echo1212

Im telling you the best thing you can do-and this will be hard, i to 100% leave her alone. Dont email her, phone her,a nd for sure dont give rher any more roses. Once you start begging and she knows she has you, she will never understand how scared she would be to be without you. Trust me from personal experience, if her interest level in u is high, she will find a way to make it work. But as long as u perceive in begging and demanding to talk to her, she will only look on u as weak and insecure, and totally lose all respect for you. YOu have to make it seem that you are the catch here, not here, and live without ou would be very very bad. And the only way to do that is to make her come to you, I know this is hrtful, but when it comes to women this is the only way.

HI everyone, I would appreciate some advice with an issue I am experiencing with a new girl I have been dating. Well, we met about a month ago and things have been going rather well, at least until the last few days. First let me say that she is 24 and I am 28, she is EXTREMELY good looking, a college grad and very smart. However, she has suffered from a bout of depression thru college-her brother did to- and she has never really had a serious boyfriend because she said she likes to be alone alot and some things get on her nerves-to me those are warning signs. Anyway, we do have alot of fun together and last week she invited me to go to NYC with her, we live in ohio, and i went-we flew. We had a really great time friday and most of saturday-couldnt have been better actually, then we went to her old college saturday afternoon for homecoming. While there I started to notice her getting a little quiet and withdrawn, not just towards me but to everyone. Well, we came back to the hotel in NYC, then went out to dinner with some friends and she was even more quiet, the same when we all went to the bar afterwards. In the cab that night she told me about some of her depression issues and that she just gets like that soemtimes-doesnt really know why. Like I said up until then we had the best time ever. Anyway, we flew home the next day, we were both EXTREMELY tired-slept all day-and we emailed each other a couple of times since. Then last night I called her twice on weds. and left a message saying to call me back. Well i didnt hear from her last night but then she called me this morning at 7 am, she left a message saying she has been super busy, got home to late last night to call-which i kinda find hard to believe, and she will be home tonight passing out candy so I should give her a call. My question is she has admitted to me before that she hates guys who are too clingy and call to much etc. and so far i have played it very cool and calm. But i sense where I could get that way if things keep going like they are. I would like to have a relationship with her, in fact we have both said we wont date anyone else, but I dont want her to get the upper hand in this, especially knowing how withdrawn and independent she can be-that would be death lol if i cave in. So one-should I call her tonight, and two how should I play the rest of the week etc. not call her and make her miss me? or what? I hate to play these games but I know sometimes you have to-thanks in advance for any advice you may give.