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that i'm low on experience with girls and dating though this girl and I aren't dating yet. I love to post little messages to her before I get off line. I know you girls with b/fs expect something every night,but how about just from a guy of interest? would that get on your nerves if a guy said something everynight,like good night or so and so?

online for example here.just in general do you girls like it when your b/f's or guy you like anyway, out of no where sents you a message like good night or some other comments? where he doesn't need a started convo just to say nice things. like say you're busy doing something like homework for example and need your full concentration,so he's considerate by leaving you alone but still say something before he gets off. do you like it when he does every night or once in awhile?

I thought about saying something to that girl that I like. how's this? "bad timing or not,it's tough keeping quiet for a period of time. i've expressed times before with how I feel about you,but a few times is not good enough. The most important things right now is your happiness and getting thru college,starting a career. though communication may be at zero,but I want to let you know I will always be there for you and whenever that day comes in the near future when I do see your beautiful face and awesome smile again"

OK just one of those silly situations where I think it was the right thing at the time,but now have mixed feelings. well I really miss the girl that I like ALOT,which has been a really tough situation especially not talking to her as much nowadays because she's having a tough time with college so i'm backing off here. I know gotta stay strong and positive about the situation, yet I still want to express feelings to her in some form here. the other day I had a horrible day,one of those days where I wanted to say whatever was on my mind and didn't care haha. well when I got online,she was on and I put my away message on saying"what a horrible day.....but I know days like that happen and instead of complaining and being all down which doesn't get you anywhere. you gotta be strong and have a positive attitude with everything,if it's missing a certain special someone a lot ;-) or other situations that happen in life." well just say if she did read that,and got the hint. now i'm hoping she didn't get upset/sad like. do you think what I said was positive enough,showing that i'm trying to be strong and positive with me period and the situation with her? I don't want her think i'm all down and sad over here.

Is it possible for someone to actually change once being in college for awhile? i'm starting to wonder with this girl that I like... well Friday night,she was on and I just decided to say something then about V-day,because nowadays I never know when she's gonna be on AIM,so at the time my thinking was if I waited my luck she wouldn't be on during the weekend and monday,so I said.... "ok I know Valentine's day isn't until Monday,but just incase here if I don't see you on during the weekend and Monday,knowing you'd probably be busy with friends and homework. haha I just want to wish you a happy Valentine's day and hope everything is going great for you!!!" well I got off after that showing i'm not expecting something back and got back on not that long later anyway well she had her away message on which said she was in the other room and stayed like that for the rest of the night. last night I was on but had my away message on and she turned her away message on which said " I dunno,homework probably" then 15 mins later switched it to " anywhere but here" about 5 hours later she came back and turned it on again which said " mad at the world" right there I got to wondering whats wrong?. moments later changed it to " i said i would never be that girl..... now i'm everything i promised myself i would never be" right now I have a clueless mind,wondering whats up and if that means she's doing stuff at college she never thought she'd do or if it has something to do with me

well one of those things again that i'm curious about and would like opinions. Ok say a guy really likes a girl and that same girl likes him back. they don't start dating or anything because the girl goes off to college ( where for some out there that don't wanna start anything,that they'd have to put it on hold or things would be difficult) anyway say the guy tells the girl that he'd wait how ever long it takes to be with her,even if it means 2 or 3 years,maybe longer and just want her to be happy plus if it means backing off some or whatever to help the situation,when stressful times come with college. would something like that make any of you girls feel special or in any positive mood that the guy really cares and is willing to wait?

well the whole ex topic again.I can understand the whole issue. with me growing up I always had crappy luck with the girls,so i've never been in that major relationship yet. OK say some of you still think about your ex,if it's an ex from months ago or years even and say someone new comes into your life and you like that person alot. with thinking about your ex does that make you ignore feelings for a current person or do any of you actually think about your ex and current liking at the same time?

well I think I did something totally dumb here haha. ok say you have a girl or guy that you really like alot and think so and so likes you back but they haven't expressed it well express either way,where gets your mind in a confusing way. say you found out they liked someone else or thought anyway by something that happened,then you end up saying something to that person not out of be jealous or paranoid but just being scared. after that find out it was just a false alarm,would that annoy any of you and possibly lose interest or would you consider it,that it shows this person really cares for you and everything to confront?

just one of those things i'm curious about. say you really like someone alot,yet gets to a point it's a scary situation where your ex from the past pops back into your mind and you starting thinking about that person..is that a common thing? Is it possible to be in love still with the ex and also be in love with someone else?

well i've gone a few days w/o saying a word to her and she hasn't sent me anything which doesn't surprise me. that I know she's concentrating on college right now and whatever career she wants. I know people are different,but could something like that cause her to back off with feelings and just wait for that right time when she's settled with the other?

ok when I expressed feelings to her it was a couple of days before christmas. since then I've imed her just to tell her goodnight then I got off another time when she was away I went ahead and said goodnight..sweet dreams. couple of times I IMed her just asking/saying simple stuff and had no responses. plus asked how her new year's was and nothing in response. actually when I expressed feelings to her was when she was away..just figured it would be the best thing to do so it won't put her on the spot,plus she's been having stressful times at college with everything,yet I couldn't help it and had to say something how I felt. said stuff like I miss her and wish I could see her pretty face right now. said that I know getting thru college and starting a career is more important and that I respect that.though I have a gut feeling she feels the same back,but wish I could read her mind but that i wouldn't never force her to do something she doesn't want to do.all I care about right now is for her to be happy. great feeling thinking about her and caring about her alot.

I don't know her past relationships 100%,and she never has told me about them,but hearing about it from elsewhere that she was with someone her fresh/soph year of high school and now she's a soph in college and i've known her for 2-3 years and she's been single the entire time. just say she did have some bad breakup where maybe it's making her hesitant or scared in current/future relationships or even starting one. she is kinda shy,so maybe she has low esteem issues also. yet again maybe i'm totally off here.

caramellabacix, well her and I haven't been out on a date or anything yet heck I haven't seen her in awhile now where our communication is over internet,but we've known each other for around 2 years. basically talk about simple stuff like how's school(college for her),work this and that sorta thing..non pressure situations,yet i'd still say caring things from time to time. another message i'll share with you which was also posted under an away message a day or 2 after I expressed feelings..... Count my blessings I should count my blessings Let me see where should I start One, you're really handsome Two, you're really handsome Three, I never get that far Yeah you're right I don't deserve you Yeah there's no pleasing me, yeah sure You could have anyone you want You're too good to be real You're every woman's dream Lucky me.......

well actually I expressed my feelings for someone recently and now this person has been ignoring me whenever I sent an IM over AIM. gut feeling though is this person likes me but is scared off or just holding back. nowadays i do go by away messages meaning if it could be a clue. which I know it's hard to tell. as for the lyrics..yeah it was in an away message. I know doesn't mean its for me or could be just some song this person likes. opinion wise if it was meant for someone,to you what could it possibly mean?

"you're just jealous cuz we're young and in love, your stomach's filled up but you're starved for conversation and you're spending all your nights growing old in your bed and you're tearing up your photos cuz you wanna forget, it's over..............." are these some kinda lyrics from a song? to you what could something like that be meant for someone? say if it is meant for someone