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Wow... your husband sounds controlling. Sounds like he's in the dog house....

Hello & welcome to eNotAlone.com I'm sorry to hear of the situation....but I think right now the best thing for you to do is just walk away from your ex girlfriend and the whole situation. Just let it go and let her get slapped in the face....let the bricks fall on her. She will learn the hard way my friend. It almost seems as if she went and slept with this Calven guy just to "get back" at you for something. But I dunno what....I am probably just drawing stupid conclusions. As for Calven....I would not talk to him. I wanted to do the same thing as you thought of...but chances are...(and these chances are pretty likely to happen) but if you or anyone else says one word about the girl he is currently dating....chances are...he won't listen and won't care because he likes the girl so much. But then again, you just never know. See...that's why it's all called chance. You take the chance to talk to the guy and he believes you all in time....or you take the chance and not tell him and let the bricks hit her and him all in time.

This will be a long post...so please bear with me. As the title reads...there is just way too much drama here. My room mate and I have lived here in this house since March of 2006. Here it is August and 6 months ago, he ran into one of his ex g/f's. They started talking of course and now they're dating. This makes me sick. Well...everything turned out fine except for this past month in July. His new g/f went and ran her mouth about what she's been doing behind my room mates back. This includes everything from cheating on him, sleeping around with other guys, using my room mate for his money so he can buy her smokes, minutes for her phone, stuff for her 4 kids, you name it....the whole 9 yards. Well this has been going on for the past month or two and he's already dropped over $100 on her in minutes for phone cards alone. That stuff is expensive. Not to mention smokes all the time at $4.15 a pack. Then he'll drive her anywhere she pleases at $3.00 a gallon. This is ****'ing rediculous. So, I set my room mate up to get confronted by some other friends. He tells me that he'll believe them over his g/f. Boy was I wrong. He said "I'm not too worried about it really..." and blew things off after everything was told to him. He stood there crying his eyes out and plain as day he knows its true. So he came home...and during this time she's out running around messing around, and he hasn't heard squat from her in like 3 weeks. So umm....hello....get a hint Mr. Room-Mate. So finally she starts coming back around, and he's all up on her and they talk about what went down, and she feeds him a line of crap and he buys it of course. Well....he's been single for most of his life and has only had 2 g/f's maybe 3 that I know of and he's so darn desperate for a girl that he doesn't care and that he is so blind and oblivious to what's really going on that he just doesn't care. He's lied to me about money, lied to me about stupid little piddly things here at home and now I am stuck here in this house with him and his stupid g/f. I am off work right now due to a hernia. I have surgery come this Monday August 7th, 2006. So once I get that over with, I have to wait 4-6 weeks to heal up before I can get back to work. I will be getting a 2nd job then and I am picking up and leaving. I will make him pay the bills and make him take the fall. I'm tired of getting shafted, lied to and just all of this drama that I failed to mention. All of this little piddly stuff has just been adding up to be a bunch of big stuff and it's driving me insane! So what does everyone suggest/think? I feel as if I'm stuck here in this trap w/ him. He doesn't and will not go to church. I asked him to take me one morning...he still takes me in his shorts he slept in. He didn't even have the decency to get dressed. He lets his dog pee/poop in the house and doesn't take him out like he's supposed to. He doesn't clean, he's just lazy. I can't stand it here anymore and I want OUT......NOW! Once I'm out...I'm never going to live with anyone ever again. Unless I get married to a woman who's just really awesome!

Wow...no response huh?? Guess I'll just have to take it up on my own....

TMI......TMI... ....I hope you didn't actually measure your poo....ROTFL But yeah....get some fiber in your body.

ROTFL! Classic!

This will be a long post...so please bear with me. As the title reads...there is just way too much drama here. My room mate and I have lived here in this house since March of 2006. Here it is August and 6 months ago, he ran into one of his ex g/f's. They started talking of course and now they're dating. This makes me sick. Well...everything turned out fine except for this past month in July. His new g/f went and ran her mouth about what she's been doing behind my room mates back. This includes everything from cheating on him, sleeping around with other guys, using my room mate for his money so he can buy her smokes, minutes for her phone, stuff for her 4 kids, you name it....the whole 9 yards. Well this has been going on for the past month or two and he's already dropped over $100 on her in minutes for phone cards alone. That stuff is expensive. Not to mention smokes all the time at $4.15 a pack. Then he'll drive her anywhere she pleases at $3.00 a gallon. This is ****'ing rediculous. So, I set my room mate up to get confronted by some other friends. He tells me that he'll believe them over his g/f. Boy was I wrong. He said "I'm not too worried about it really..." and blew things off after everything was told to him. He stood there crying his eyes out and plain as day he knows its true. So he came home...and during this time she's out running around messing around, and he hasn't heard squat from her in like 3 weeks. So umm....hello....get a hint Mr. Room-Mate. So finally she starts coming back around, and he's all up on her and they talk about what went down, and she feeds him a line of crap and he buys it of course. Well....he's been single for most of his life and has only had 2 g/f's maybe 3 that I know of and he's so darn desperate for a girl that he doesn't care and that he is so blind and oblivious to what's really going on that he just doesn't care. He's lied to me about money, lied to me about stupid little piddly things here at home and now I am stuck here in this house with him and his stupid g/f. I am off work right now due to a hernia. I have surgery come this Monday August 7th, 2006. So once I get that over with, I have to wait 4-6 weeks to heal up before I can get back to work. I will be getting a 2nd job then and I am picking up and leaving. I will make him pay the bills and make him take the fall. I'm tired of getting shafted, lied to and just all of this drama that I failed to mention. All of this little piddly stuff has just been adding up to be a bunch of big stuff and it's driving me insane! So what does everyone suggest/think? I feel as if I'm stuck here in this trap w/ him. He doesn't and will not go to church. I asked him to take me one morning...he still takes me in his shorts he slept in. He didn't even have the decency to get dressed. He lets his dog pee/poop in the house and doesn't take him out like he's supposed to. He doesn't clean, he's just lazy. I can't stand it here anymore and I want OUT......NOW! Once I'm out...I'm never going to live with anyone ever again. Unless I get married to a woman who's just really awesome!

I would 2nd this.....either that..or the guy is just **** nuts. I myself...would not just stop in the middle of sex and say "It's too hot." Umm....don't you build up body heat when you are having sex anyways?? I'm sure lots of ppl have sex in the summer....

Well...you were right. But I guess that I didn't think that I came off too awfully strong. Ah well....we live & learn

So...I'm not so sure I understand what you're trying to ask. You want to get out of this relationship between you and your boss......or are you wanting to know if it's a good idea if you and your boss should be having after hour flings?? Because if you want out.... I think you should go report him to H.R. and talk to someone in H.R. confidentially...it's worth a shot. Sexual ...umm...whatever it's called....at the workplace is not tollerated! But if you want to stay friends or more with him...well I think you know what to do ...But I really think what you're trying to say is that you want out of this "relationship" between you and your boss....right?

LOL! Classic man...classic! I feel for you, when you say you were feeling pretty good up until you found out she went straight from work to her friends house. What you should do in the future....is if you know where she works at...just have the single flower & the card delivered to her job. Normally the flower shop or whoever will put your name on a small little card, or you can just take the card you bought her, and ask them to put it with the flower and deliver it. Good luck to ya' Cold.

She dumped me! Wooo Hooo! *lol* That's ok though....we didn't talk too long to form any real strong feelings. Although we felt mutual about each other...but there was no real feelings and so we're not hurt.

Yes....this is a true possibility. Thanks again for your words of wisdom!

LOL Yeah...you're right. But again...it's kind of weird b/c as I stated...we feel the same way about each other. So...it's hard to tell. None the less...I will back off and let her contact me. It'll be hard...but I will try very hard not to cave in! *EDIT* i forgot to mention...that today was the only day that I've called her twice in the day. So...it's not like I've called her twice a day...everyday.

Well....we talked on the phone on Thursday night. Then...she worked Friday during the day. Normally I'll send her a short/sweet email to say "hope you had a great day" and then I called her house around 7pm. She wasn't there. Then I left a msg. for her to call me back. I went to fair....came back home...called around 10pm. Not there yet.... So it's late now and I'm not calling this late. I will just have to wait until I hear from her again. We've been able to agree that we feel exactly the same about one another, as far as feelings go...so that's why I'm not so sure that she may be avoiding me. That's how it went....