My story is very similar to yours. I am a married woman who dated a guy fifteen months. When I met him, my husband and I were having problems as well and on the verge of a breakup (I bought a separate residence). I eventually moved out, but husband ended up following immediately after. I met him at a time when I was very desperate and vulnerable as well, but did not realize it at the time. I have fallen deeply in love with him and don't want to let go. A mutual acquaintance of ours (husband, myself, boyfriend) found out about the affair and informed my husband about two weeks ago. She also called my boyfriend and told him I was cheating on him as well (totally untrue). Since then my boyfriend has been very distant. He does not call when he says he will or even call at all. If call him he will return/answer my call, but there is no initiation of contact on his part. I am so devastated. I denied the affair to my husband so we are still together. I know I have gotten what I deserved, my boyfriend would not have been so eager to believe the lies I told if he considered me trustworthy to begin with. I will never do anything like this again in my life, I have honestly learned my lesson. This is so painful! I cry daily! I am so depressed! The sad part is I really love my boyfriend. I stay with my abusive husband because its just easier. I think my boyfriend assumed my husband would leave when he found out. He made the comment "I still haven't run him off yet"? Not sure how to take that, especially since he has not been contacting me as I mentioned before. If my boyfriend thought he left me, then why wasn't he calling? I thought he wasn't calling just to let things die down so to speak. He is a homewrecker "wanna be", I doubt he will want me if my husband and I break up. Still....I love him, I dream about him and I am beginning to think I am obsessed as well.
