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  1. Well for the last 10 weeks maybe a little more i have lost a total of 24lbs which im very happy with but i seem to have lost my motivation . When i started i did it because i was fat, there are some heart problems within the family and i just wanted to look and feel better. I just want to know of some possible ways of getting me motivated again, im going to try going to the Gym (in the New Year) which is something i havent ever done, before i just used to walk locally but i feel i would benefit from . I hear swimming is good for weight loss but then again im a little self-conscious but i do look a little better than i did a while back. I know with it being Christmas it doesn't help, but i just don't seem to have the motivation i had at the begning and would like to make my weight loss goal... i only have to loose another 4lbs and i've lost 2 stone of my original weight and some people are commenting which is nice. I just need some ideas to push me to get to my target, im also very interested in toning a little bit also but im not sure whether this should be done after the weight loss of whilst im doing it... very confused at how this works. Another thing i have noticed is that my chest is a little prominent since i've lost weight not much but is this normal? just out of curosity, with me not ever being this thin... maybe when i was younger but still id just like to be sure, had thought about going to the doctors but i thought id post here first because well im not going to get a doctor till later on in the week. Any advice or information, even suggestions would be appricated . - whitefang
  2. Same here, im not much of socializer / clubber like my other friends. I have been getting some advice from a girl friend who i like but she only considers me as a friend and i'd rather be her friend than spoil anything with her. I just need the confidence and to be more positive, its kinda hard when a girl hasn't even taken an interst in you before but still i suppose you have to try i guess lol I dress comfortably and to how i like, do you think girls might not like a guy that does this? should i be wear more better looking causal clothing instead you know those with a label lol, my hair could stand with being made into a style too... im gonna have to do something in the new year with my appearance maybe but at least for now im working on my body
  3. Thanks Cardinal, i do tend to wait a little too long before asking. I can talk to women i know because they know me but i find it difficult to strike up a converstation and what to even talk about with women i don't even know, depsite the fact that my friends are women lol. Im not much of a clubber or dancer, i mean i prefer a quiet pub lol but then again im probably not going to meet anyone there. Well my choice is very limited living where i am (its so rural) but i do want to get out and socialize more but where to go is the thing when there's nothing... i do workin Wal*Mart which gives me some opportunity to socialise a little and talk but i never really get the chance because its so hetic there. Have been thinking about going to the Gym in the new year, and also taking up swimming to help with my weight loss i've got 4lbs to before i've lost 2st which is pretty good i think in just over 10 weeks so im also looking to tone-up. I want to be more positive but im just very unsure of what to do, where to go... do you think i should just leave it up to my friends and get them to push me out and teach me or is something im better of learning myslef because im probably less likely to do it myself lol - whitefang
  4. Thanks its good to know that im not the only one, not that i doubted that there were any others out there having the same problem. Im also studying a course geared towards more to be for females not that it bothers me because im doing what i love. It's just like you said majority of my friends are female and i can't understand why im having issues getting a girlfriend, you'd think i'd be an expert by now but there we go im not otherwise i'd be happily in a relationship lol. What can i do to socialize more because im not much of a clubber as it doesn't really appeal to me im just very much stumpped... purely because i know nothing, what to do and where to begin
  5. Im an average looking 22yr old male and i havent been in a relationship... i only seem to be able to get as far as friendship with girls. Im not really sure why, i mean i try to get to know girls but for some strange reasonthey tend to confinde in me rather than anything else which is fine but they never want to do anything more I have been recently trying to get close to a girl at my college but i've just found out that she already got a boyfriend, but the signals i've been reciving from her have confused me. Now that i've found out about this i've moved on, still friends but no longer see her as anything more... because its not going to be anything more and i accpet that. I havent pulled any girls, i don't have very much of a social life at all (college work and actual work takes up alot of my time). I only have a limited number of friends (majority of them girls strangely enough), yet i have difficulties with them... makes no sense. I have no male friends that i hang round with. Im not really sure why, well its because all my best friends have moved away and im left in the pokey little town of mine. I don't know i just seem to have a better converstaition with women than men lol and yet i can't get a girlfriend? Im just not sure where to begin as far as dating is concerned and where to look for decent girls. I could go out with friends (but im not a clubbing kinda guy ) which are majority of them are girls, im just very clueless on anything and everything and after some good advice or can point me too some good threads that might be of some help Thanks, - whitefang
  6. Thanks for the suggestion, its a possible idea but im not sure whether she would do it though. She kinda hard to figure out... or it could be because im such a novice I've never really had any girl interested in me only me interested in girls who wouldn't want to date me or see me only as a friend which has knocked my confidence quite a bit. It's just hard know what she means, not sure whether she's interested in me either or wether she's just doing it out of kindness but then again i suppose i won't find out till we actually do something.Other than being myself i don't feel that i would be a very interesting to her, i know its not how i should be thinking but, too me i just feel a very boring person because i have no hobbies or no real interests other than what were studying together
  7. Well for the past few months my feelings for a girl who is on the same course as me have grown (which i have mentioned before in a previous post). I haven't known her that long but i really would like to get to know her more. I have been making attempts to get to know her more by every time that we ever get alone i ask about "her" to show im interested and she does the same. I have noticed little things such as the occaional glance during lecture which i can see through the corner of my eye but i don't think she notices. I really like this girl and have become friends but i don't want to fall into the catergory of "just-friends" and i have asked her before she went back home that in the New Year whether she'd be interested in doing something together she replied "Yeah! can do"... is this good? i havent had hardly any experience in dating and just vary wary of what means are whether their good or bad. Just unsure on where i stand and what to do next when it comes to being back at Uni and what to do for a "little date" because i don't want to push her into anything or scare her. I mean i'd rather us spend time together and just see how things get on, whether they do or not. Any advice, suggestions or information would be appricated. - whitefang
  8. Thanks for the advice, i do want to ask her out and plan to do its just every time i contimplate doing it i somehow talk myself out of it but if i keep doing this im not going to get anywhere. So i guess im gonna have to pluck up my courage and what ever else i can muster... just wished i had a lil more confidence, but yet again something that probably comes with experience.
  9. Well for the past month or so, possibily a little longer my feelings for a girl who is on the same course as me. We occasionally get a little time to talk but its quite hard, i know it shouldn't be if were on the same course but for some reason it is. I have been trying to get to know her more, talking about what she likes, her family etc and showing her that im interested. She does the same which im assuming is a good sign that she may be interested, but then again with very little experience of dating and flirting its difficult for me to tell. For the last few weeks, i have gradually tried making myself more present around her but not too much as i don't want to make her feel uncomfortable. I am thinking about asking her to do something together but it would be done after Christmas (it would just be easier). Or do you think should ask her to do something before then because we've only got like 2 weeks left before we break up for Christmas Holidays but its also a little difficult with my part-time job. Im just unsure what to do and how to approach her, i really like her and i have the inclination that she does too but i just feel that were just too shy to do anything, so it looks like im going to have to make the first move, being the guy. What sort of signals does a girl give to let you know that she's interested, i have on occasions noticed her taking small looks at me, which i can see through the corner of my eye which im guessing is good, i could just do with a little more, or is it mostly dependant on the person? Another issue is that she lives about 5 hours away from me i know that it doesn't sound much but it is... i don't know how it would work with a Long-Distance Relationship but im willing to give it ago. I really like this and im just lost on what to do next and where to go, if anyone has some good advice they could spare and share... i'd be greatful. - whitefang
  10. Thanks for the advice, im gonna push for my degree even though im not sure i'd be able to manage it i think its the honors project that's kinda off putting to me and the fact that i have to do it in front of people but i suppose if i have too and if i fail i can still collect an Ordinary Degree without honors, but it's better with. If i don't get to top-up my degree then i have decided to become a college instructor / tutor, i've already applied to do some basic teacher's training whilst im doing my Foundation Degree, either way im not going too loose as i've made preparations for failer, but it's highly unlikely if i put my mind too it. In case your wondering what im studying it's Animal Management i have a deep interest in Animal Behaviour especially primates and how much they resemble ourselves , so i would really enjoy teaching. Thanks for the advice everyone, getting a little worried because i would be applying in in the newt few months for next year if it's available (gonna have to persuade my course director for it).
  11. Thanks for the advice , I have a few ideas of what i want to do with my life, but it's the indecisiveness and sometimes over-analyization of stupid issues that cause me the most problems. I did quite well, better than what i thought i would have on my first year in doing the Foundation Degree. I would very much like to do the Honors Degree, i've found out that since it's a top-up degree that i can have my tutition payed for me via the students loan company which is a bonus provided they do the course at my University because at the moment it isnt available but i suppose if i push for it. Otherwise i would have to move away and i don't have the money along with that my parents don't want me to take out a loan or anything which also causes problems. It's quite stressfull really and confusing at times, im starting back in just over a month, i think im going to have a serious talk with my course tutor about what i want to do and how im feeling.
  12. I will be starting my second year on my Foundation Degree (Associates Degree for those in the US) afterwards im undecided what to do, whether to find employement or to apply to top-up my qualification to gain an Honors Degree. If i did i would be the first on my side of the family to get a degree which would be nice. Furthering myself is something i very much would like to do by doing the Honors Degree but im just not confident in my own abilities. One of the best aspects of the Foundation Degree is that it encorporates both acedemical and practical aspects which is great because i enjoy both but i just sometimes don't feel so brainy that i'd be able to do / manage the Honors Degree. Not sure if anyone else feels like this and on top of that i have some problems with being indecisive over important things especially things like this. Can anyone offer some advice, anything would be appricated. - whitefang
  13. It's pretty normal to fear of rejection, your only human. I agree with the other members about suggesting to do something in a group setting, it will keep things happy and interesting and it will give you a chance to get to know him whilst not letting on too much by talking with others within the group. As Ta_ree_saw said that he might seek you out for a chat and things might progress nicely between you
  14. I believe that men and women can be just friends, depending on the relationship they have with each other. Believe it or not the majority of my friends are girls lol but it's due to the course im currently doing at University (well that's what i put it down too) and i have very little male friends because they've moved away. I just find it alot more interesting talking with girls than guys, im not a football nut... maybe that's why? but i just can't relate to other guys which i've have found too be strange.
  15. Hi, Knowing that this has happened before has set you off on this depression and the over anylising again and unless you figure out this problem it's pretty much going too rule your relationship. Have you thought about talking with him about this? Being open and honest with each other is a key part of being in a relationship (honesty and effective communication), is there something that you feel is lacking in your relationship? Im just throwing some stuff up to try and get more information and a litte more understanding, if you wish you can reply through sending me a personal message (pm) if there are certain things you don't want too mention etc.
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