sat in a meeting and marked off each time the buzzwords "take it offline" and "low hanging" fruit were used. In about 1 hr, offline was said 21 times and low-hanging fruit was said 14 times!!! Do these people realize that others may notice that they are a bit redundant? But what makes it even worse is that there is such an unjustified ego that is present with all of this! Anyway, I figured I'd just ask the question and hopefully read some good feedback.

Aside from that, the kid is only 19 so how much of his world has already been rocked? Older woman or not, odds are that he hasn't experienced enough to know what is hot and what is....hot! Hope you wrapped it up dude.

Don't resort to tactics or methods or lines or scripts. Why? It's manipulative and wrong and does't address the problems that led to the downfall of the relationship. Aside from that, you cannot make anyone love you and want to be with you. As difficult as it is to hear, there is not much you can do to "win her back" except for allowing nature to run its course. Relationships are hard work, which some people don't realize and there are always signs that we either ignore, evade or become oblivious to. It's not until we have "the talk" and end the relationship that we become aware of the unfortunate consequences of the aforementioned signs. From what you wrote you sound pretty young and new to adult, commited relationships - which is not a bad thing. You should take time for yourself and not even contact her - hence the No Contact (NC) rule that is promoted so much here. Take time to examine the relationship and take any and all lessons that you can from it. Don't sacrifice yourself and your education for the sake of a girl. Breakups are hard, yes, and first loves are the hardest. You are young and should start exploring other relationships - when you are ready. People change, relationships change and the last thing you want is to be fixed in a state of where your only focus is of things past such as this relationship. Not only will it hinder your role in other relationships, but you'll be repeating negative patterns that will keep you from growing as a person. Yes, it's tough. But stick with NC so that the self-healing process can resume. Good Luck.

I got to agree with SuperDave. Plus to want someone back who has a history of cheating is beyond my realm of reasoning. Do yourself a favor and find someone who appreciates you for you - but start with yourself first.

Kind of unlikely to happen after only 3 days of dating. Keep in mind, that there is more to a relationship than just the physical aspect. Don't rush her, yourself or the relationship. The beauty of relationships and sharing great moments is building and growing them - together.

Journals are fun and it's amazing how much has changed when a certain amount of time passes. I haven't kept one in a long time, but I sometimes read a passage or 2 from one that I wrote in high school or college -it's just as amazing to recant the memories in detail. There are some pretty cool unicode encryption pieces that you can do In JavaScript as well.

I agree...time to ditch him and let him find his soulmate. No sense in wasting time right ;-) Sounds like you deserve more.

I think all the rampant dating and hooking up with girls combined with the lack of desire to get close is what is causing you to feel this way. As great as they may be, I think in the end they just devalue any and all in regards to serious committed relationships. To me it sounds like you are not ready for a commitment, no surprise since you have been hurt a good number of times. No shame in that though - you've gotta just heal. While dating is a great distraction for you at the moment, I think you still gotta get back to 100%. Personally, I think the desire to want to have another serious relationship will come again.

Bounder nailed it on the head. My ex was the same. We said "I love you" all the time - many times per day. I think she did it just for the sake of saying and carrying an image of being this total loving person. But as with you, she wanted to twist everything around to justify her actions. So annoying. Some people just don't appreciate the good that comes into their life until it's gone.

Sopranos?

Sounds like she's interested. Did she say had a boyfriend or are you getting this through the grapevine? If you guys work in the same area, does she have any pics or her [potential] bf? I don't know, but I'd be hard pressed to give a female co-worker my phone number and let her know that I'm free, if I were in a relationship. Call me crazy, but I don't think my gf would take too kindly to that. In any case, take her up on the offer, hang out and see what happens. Even if nothing worked out, you could still be friends, right? If she had a bf weeks ago, it could be a rebound situation - kinda hard to tell. Play it by ear and see what happens. Good luck

To me it sounds like it's more of a chore and goal of getting you to cum, versus him being totally in to it? That probably due to his ego being eroded somewhat so now he has to compete with himself. Does he seem to enjoy going down on you? To some guys, 20 minutes down there is the first half of a college basketball game or a few innings of baseball. And to miss that...well you can imagine how that can be. All kidding aside, maybe he should relax more and focus on building up to climax. I love going down on a woman and my ex once joked and dug into her purse after I gave her oral and said "here's my checkbook and credit cards...if I have to buy you and your tongue/mouth to keep you I will." No doubt one of the best experiences in my life... I guess it's tough for some guys and some don't even like it. Again, I think the whole build up is key. He should also focus on other key erogenous zones on your body instead of munching away like crazy (if that is what he's doing). Just be careful though...while it's rare and noble to see you want to wait for your wedding night, you can still get an STD if he or anyone is not wrapping it up.

As cliche as this sounds it usually happens when you're not expecting it. I do hear where you are coming from though. After re-entering the dating world after 6 years, I've noticed such a dramatic change that you sometimes wonder where all the good, normal women have gone to. The reality of course is that there are a lot of single moms out there that carry unresolved issues, there's people that are coming off a bad break-up or divorce that are compelled to "get back on the horse" without healing themselves, there's psychos and weirdos, but on the flip side there are good ones out there too. It just takes time. While there are women who will fawn themselves over every jerk and moron in town, realize that is only a temporary deal and definitely not one where true love exists. Why that happens - only God knows, but some women like the bad boy or try to change them. Ultimately though, the need for love - true love settles in and that is something you can't get from a jerk. Maybe you need to expand your social circle or network and just try to date more casually or hang out at the very least. Are you finding this everywhere you go or are the unavailable women limited to a certain locale like bars or clubs. Again maybe you should expand your areas - like a bookstore, gym, supermarket. I even hear the Wal-Mart is doing some kind of dating thing. Sounds like you have a lot of good qualities for you so I'm sure something is bound to happen. I think the fact that you play in a band may score extra points. A woman once picked me up after I went to a music store in a local mall and was testing out guitars. I'm only a beginner, but was playing some basic scales and chords and she said she really liked how I played and that led to exchanging numbers and eventual dating. I eventually ended it because I just wasn't feeling "it" anymore, but we're still pretty good friends. It'll happen. Good luck with all this.

You should choose a career that you will love doing. Not everything is about money, but I can see where that can be appealing. I used to be a consultant and made $70K+ right after college. But after a while I my heart wasn't into it despite the great pay. I think when you are young it's okay to be do a brief stint like that. Lord knows it helped me pay off my college loans and buy a house. However, you gotta make sure that you are focused on something long-term. Regardless of the loads of money, I think it's far more valuable to be a much learned person and be passionate about something that have nothing at all. Maybe you should be a Narc? ;-)~

Interesting...I suggest that eveyone read the all the prior posts and tell me that what I wrote was nothing more than a synopsis of what others had already said. I think this is just another example of flying off the handle and going to an extreme instead of just dealing with advice good or bad. Secondly, I think it's a syndrome of denial and not accepting any ideas/thoughts that don't agree with this current situation. For what it's worth, there is a mask of anonymity here in that a majority of us don't know who we really are. Sure we have profiles and PM each other, be we don't know who we really are. And while the asynchronous discussions that go on are helpful, it shouldn't be a substitute for true therapy or treatment. Personally, to get this mad over a discussion board post is truly odd and sad and I think speaks volumes in terms of one's character and capacity. One would think that mature, adult discussion, argument and banter could be handled at all levels. I guess I was wrong. I'd also like the moderator's to note of the slanderous comments...;-)